Let life happen to you

Let whatever is yours come your way unobstructed, and let whatever is not yours to have, leave you without opposition.

When we want to control life, to direct its flow towards a certain outcome the result is pain. Even if we achieve that goal that made us invest so much time, energy and effort into it, eventually we realize that maybe it wasn’t really worth the struggle. Moreover the fulfillment of one desire automatically brings more desires and this loop never stops. Not even death puts an end to it since the mind will take its desires to the next experience (birth) so this is the very reason for us playing this game of birth and death. 

As soon as you stop wanting things you have reached the ultimate happiness, the eternal bliss. That can come from the realization of “I had enough of everything” – Enough is enough! – and you decide to watch and rest, instead of manipulating, controlling and struggling. Or it comes from the realization of who you truly are, the Ultimate existence that has already everything and is already anything.

Every single moment of our lives carries a teaching, in each moment we have a choice. It’s like life tests us continuously bringing up similar struggles or dramas with those in the past, and we are facing them to see if lessons have been learnt. We are unaware of us being vengeful and feeling entitled and excusing atrocious behavior of ourselves under the pretext of righteousness. There’s no excuse for doing harm, for violence, when it comes from the rottenness of the ego.

The motive always matters. If a family living in the woods hunts every week a deer for the family to be fed, nature endures. But when people go hunting for the thrill of killing, it means that they are killing animals for their own pleasure and for that pleasure nature is going to punish one way or another. We are so unaware of the consequences of all our actions, everything produces an impact, everything is accounted for, therefore if we let life happen to us, but the steerer is the ego, then we’re down that same drain, in the same loop that kept us busy tens and hundreds of lifetimes.

When we let life happen to us, we are allowing what’s for us to come and find us, regardless that it can be catalogued as “good” or “bad”. In my understanding we are supposed to have a certain amount of experiences, a certain amount of pain, joy and whatever. When we run away from the experience, when we run away from pain, solitude and whatever disturbs us, we are just postponing it and prolonging the agony.

Let’s say we are meant to experience pain, 8 on a scale from 0 to 10. In a traumatic situation pain is building and grows on that scale, 1, 2, 3.. 7. When we run away from it before reaching that tipping point we postpone the whole process once again. So we will need to face a different traumatic event, again building the pain 1,2,3..7 but if unless the destined degree has been reached, there will be no resolution. Therefore, we should try to embrace whatever comes. Whatever comes is definitely ours to have.

The good news is that life is very just and balanced. There is never only a downward spiral of unhappy events from bad to worse. Even if we have a heavy karma to pay, we are going to be given moments of joy, of rest. Life is always fair, always correct. If we are aware that the huge pile of crap we’re carrying is ours to handle and carry until we transmute it into pure spiritual gold, then there’s no external actor or unfortunate event neither accident to blame for whatever we experience. In that moment of realization you drop all blame for yourself or others, you will definitely smile, understanding that everything is perfect, everything is always right!

Do what is for you to do, and forget about outcomes since we are not the ones in control of the outcomes. Do your best and forget the rest! If you are alone and you are fine with it but life brings someone in your life, if it clicks, it’s yours to have: be it a happy or painful experience, it’s definitely what you need to have! When we are flowing with and through life, everything comes naturally, everything is meant to be. When we think we know better we might bring unnecessary, delaying events and elements into our lives. So there has to be an element of surrender always present in our lives, even if we are caught unawares, the moment we surrender and let go, the grip of despair is loosening.

Surrender control, embrace everything, stop seeing things from the “I”, “me” and “mine” perspective. These are the veils that keep us ignorant: limiting ourselves to the bodily frame and limited mind and ego and separation perspective.

Let life happen to you and enjoy the ride, as all the rides sometimes are smooth, sometimes bumpy. It is all you’ve chosen for you to experience, so trust your higher Self! If it happens it means you are ready to have that (whatever might be), see the learning lesson within, the pain that surrounds that bitter event is just a veil to make it harder to accept, but each such event is a blessing in disguise, a bitter candy that has a sweet, creamy core as a reward for the patient, courageous and resilient who beared the bitterness.

Why we have to abandon violence? Part II

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We can’t deny that violence is in us, it’s a part of us as well as kindness is part of us. All polarities are represented in our being, but the choice is still ours to make.
We all are capable of killing or just hurting other being. Only the conjuncture can pull out that unfortunate potential response in us.
Awareness is a must, time is crucial in these cases. More you give time before automatically answering to a situation, fewer chances of becoming violent there are. Breath rarely and deeply many times before making the decision to strike. Remember that violence is the attribute of lower(animal like) beings, who are unable to recognize the destructive force of such bad decision.
Going against the animalistic nature, deciding to create peace in a belligerent situation, will give the person an impetus for further evolution. Is Sometimes instant and the potential enemy transforms into a friend, in the same time getting to learn a lesson of peace prevailing. Sometimes the result appears later on.
Now we also have to be aware that violence is a pattern in our behaviour so deeply rooted that it takes a lot of time and Grace to be able to overcome it, so no need to feel guilt if you are not managing to stop yourself from becoming violent first time, actually it took me thousands of times to become less violent, and the impulse is always there, trying to take over, because like I previously said already we have good and bad inside us, and they’ve always been there. Accept that you have both currents inside, but how we act is always a matter of personal choice.
So don’t be harsh with yourself if you don’t manage to do it at once, especially if you were habitual to get violent. But no matter what, you can choose to step away from the old patterns which are “helping” you to sabotage your own life.
Another trap is that when we manage to transcend the animal inside, we may start having bad experiences, because the low vibration egregor is not allowing us to leave easily, so we may face all kinds of problems, because the “old demons” we let go, want to come back to you and continue “helping” you to self destroy. Patience is the key, but what is for sure, it won’t last forever and you will be picking the fruits of your evolutionary steps that you’ve made.
I am writing this from my own experience and I once again emphasize that it’s definitely not an easy path. It’s the path of the courageous, persevering and patient people.
Throughout the time, if we manage to override the violent response, our life is going to improve, we will lose unnecessary people from our life and better quality people will show up instead. And this goes similarly with whatever unnecessary, bad habits or behaviour we had acquired, but we get rid of.
Like in school, when we think that we achieved something, learned something, or we got rid of unnecessary traits, Life is going to test us, to show if we indeed have learned the lesson, or we are just assuming that wrongly. And the prize for removing of unnecessary traits or behaviour will be different for everyone: for some will be bliss, for other will be getting a better life partner, a new job, financial gain, appreciation and so on, but beware because the prizes may create a new trap of their own!

Why we have to abandon violence? Part I

The essence of the evolution of the individual is taking full responsibility about everything that is happening in our lives.

It doesn’t matter who provokes us, who triggers us, what they say or do. The only thing that matters for us from the evolutionary point of view is our reaction to the “trigger”. We are responsible for own actions and reactions regardless of who did what to us, or who said whatever. We can of course try to find excuses and explanations for violent reactions or other lower vibrational endeavours. What we have to know is that there is no valid excuse for being aggressive. Aggression creates aggression. Brutality is not to be excused.

Violence comes from fear. Although it may sound not real, but indeed violence is a reaction to fear. Fear of losing someone, of being misinterpreted, fear of loosing status, fear of death, fear of getting hurt, … For some it may start making sense. But in order to make sense, courage to accept that we may not be perfect, knowing that we’re most of the time behaving ,inappropriate has to be there.

When one automatically goes with the violent instinct, the situation most of the time degenerates and it may spiral negatively with very bad repercussions following.

Let’s say someone calls us idiots, and we decide to punish them for saying that, and we hit that person. No good thing can come out of that choice of you to become violent. Let’s take some potential consequences: person falls and dies- jail for the aggressor. Person falls and hurt themselves badly… Jail and/or vengeance from the victim who decides to strike back; the person hits us so hard that we die; a fight is born and both get really damaged and the enmity will be for ever, each time they’ll see each other will try to hurt one another; there a multitude of other similar scenarios and none of them is positive. Even let’s just say that you hurt him, and everything goes cold, he forgets, you forget and life continues like nothing happened, still the bad deed will be creating bad situations in your life because somewhere deep inside our being we judged ourselves for doing that.

But all the above situations can be avoided by knowing that you are not an idiot (or whatever the other person calles us) , but deciding to allow the aggressor to have their opinion. Anyway, You can bless(say something peaceful) him, you can just turn around and go, or you can say thank you, … Each of these choices will astonish the aggressor who subconsciously or not consciously was trying to provoke you but it will defuse the potential dangerous situation spirals up. So we always have a choice to avoid any problems, or to go with the old instinct of violence, which is pulling one down, lower and lower because one low vibration actions attracting more and more bad decisions and actions. The aware person can always change the way they are acting consciously.

Is world going to end? Part II

When we believe that world is going to be ending soon, we’re adding on top of the fear that we’re already fed with, since early childhood. It is not going to kill us but it’s going to be another promoter for bad decisions in our lives, because there are no worse decisions than those taken in the midst of emotional turmoil and when the fear is at its peak.

I have been there. I believed that the world was living its last days and all kind of mistakes but I learned out of it. I learned not to worry anymore about any potential incoming cataclysmic event.
For some people cataclysmic events happen every single day. They die, so for them the end of the world already happened. People die in such ways that at the end of the day you realize that it really doesn’t matter anymore how one dies. The funny thing is I was close to die while working in an office as an IT assistant. A desktop computer with two sources and 2 graphic cards, weighing close to 10 kilos fell straight with one of the corners on my head from 1,5-2 meters height. Who would have thought that there is such a hazard while having an IT job, right? It seems that my time wasn’t yet due. So be sure that when the time is right death is but inevitable. Be ready at any point to surrender to it. Live like there’s no tomorrow, from the point of view of making peace with everyone and everything and taking each extra day as a blessing, an extension in which you have to cherish the life and count your blessings.

Embrace death consciously and you will evolve, because one of the biggest fears is the fear of death.

Don’t be afraid, sit back and enjoy death if it’s your turn. Because death is the ultimate experience which helps one evolve. The way we receive this last experience already shape the future life.

Ancient civilizations were preparing for death their entire life. Egyptians for instance no matter if they were poor, middle class or royalty, all were preparing themselves for the departure since their early life.
Thracians, my ancestors, were crying when someone was born in their family and they were partying when one was dying. Because they knew the essence of this life and what’s all about.
The Spartans won battles where they were outnumbered at least 10:1 because they weren’t at all afraid of dying.

Once we realize that we’re not the body(only) and we are immortal souls, the whole self improvement will make sense. Just by being ignorant about our soul immortality and divine essence, makes us live in fear and allows us to behave in a selfish, not caring way for the other, because we are not aware that we are cells of the same body and we are One and it’s silly to hurt ourselves (by hurting others).

Although we seem to understand the last parable about being all cells of the same body, the real depth of it however, is very rarely grasped since it takes a free human being, to fully realize that inside their core.