We are scared when one exposes the way life functions and doesn’t promise anything, knowing the unpredictability of life, not knowing that maybe that’s our best chance to be on the path of truth and surrender to what life has for us.
We are mostly afraid to step out of the box, to make decisions that may throw us into life, we are lacking the courage to make steps that might take us onto the path of discovering ourselves and the truth about this “reality”. We are very “conservative”. We like to preserve old beliefs which look safer, which are keeping our understanding (the misconception?) of the world together. Because we know that if we choose to step out of the box, there’s a lot of responsibility, a lot of work with one self and not so many people nowadays are even ready to accept that things might be this way.
It’s so easy to go to the old self, the old patterns of behavior.. So easy because it’s something we know, something familiar. It’s the very Stockholm syndrome manifested in our lives, captive in the hands of self-imposed fear and the ego. It’s a decision to fall for laziness and “comfort” since the other choice implies disillusionment; waking up realizing that we know nothing; implies accepting things that we prefer to pretend that are inexistent. That doesn’t mean that stepping outside is only bad, or there’s no comfort. On the contrary, it may become smoother and better with time, because after the negative is failing to deviate us from the path of self-discovery, the positive current is taking over, one of the last trick of the illusion to keep us captive.
There’s always a risk on this path, the risk of returning to the old self. I still risk going back sometimes to that “safe zone” which is the forgetfulness of the soul. It is a constant struggle, a battle of our Higher Self and the old self, a battle in which the prize is either remembrance of who and what we are, or the sweet forgetfulness. It is exactly like in the first movie of Matrix when the traitor from Neo’s crew chose to betray his team and live in a fantasy world knowing that everything was experiencing was just fake, yet it was so appealing to him and the reality was so cruel so full of responsibility and work. Same with us, we are constantly exposed to the right information yet we are very afraid, we want to stay longer in the sweet and warm pool of oblivion, because we know that outside might be chilling, might be work that we have to do, might be that our entire system of values will be turned upside down and I get it, it’s a very hard perspective to face for those who are not ready.
I have been there. I delayed 20 years my “stepping out of the box” because I wanted to explore the illusion, to dive deep into it, and almost got consumed by it. Probably it wasn’t the time at that point so I don’t go back trying to blame myself that I should have started earlier, how I may be tempted to do.
I know your doubts and your fears because you are me. I had them. I still have some, yet much less than previously. I am still caught off-guard, but I blocked myself outside of the box, knowing that there was a risk of going back in moments of weakness. So I drew a line under which I am unable to go anymore, I can’t go under a certain level and I am very grateful for the Grace that is with me in form of dear friends and Beings in my life,and in the form of books and information that I come across, that enforces and reinforces the already existing decision.
People and things are coming and going with huge speed in our lives, once “out of the box”, we should realize the futility of clinging or hoping, controlling or pushing a certain agenda onto anyone… We have to respect their choices and wish them all the best.
Be the “out of the box” being and you will be one of the very few who are doing it. By doing this courageous move, you will inspire others, without preaching without teaching, just by automatically spreading this beautiful scent of freedom through your very existence.