Be true to yourself

If we are true to ourselves we automatically become true to the world. Because whatever external people, things or events exist out there, it is our mind creating that, and whatever is inside gets manifested outside in the form of people, things and events. The more resolved our past traumas and events are the smoother the external world will flow. 

When we decide to be honest with ourselves, we would not be able to entertain some external person or thing that is not resonating with us anymore, but we will cut through the bullshit like a sharp knife, and not because we’re rude or lacking empathy or diplomacy, but we realize that we are supposed to be ourselves and stand by the truth that is within us. By wasting time with people that are not on the same frequency we exhaust ourselves and we are neither helping them and much less ourselves. We are depriving them of the lesson of proper boundaries and we are exhausting unnecessary energy. 

The same goes for partnerships, friends, family and acquaintances or strangers. Why would you entertain someone if you don’t want to? Why to continue talking or meeting someone that drains you? Isn’t it that you are just tricking yourself that you are being a good friend, person, lover, neighbor .. Or whatever “good” you project on yourself to be? 

Lack of proper action sometimes is the same thing as harming self and others. Lack of determination in implementing what’s best for us is not at all “being kind and/or compassionate with the other”, but the other way around, because not establishing proper boundaries also deprives the other side of having the proper experience to also wake up and work with themselves. 

But let’s forget about the others. Let’s say that we want someone, we need a partner, a lover. At first we have all these ideas of I want him/her to be like this and like that and I definitely don’t want him/her to have this or that features. But as time goes by our neediness grows, so directly proportionally our standards lower and we are ready to accept things that in the beginning we were 100% sure we didn’t want to have. 

Eventually the hormones might push us into lower and lower vibration and we might be ready to accept many red flags just for the sake of satisfying the lower mind and body needs. It’s an experience that might transform into a trap. It may be good if it happened, you had it and let it go. The problem appears when we enter relationships with the wrong or let’s say inappropriate reason. Why? Because sexual intimacy or (just) external superficial attraction shouldn’t be the reason for us getting into a relationship, it means that the whole foundation is rotten. It means that our home’s foundation is made of clay and with time the sturdiness of the foundation will be tested and indubitably that construct will collapse under the heavy weight of vibrational, spiritual and mental mismatch. 

The more we stay in this types of relationships the more we will suffer, because through numbing our intuition and denial of the obvious, attachments are created, unhealthy projections and hopes are coming to existence and it will make the break-up more painful. On the other hand whatever is true and supposed to be there will unfold in a natural, beautiful way although relationships where there’s only peace love and harmony might be an utopic idea in this era.

When we are honest with ourselves, we are honest with the world and although we will lose a huge amount of (unnecessary) people, rest assured that we are heading towards knowing how our life is supposed to be, not what we were projecting onto it. 

On the other hand we shouldn’t project too many qualities or what the future partner should have or not, rather learn to flow with life, to listen to your Being, your heart and intuition, learn to see everything from the inner contentment feeling in which you are complete and devoid of “needs” or “wants”, and whatever is supposed to be yours will appear on its own. Appearance of its own doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t do anything towards that goal (of having someone) if that’s how we feel. Choose wisely by cutting through the past distortions and tendencies that threw you over and over again into similar distorted relationships and you will step out of the lower flow. Observe life through that inner contentment and you will be able to accept being alone or with someone as being equally acceptable. 

There’s a saying that the one that’s the most patient will reap the ripest fruit. If you are experiencing a period of being alone, enjoy it. Take it as an opportunity to work your crap out, take it as a period of time for reflection and contemplation. Whatever is there it’s the best thing that can happen to you. Especially when you are honest with yourself. The more honest you are, the more free you will become. The more you love yourself, the more you will love everything and everyone in a very unconditional way. But don’t confuse the unconditional love towards the world and the existence, with the new-agey nonsense that you have to be good, do good and everything is pink clouds and unicorns. That’s again dishonesty to self. Find out who you are and own it! Embrace it with good and bad features, with qualities and shortcomings, because that is how you came to experience life.

There’s no malicious act if you’re acting, talking and being from that inner peace, the inner contentment that’s the essence of our Being. Therefore if you are more and more aligned with that Being that lies hidden inside of whatever living being at any point of time, then you can never go wrong,.. Whatever you might be saying or doing will be in perfect alignment with the Life itself regardless of how external people might perceive it. Life will then flow through your Being and through you people will get their own lessons without any effort or without you even noticing or wanting it. 

Be true to yourself and automatically you will be true to the external existence, hence there’s no need to further analyze your actions and speech.. Trust and love yourself and your life will become a synchronistic course of events.. Flow with life and know that you are being taken care of. 

You are being taken care of

 Like the fetus is taken care of in the womb of the mother, as such we are continuously nourished and taken care of by Life (by the Almighty/Absolute/Brahman). In reality we are never missing anything, everything is provided. But the mind is the one that chooses separation, chooses ephemeral pursuits that are just transforming us into silly ant-like beings anxious and ever-working to see their silly desires fulfilled. 

 This state is due to allowing the mind to rule us, to advise, to fantasize. Let it rest. Hold yourself still!, not wanting, neither doing anything. The agents of the mind are the 5 senses. Mind itself is the agent of the illusion. Desires are born out of thoughts. Actions are born out of desires. The result is ignorance and uselessness and eventually death and rebirth into a perpetual game that happens only inside our minds. 

Many scriptures warn people of the danger of pursuing anything in this realm. It’s all just fantasy. More so, it throws one in the whirlpool of the very duality. And since we crave, the “good” seems like vanishing in moments, whereas the “bad” looks like being eternal. It’s all just an illusion, self-created by allowing the senses at first to fix onto a being, an object, an idea…and then to many. Then the thought of “I should have that”; it all cascades into the willpower and action taking over and bringing something from the dream state (the idea/thought) to fruition into the material world. But the struggle, the pain that comes with that object of our desires is not worth. Even when we achieve that goal, that will not last long. Without realizing that everything is the same, we create another want, another goal in our eternal struggle to satisfy the senses. It’s a Sisyphus job, an eternal struggle that will have inevitably and indubitably the same result: pain and misery. A night of enjoying the love of the partner seems like a very minute fraction of a lifetime, while being apart for the same amount of time seems painful and long as the eternity itself. In the amazing scripture of Yoga Vasistha is written that this is how the world was constructed, so wise people can realize the futility of chasing the objects of their desires which in reality are not theirs since the true Self is just Being, forever observing and non-interfering, devoid of any joy or grief or any other similar example of dual experiences. 

How about starting to count your blessings? Realize that you are taken care of, regardless of what you believe you might be missing at the moment. Everything is perfect. When we stop controlling life becomes a flow of events that are following a Divine mandate. All will be synchronized and brought to fruition as it was pre-planned. Our arrogance in believing that we know better what is good for us and pursuing this path is the path of self-destruction. 

Look at a delicious piece of cake. So tasty, so sweet and yet how long can you enjoy it? 5-10 minutes? Then it adds to the struggle that your body is experiencing trying to keep you healthy, trying to fight the acidity, to keep you functioning. It affects the mind, the senses also it affects us on a very vibration level. After eating sweets there are so many unfortunate outcomes that we are unaware of, our mind and body become restless, our natural morale is dropping, unhealthy libido is gaining momentum and we dive into a lower level of being… Moments of ephemeral pleasure are transformed into lives of misery and pain. Is it worthwhile? It all can be extrapolated to all our cravings and desires. We sometimes cheat, lie, steal or do all sorts of things in order to achieve these ephemeral pleasures or things, and we are unawares that the price is too much to be worthwhile, and all this happens to keep us in bondage. 

We run away from pains and we run towards “happiness”; it’s our little program running us from behind the scenes. Pain and pleasure, one more illusory than the other. When there’s no “want” everything is provided, everything is taken care of,we finally abide in our natural state of contentment. When you don’t want anything anymore, you stop the fantasy, the body is resting, healing and rejuvenating even whilst working or performing any activity. 

This world is perfect for creating addictive personalities. We are all addicted to multiple things, feelings and we are full of desires. Try to slowly empty your existence of desires and the true knowledge will unfold within. Separation is an illusion. Unity is there at all times, yet whilst in the midst of the torment of thoughts and desires, the Unity is just a mere, abstract and fictitious concept. When we are emptying ourselves of “wants” and “needs”, life will give whatever is rightfully ours and we were unconsciously blocking by assuming that we know what we want, what is good for us.