Going to the past, a real minefield
I noticed that people tend to go to the past and pick up some disturbing behavior or thing said by the other, but they are not aware that they are summoning back the same demons that left them once they decided to “sign” a truce or peace, be it in the family or extrapolated to whichever cell of the society.
Then the potential is to not only destroy the new agreements but also to create a bigger rift between the two factions. It is also about ego, that little self which pushes us to defend ourselves and use whatever past information to hurt and show righteousness (which is sign of ignorance). Who could have known that the past information is “infected” with past feelings and emotions which maybe were imposed by ill wishing people, or by own demons lurking inside? I realize that there’s no need to bring up the past even if it is a recent past, cause it will only create more havoc then it was already. We can bring up the past to work with it, internally to take the right realization out of it and go further, but never to remind to someone else with the purpose of putting them down. Otherwise let bygones be bygones.
Either you take what I stated ad-litteram or you take it as a metaphor, doesn’t really matter since the truth is not limited to a certain detail or peculiarity, the core of the real truth can be applied to everything and it is planting a seed which will sprout on its own, at the right time, the result being very unique and specific to each individual.
So don’t bother too much or stumble in some way of expressing or an idea in which you disagree. Take what is good, and you feel that resonates with you, and forget about the rest. Like I said, although the truth is one, it has very many layers and facets so it is so easy to misinterpret it because of its simplicity and apparent otherworldlyness, and in the same time it is messing up with our old system of values. So it takes a lot of courage to even accept that it sounds, if not correct (yet), but familiar. From the “normal” standing point, also a bit of craziness is needed, because there has to be “exaggerated” flexibility to withstand the over the board tests (that life will bring) that upgrade to the next level our braking point, after starting on this path. I call it the rebound capacity, which many times may look cuckoo but which saves us from loosing the Path, risking to go even lower than we were previously. That’s why I will give you the advice that I gave to myself: Don’t roam too much in what happened already, draw each second a line and decide to go forward having the higher vision above little offenses or other things that bothered us. Let the ego just die itself, you have to bend down in the wind like a very elastic tropical plant, accepting everything as being correct and being connected to every moment of ‘now” fully, forgetting already the past second which carried a certain negative current or emotion. This is the survival kit. A kit containing huge doses of humbleness, courage, craziness, and most of all dedication to oneself. It will help you when you are about to lose it.
The power of letting go is one of the most important and upbringing force, it’s so simple yet so hard to apply because we always feel that we have to defend our hurt “little me” (ego) to protect ourselves, and it’s simply not part of our pattern of behavior. But it’s all illusion, anyways everyone thinks about you whatever they want to think regardless of what you would want them to think about you. Actually you can easily create a study: acting the best you can in front of 100 people, and checking anonymously their impression about you. It will never bring a 100% positive result no matter what we do. So may I ask why are we trying to please others in change for acceptance and “likes”? I am telling you, being who you are truly will bring same or better result than when trying to play the chameleon.
Be yourself in a non-violent way, without deliberately hurting people with your “freedom”, without playing “good guy/girl”, remember humbleness and flexibility and… Ah, I was about to forget,… A bit of Craziness 😁