Love and friendship

True selfless and sincere friendship nowadays is almost utopic. But in order to find such an utopia, first become that utopia yourself. Offer all those qualities which are found in the perfect friend. Be gentle, generous, kind, forgiving, understanding, soothing and nourishing your friends as you would do it for yourself. Do it selflessly and those who don’t qualify for being your friends will disappear by default or they’re going to show their true face, becoming entitled, arrogant, controlling and /or abusive. You will know what to do. The new “weapon” is free flowing of your true being, pure love and selflessness and whoever is not suitable with your flow you can remove by conscious decision or they will disappear themselves because of the energy mismatch.

True friends in this life will definitely not be many, and true friends are united by mutual respect  honesty and unconditional love. True friendship may be the best way to find our life partner. True friends are like-minded, they are complementing each other. As such if you find that person who is able to talk to you for hours and both feel pleasant and enjoy the talk, you should know that whenever physical beauty disappears, the mental, spiritual and emotional will be still there. So if you are falling in love with your best friend, if they are alone and the feeling is mutual, then you are one of very few very fortunate people in this dimension. Treasure and appreciate what you have found because it’s such a blessing from the Universe. 

But as a fire has to be taken care of and maintained by constant feeding it with combustible elements, similarly the true love and friendship has to be enforced by actions, emotions and words! 

Everyone knows nowadays to hurt others, to control or try to, to punish and to do low vibrational deeds, it’s so easy because the realm is mostly polarized towards the negative, but those who fight against the stream, against the “natural tendency” of the world, being humble and honest, loving and caring, understanding and forgiving,.. They’re going to reap the best of the fruits, rare fruits that are very scarcely appearing in the world, named true love and friendship. 

You don’t have it yet? It’s because you haven’t reached that vibration, because we attract what we are. If you attract fake people how does that make you? If you attract angry people, guess why? You got the point. In this world what you want to attract you have to become. You should become that without desire; you don’t decide I want to attract honest people, but you become honesty yourself and you will lose those who are no longer matching your vibration and you will open the gate for meeting people that are on the same page. 

Stop complaining, if you want love, be love yourself! But be aware because if you are throwing pearls before the swines that doesn’t make you loving, but stupid (and loving 😁). If you see that you are offering yourself honestly, free-flowing and people are becoming arrogant and cocky, trying to manipulate and take advantage of you, you block them from receiving your free flow. Otherwise you deserve them. 

Plant before you harvest! Be vulnerable and honest but not stupid! Observe people how do they use your honest approach and your free flow, if they are not freely flowing themselves, fracture will be created and a huge precipice is growing between you too. You can give extra chances if you feel like they might deserve it, but if you see that nothing changes, probably it’s time to say goodbye to them. 

Let go of control otherwise you will encounter control freaks like you. Let go of expectations otherwise how can you meet something extraordinary? Don’t rely on your senses because they’re limited and they can trick you! Rely on your heart, on your inner gut feeling. When you will be talking to a person who is free flowing, your heart will be rejoicing, you will feel home, no matter if you are talking about some important topics or not. 

True friends might be coming to teach us, to scold us, to fight us, especially when you are wrong, because they want you good, they are not afraid to lose you, they are always themselves. Fake friends are avoiding confrontation, they are just minding their agenda and see only their comfort and fun as their purpose in the friendship. 

My well wishes to all of you, and remember to become what you are looking for! 

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This is what I feel about true friendship in this world, but it is just my opinion so from other people’s perspective I might be mistaken. If you disagree please leave me a message. I would love to hear your idea about this topic.

The dual potential of the experience

Life in its essence is extremely simple and its guidelines easy to follow for an aware being. The problem is that nowadays we are mostly navigating adrift, without a clue in this ocean called life. Everything that happens to us has the potential to destroy us (to drag us deeper into the illusion) or to uplift us, meaning to give us the tools for our conscious awakening, towards realizing who we are and what’s the purpose for incarnating in this particular realm in this particular day and age, but more so: the pain that we are supposed to notice, accept and work with in order for it to become obsolete.

Everything that happens to us is definitely something that we have to experience, especially since it happened already. The first thing we can do to properly address the matter is to accept it no matter how hard it is to do so.

Acceptance itself it’s such a powerful tool that reduces a lot the negative impact of some unfortunate happenings.

When we accept something that happens, we exit already the low vibrational vortex of victimization, whining, guilt, shame and other unnecessary emotions and feelings. If we truly accept something there’s no reason anymore to roam in what happened, we automatically step into the present moment and instead of asking ourselves how would it have been if we would have act or said something differently, – which is useless because that moment is gone, and there’s absolutely no reason to waste your time and energy accusing self or other/-s, trying to project potential other approaches – we should rather accept what happened. So once you have accepted, the “problem” is already half solved.  

Working with own faults, distortions and programs is way easier when those flaws are brought to the surface by a certain life event or triggered by a person in your life. I remember that someone asked me: “Well but how do I work my crap out?” 

The first step is noticing the existence of the “crap”, secondly you accept the fact that it is there inside yourself and that it is affecting your life, your decisions and the outcome of your actions. The worst mistake that we’ve all been through throughout our lives is to blame external actors (aggressors) and situations. Take full responsibility, there’s no other way. The third part is working with it. Accepting the responsibility for that character flaw (like victimization, narcissism, controlling nature, aggression, lying…) and be ready to watch with awareness that particular flaw (for the moment) and decide to consciously stop its influence in your life. One way of working with it would be to notice when was the first time that we remember a similar pain to the one that we’re experiencing in the present circumstance even if the events might look different and unrelated. Then we should start asking, like kids, “Why do I have this pain? Because I feel hurt. Why do I feel hurt? Because I did that. Why have I done that?”… and so on until you manage to get to the root of the problem. Probably it’s useless to repeat that this will not work unless a full openness and truthfulness to self is employed. Most likely the root cause of the problem is some misinterpretation of a childhood occurrence, an over-exaggerated perspective over that early experience. Or it can be even some very serious abuse, violation, violence or even small – totally silly for our mind now- events where we felt ashamed, guilty, abused, raped, betrayed, alone, deserted, sinful and so on… One way of transcending it is to consciously go in to that same situation and look at the actual event happening in front of you, you being the victim (as a child – in that moment) and you being an adult, now, a spectator to the whole drama. Feel that pain fully in your body, accept it if still there, because it will not go unless you are experiencing it fully, getting it exhausted. See it in a very detached way, forgive yourself and whoever was the trigger or aggressor, know that we are supposed to take full responsibility for everything that happens in our lives, and know that nobody is truly a victim. Know that you are lighter now, having a better chance to evolve out of your misery because of that event taking place. Hug that broken, hurt child that is suffering in the replayed memory, cry together if necessary, but then explain the child that everything that we are experiencing is necessary for our further growth and beyond everything that we’ve learned, everything is definitely correct and always in alignment with the Divine construct laws to which our lives abide as everything else in the Existence.

So keep always in mind the dual potential of whatever happens in your life and remember that it’s only us and our reactions to it that truly determines the outcome of that (otherwise neutral life circumstance). We are the only ones self-sabotaging our own lives by choosing always the same path, the old path that we know, the automatic response of the autopilot, the victimized perspective. Letting go with ease is crucial, it’s the choice that defines who we are at the moment. Surrender and let go of everything, embrace challenges, be always ready for change, embrace things that you used to run from, like facing problems, pains, hard work and struggle or new experiences that you would have passed in the past otherwise. In order for you to pick different fruits from your garden you have to definitely plant different trees. Old trees will invariably give the fruits that you already know. Without a new approach, everything will continue as previously, so there’s no one to blame for your life circumstances but yourself, your choices and past deeds. But “blaming” (as a choice of wording) can be misleading, so you shouldn’t even blame yourself. Don’t blame anyone, but instead take responsibility for everything and remember that the secret is in your actions or the lack of them, in what you say or what you don’t say. Study your own being and the knowledge that is scattered in millions of books and individuals, will be unfolding from within yourself with ease. It was always there hidden under tons of unnecessary junk that you started sorting out. You were always That which is the essence of everything surrounding us. Good luck with sorting that huge pile out, I got some crap to work with myself 😁.

Just Be

According to my understanding, true spiritual practice is not about repeating mantras, doing something in a ritualistic way, neither prayers, neither listening to hypnosis or self-hypnosis videos or audios, no binaural beats, no alien neither unicorn nor angel will come to save you. It’s only about hard work with ourselves and our distortions, our past programs and “viruses” that created our personality (ego). It’s a work of undoing rather than doing, unlearning rather than learning. Spirituality is not about readings or predictions, no healing neither removal of karma or obstacles, it’s the embracing of all of these previously mentioned because they are the very propellers of your spiritual evolution, there’s no other way. While we are on the escape mode, the “doors” towards true Spirituality are closed. Only when we understand that whatever baggage we came with we’ll have to exhaust not get rid of it or run away from. Embrace all your challenges, dive deep into the pain and you may get a chance to find out who you truly are, otherwise it’s another wasted life.

Yes, it may be possible to forcefully heal and remove obstacles but we don’t know what is the real pricetag behind it all, plus eventually you will still have to face the same amount of pain and stress otherwise, so eventually we are just delaying the inevitable or even worse postponing it for a later life. Since these troubles are here now, have them now, because you are aware, because you already reached the moment of understanding the whole mechanism. Later on in another life, the situation may be different, with extra karma to face from previous life (this one), with less awareness and maybe tougher external factors.

Instead of laziness and procrastination, instead of being a couch potato with a remote in the hand or some game controller, now it is about noticing our deeply engraved patterns into our very being, working with them, adjusting whatever we see unnecessary and enhancing those necessary. There’s no time to waste now that you realized that you have (again) a chance to evolve, although paradoxically we have all the time, because we are the time ourselves, only we’re unaware of that. On the other hand time is part of the illusion, because in Reality there’s no such a notion. But so far we are subjected to time and we are to respect our time and use it wisely.

Practice awareness at all time, ask yourself what would the old (unaware) self do or say in the actual situation and then ask yourself what can you do or say to improve the old-self contribution and step to a whole new level, creating( better said discovering) a new Self which is acting and talking from the Being rather than being on autopilot(ego + distortions). Notice patterns of victimization (when you feel that life is unfair, people are hurting you…), notice the desire to push people away from you, notice patterns of self-sabotage and act differently. Let people be who they are, the only thing you can do is to watch your own actions and reactions to people or various other stimuli.

Stop believing that everything is about you, stop seeing life in such an obtuse way. Learn to accept that although you are important especially for yourself, life is not spinning around you, you’re definitely not the bellybutton of the Universe. So stop taking things personally even when all the hints and reasoning are pointing toward that idea. If you start realizing that life is a series of things that are supposed to be experienced regardless of your interpretation of them, you might realize that life is neutral and always fair. If you are convinced that life is always fair with us, you will never suffer, you won’t feel like a victim anymore, you will feel like being a part of an amazing movie and you are fully in it with awareness, accepting all the twists and dramatic turns it may have, and receiving everything with an eternal smile in the corner of your mouth.

If we manage to see life as a very correct series of events, due to karma (good and bad) then we are becoming content because no matter what we’re experiencing, we are exhausting our karma be it good or bad and we are slowly removing veil after veil and layer after layer until we are going to find ourselves free, as we always have been devoid of roles, names or attributes, just Ourselves.

If whilst in the middle of drama you remember that you are exhausting past karma, are you still going to feel as bad as you used to feel? If you are sure that everything that happens is correct, can you blame people and stories, when you become aware that they’re just a Divine arrangement for you to exhaust your past mistakes? And know that we are never going to be experiencing more pain than we can handle or more pain than we offered from our end, so hang in there and try not to create some more entanglement (karma) in the process. Forget and forgive self and others. Finally you have a greater chance of success this life just for getting to read this, which for sure is nothing new, you feel it clicking inside and you might have had that “aha” moment. Enjoy the good moments because you earned them and try to enjoy or at least accept those “bad” ones.. Everything is for the best.

We are beings of light, voluntarily immersed in dirt and because of the immersion we identify ourselves with the dirt, yet we are light, tiny particles of light separated from the Primordial Light itself, ignorant of being That so we identify with the physical which is just a temporary experience. Is a piece of golden jewelry less gold just because it felt in the toilet? No! It can be washed and put back to its former beauty. Same with us, we are not our bodies neither our actions. Forgive yourself for whatever you have done previously and know that you did it because of ignorance, step out of your dirt(victimization, guilt, shame and other low vibrational programs), wash yourself from the dirt you have been living in (remove distortions and things less true that you have installed there as ultimate truths), and be born anew, know that there’s no limit to what you can become in this reality. Yes, cleaning yourself up is hard, painful and it requires huge amounts of courage, determination and Grace, but worry not, Grace is definitely with you since you are exposed to this information. And know that out of this experience you are already perfect, already part of That which is Everything and Nothing. Love yourself and everyone else since we are all just particles of the same fabric of the very Universe itself!

Is life an illusion?

We are mice in hamster wheels, and each time we breakthrough some limitations and we think we are free, we just go in a wider, bigger, more elaborated wheel in which we are running again in circles, in eternal loops of Maya. And even if we transcend and evolve out of the bigger wheel, I suspect that the number of wheels (illusions in The illusion, dream in the dream) could be infinite. That’s why I believe that without Grace, without someone who already walked the path towards freedom and reached a more advanced level than the one we’re in, it’s close to impossible. The Illusion is very hard to transcend since is the very inventivity of the Absolute which is playing through us a big Cosmic game of hide-and-seek. So I believe that if we try hard enough, if we are dedicated to transcending all the levels of the illusion with sturdiness and patience, Grace is definitely there with us, breaking doors that are over our power at the moment and throwing onto our path people and information that are crucial for our growth out of the self created prison.

The uselessness of lamenting or whining is obvious since there’s no benefit in doing it; whatever is done is done, accept, surrender and let go. As I am continuously emphasizing it, this is the path of the courageous, the humble and the the patient. There is no other way. People dream about doing it fast, taking some weekend course which will propel them to the “5th dimension” or who knows what, yet true Spirituality is gained through hard work, pain, courage and close-to-craziness sturdiness on the path. We will definitely fall thousands and hundreds of thousands times but each time we dust our clothes and start it all over again, even if we are stumbling on the same rock times and times again. Forgive yourself and everyone else and push your limits. Push your self-imposed boundaries onto yourself. There’s nothing really impossible yet if we believe in the impossibility of something, then we create that impossibility and we enforce it (unknowingly) with the power of our consciousness. 

We all come here with a certain amount of karma to exhaust, therefore accept all the hardships and all the failures, all the people that “help” you stumble with a smile on your face and know that you are one step closer to becoming purer each time you suffer, because you are paying the debts and hence clearing up your path for your further development. 

Do whatever you do with 100%+ effort but without expecting a certain outcome, because no matter what the result is, you’re winning: if you are getting the desired result – is the desired outcome, and if not then you’re paying your past karma so either way you should be happy. 

There is a fate for each and every one of us, even the gods are having a destiny, yet the Universe, the Illusion, gods and the Highest Power are moved by the effort that one exerts to grow out of fatality and they are bowing down to such power of determination and they might interfere to change the implacable. So there is a destiny, but with assiduous work we can change it (if initially it disfavors us). But if there was good destiny for some lazy person, that good potential is wasted and doesn’t come to fruition because of the laziness and inactivity. So to summarize don’t be a fatalist because you are going to be picking only the wrong results. Trust life fully and know that whatever you are going through it’s nothing but the best outcome for you and your spiritual evolution.