This illusory life we’re living in is a constant emotional struggle. Stop struggling and you will be able to see the futility of reacting or fighting against it. It will be a straight parallel to Don Quijote’s fight against the wind mills.
Before working in the present moment, go to the past and recall one of the biggest issues that you experienced. See how it feels. Remember how it felt at the moment. Is it so unbearable as it felt in that moment? I doubt. But if yes, stay there with that feeling of pain, being hurt, betrayed, lied to, cheated, ashamed or guilty… Work with it, because the progress is for the courageous people. Evolution is hidden in the pain. Why would we want to evolve when we’re in a warm, cozy place? Pain is just the engine of transformation, be there with it, realize that there is nothing to be afraid anymore, realize that that moment in time created ripples that riches over and over to you and creates havoc in your life. Situations may look very different but the main emotion is same and it continues to milk you out of your vital force dragging you into the cave of sorrow and self-pity. You want to go there? Go. But there is no one to blame but your own insecurities and lack of courage that stops you from taking yourself out of the misery.
If there is no response or a very faint one when you go to the past trauma, just draw a parallel with all the stressful situations or mishaps that happen lately in your life. Do they look so bad when the moment is gone? No. Then the only task one has so far is to give whatever problem a short period of time, from 5 minutes to few days depending on the problem/issue, but by not reacting, that bad thing looses the power, if you don’t analyze nor fall into despair, you may realize shortly that it was just a bubble of soap. Nothing in the world is worth of exhausting our emotional energy. This energy is the same energy that keeps us alive in this illusionary world we’re living in.
Like a DSLR photo camera who is having a limited amount of clicks that is guaranteed, like a bulb which has a limited amount of on/off sequences, same, our body has a limited amount of emotional energy so far. You exhaust it, you’ll have to change the vehicle (next life’s body).
I struggled with my own demons a lot, trying to abstain myself from reacting to triggers. On a smaller scale I was successful, but when a big wave was coming, I was again caught off guard. Again back to square 1. But with the help of the Grace and some very special people in my life, I managed to raise again, dust my clothes and start climbing again like Sisyphus. But the difference between him and me is that I have a chance to make it through.
The secret to getting over whatever situation is realizing how short life is and that there may be no tomorrow.
This may be also misinterpreted by some, thinking that if there’s no tomorrow they can hurt people or decide not to do their chores, stop working or so. Well, I will have to disappoint you. Actually is doing everything you can to make sure that if you reach “tomorrow”, your job is amazingly done, nobody is hurt and so on, but reacting towards the issue as there is no tomorrow. Cause if there’s no tomorrow, if only the present day is what’s left, you will maybe concentrate on having a wonderful day with your family and friends,and you will want to let them know that you love them and you enjoy the beautiful time you have with them, and you will try to be at ease with everything and everyone. And no matter what problem you may encounter during this last day, nothing will really matter, isn’t it?
The constant projection into the future is killing us slowly, but there’s no doubt about that. Live in the present, since the past is gone and the future doesn’t exist. This is that “experience the moment of now” which everyone talks about. But do you dig it? Does it ring your bell? No? Maybe not yet, but this information which existed your whole life somewhere hidden inside you, will sprout out one day, of this life or one of the next. But what is in this moment of “now”? Is that firm, steady information deeply rooted in yourself that this life can be just a dream, a game, one of the many you already had, so all that matters is just the present moment! Yet we keep on stumbling over and over again, so we have to be born again and take it all over again. One life, you enjoy the richness and you get lost in it and you forget that there’s a higher meaning for you to find. The immediate next your Higher Self will want to be poor, because whatever you took extra, eventually has to be given back. The other life you enjoy being a political leader, a religious one, a killer, dictator, and the next life you may be a victim of one… Distraction for the soul. Until you will exhaust your thirst for power, this can take hundreds and thousands of lives. Same with the love for money. There’s no problem with the money, but they are only a way of sustaining a decent existence not a purpose “per se”. When they become a purpose, like an addiction, they destroy the addict like whatever addiction does in the end, no matter what addiction that can be, cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, TV, games, food, promiscuous sexuality… Yes, in the end there’s only one winner, the addiction. And here you go again, over and over on the same path, in a loop similar to the Sisyphus’s one. You may choose to stop now. Ask yourself if you want to become a better version of yourself and act upon this decision. Stop hurting people or this loop of unhappiness is going to haunt you throughout this and next lives. Forgive! Forgive yourself and everyone else. Love yourself and after you love yourself exactly how you are, without attire, titles, names, fancy clothes, diplomas, just who you truly are, and love for the humanity will come automatically coming from the realization of “We are all one”. Entitlement and righteousness is the main trap we are falling over and over again to, along with vengeance…They are all actions of a very low vibration. If we manage to transcend them, our life is going to take a turn which we are not even able to dream about.
May all of you have a chance to discover your Divinity within, and act wisely!