We can’t deny that violence is in us, it’s a part of us as well as kindness is part of us. All polarities are represented in our being, but the choice is still ours to make.
We all are capable of killing or just hurting other being. Only the conjuncture can pull out that unfortunate potential response in us.
Awareness is a must, time is crucial in these cases. More you give time before automatically answering to a situation, fewer chances of becoming violent there are. Breath rarely and deeply many times before making the decision to strike. Remember that violence is the attribute of lower(animal like) beings, who are unable to recognize the destructive force of such bad decision.
Going against the animalistic nature, deciding to create peace in a belligerent situation, will give the person an impetus for further evolution. Is Sometimes instant and the potential enemy transforms into a friend, in the same time getting to learn a lesson of peace prevailing. Sometimes the result appears later on.
Now we also have to be aware that violence is a pattern in our behaviour so deeply rooted that it takes a lot of time and Grace to be able to overcome it, so no need to feel guilt if you are not managing to stop yourself from becoming violent first time, actually it took me thousands of times to become less violent, and the impulse is always there, trying to take over, because like I previously said already we have good and bad inside us, and they’ve always been there. Accept that you have both currents inside, but how we act is always a matter of personal choice.
So don’t be harsh with yourself if you don’t manage to do it at once, especially if you were habitual to get violent. But no matter what, you can choose to step away from the old patterns which are “helping” you to sabotage your own life.
Another trap is that when we manage to transcend the animal inside, we may start having bad experiences, because the low vibration egregor is not allowing us to leave easily, so we may face all kinds of problems, because the “old demons” we let go, want to come back to you and continue “helping” you to self destroy. Patience is the key, but what is for sure, it won’t last forever and you will be picking the fruits of your evolutionary steps that you’ve made.
I am writing this from my own experience and I once again emphasize that it’s definitely not an easy path. It’s the path of the courageous, persevering and patient people.
Throughout the time, if we manage to override the violent response, our life is going to improve, we will lose unnecessary people from our life and better quality people will show up instead. And this goes similarly with whatever unnecessary, bad habits or behaviour we had acquired, but we get rid of.
Like in school, when we think that we achieved something, learned something, or we got rid of unnecessary traits, Life is going to test us, to show if we indeed have learned the lesson, or we are just assuming that wrongly. And the prize for removing of unnecessary traits or behaviour will be different for everyone: for some will be bliss, for other will be getting a better life partner, a new job, financial gain, appreciation and so on, but beware because the prizes may create a new trap of their own!