Are we aware in our personal life?

Can you love everyone just for existing exactly how you may love your own pet?
Do you love your favorite cat because is doing something or performing in a certain way or you just love her for who she truly is, regardless of the moments of destroying some objects furniture by scratching them, besides of the fact that it may scratch you or bite you? No matter how angry you are at a certain moment in time because of this happenings, eventually you will realize that it’s just an animal with its limitations, and you will forgive whatever like nothing happened.

If so why are you so rough with people, with your own partner, family members. Don’t they deserve at least the same treatment and maybe more? Why can’t you do that? Because you had certain expectations? Maybe it’s time to realize that it’s useless to have expectations if you are really dedicated to own evolution. Understanding the (lower) human nature, that everyone is impredictable, animal-like, unaware of others or self on a very deep level… The best solution to solve the problems and “dramas” is to accept whatever like you accept when the dog or the cat pooped on your favorite carpet. After all, everything is repairable, the carpet can be cleaned and washed or even replaced. What can it be so hard for us to accept others mistakes? Are we free of mistakes, or better to say, have we done it (the mishap) ourselves at any point in time? If so would you like to receive the same treatment that you are offering to the person that is at fault? If we take time before choosing to act in a certain manner, many of our problems wouldn’t exist.

If we are aware enough and honest with ourselves, we may able to recall moments when a big drama was created out of some really laughable(now) reason.

Some people divorced out of a so-called difference of opinion. It’s bullshit because if there’s love and full awareness in there, there can never be such a thing because people who love each other, compromise. And the funny thing is that they don’t even feel like compromising. But when love fades away the capacity of the person to compromise diminishes and the one who’s love diminished more will start putting pressure on the other, starting to “feel a foul smell” out of everything that the other is doing. If you are doing that can you really realize that you are a co-creator of your dramas? Are you able to be honest with yourself and realize that if you are stopping fueling the incipient “fire” (arguments, reproaches..), then the entire drama will disappear? If you are not able to stop yourself from adding fuel onto the fire by creating more pressure and discontentment, then why do you expect the other to do it?

I come back to one of my previous writings about nonviolence, whatever happens, if you manage to approach that in a non-violent way, you are the promoter of peace. If something goes wrong there are always multiple choices of reacting. The most common is: how dare you doing… Or… I thought you have more brain into your head not to do… Wtf is wrong with you… These are all ways of creating a monster scandal which many times degenerates in extreme violence or unfortunate events.
Another way of reaction can be: what’s done its done, let’s see how can we repair the problem, if there’s no way to undo it. You can choose to go with the “little self” which may push you to accuse, blame, shame the other, or you can choose to forgive, as you will forgive the dog that pooped under the kitchen table.

So the real question you should ask yourself is: Am I really the victim in here or I am the very aggressor? Many victims are first aggressors because they are unable to comprehend that they are co-creators of the whole thing. If you would calm yourself down and say intelligent things in a calm voice, trying to find solutions instead of blaming, there can be no drama whatsoever.

I read somewhere on the internet that: If the problem wouldn’t matter in 5 years from now on, then you shouldn’t give it more than 5 minutes of your time now.

Drama is addictive, you may unknowingly end up with wanting more, creating and/or feeding with your energy these conflicts, just because the love that was there, started to diminish or totally disappeared. No need to create anything. Realize that you have to either split with that partner, but not running away from life, or diving deep into the relationship, removing the desire to control, surrendering to life itself with the decision to make it work.

Your personal life behavior will always reflect onto your decisions in the society, so you may try to exercise your motherlike new way of approaching your family life and eventually you will be able to apply it into the macro scale as well.

I wish you all readers to reach out to your maximum potential during this lifetime!

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Live like there’s no tomorrow, Part II

there is no tomorrowThis illusory life we’re living in is a constant emotional struggle. Stop struggling and you will be able to see the futility of reacting or fighting against it. It will be a straight parallel to Don Quijote’s fight against the wind mills.
Before working in the present moment, go to the past and recall one of the biggest issues that you experienced. See how it feels. Remember how it felt at the moment. Is it so unbearable as it felt in that moment? I doubt. But if yes, stay there with that feeling of pain, being hurt, betrayed, lied to, cheated, ashamed or guilty… Work with it, because the progress is for the courageous people. Evolution is hidden in the pain. Why would we want to evolve when we’re in a warm, cozy place? Pain is just the engine of transformation, be there with it, realize that there is nothing to be afraid anymore, realize that that moment in time created ripples that riches over and over to you and creates havoc in your life. Situations may look very different but the main emotion is same and it continues to milk you out of your vital force dragging you into the cave of sorrow and self-pity. You want to go there? Go. But there is no one to blame but your own insecurities and lack of courage that stops you from taking yourself out of the misery.

If there is no response or a very faint one when you go to the past trauma, just draw a parallel with all the stressful situations or mishaps that happen lately in your life. Do they look so bad when the moment is gone? No. Then the only task one has so far is to give whatever problem a short period of time, from 5 minutes to few days depending on the problem/issue, but by not reacting, that bad thing looses the power, if you don’t analyze nor fall into despair, you may realize shortly that it was just a bubble of soap. Nothing in the world is worth of exhausting our emotional energy. This energy is the same energy that keeps us alive in this illusionary world we’re living in.
Like a DSLR photo camera who is having a limited amount of clicks that is guaranteed, like a bulb which has a limited amount of on/off sequences, same, our body has a limited amount of emotional energy so far. You exhaust it, you’ll have to change the vehicle (next life’s body).

I struggled with my own demons a lot, trying to abstain myself from reacting to triggers. On a smaller scale I was successful, but when a big wave was coming, I was again caught off guard. Again back to square 1. But with the help of the Grace and some very special people in my life, I managed to raise again, dust my clothes and start climbing again like Sisyphus. But the difference between him and me is that I have a chance to make it through.
The secret to getting over whatever situation is realizing how short life is and that there may be no tomorrow.

This may be also misinterpreted by some, thinking that if there’s no tomorrow they can hurt people or decide not to do their chores, stop working or so. Well, I will have to disappoint you. Actually is doing everything you can to make sure that if you reach “tomorrow”, your job is amazingly done, nobody is hurt and so on, but reacting towards the issue as there is no tomorrow. Cause if there’s no tomorrow, if only the present day is what’s left, you will maybe concentrate on having a wonderful day with your family and friends,and you will want to let them know that you love them and you enjoy the beautiful time you have with them, and you will try to be at ease with everything and everyone. And no matter what problem you may encounter during this last day, nothing will really matter, isn’t it?
The constant projection into the future is killing us slowly, but there’s no doubt about that. Live in the present, since the past is gone and the future doesn’t exist. This is that “experience the moment of now” which everyone talks about. But do you dig it? Does it ring your bell? No? Maybe not yet, but this information which existed your whole life somewhere hidden inside you, will sprout out one day, of this life or one of the next. But what is in this moment of “now”? Is that firm, steady information deeply rooted in yourself that this life can be just a dream, a game, one of the many you already had, so all that matters is just the present moment! Yet we keep on stumbling over and over again, so we have to be born again and take it all over again. One life, you enjoy the richness and you get lost in it and you forget that there’s a higher meaning for you to find. The immediate next your Higher Self will want to be poor, because whatever you took extra, eventually has to be given back. The other life you enjoy being a political leader, a religious one, a killer, dictator, and the next life you may be a victim of one… Distraction for the soul. Until you will exhaust your thirst for power, this can take hundreds and thousands of lives. Same with the love for money. There’s no problem with the money, but they are only a way of sustaining a decent existence not a purpose “per se”. When they become a purpose, like an addiction, they destroy the addict like whatever addiction does in the end, no matter what addiction that can be, cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, TV, games, food, promiscuous sexuality… Yes, in the end there’s only one winner, the addiction. And here you go again, over and over on the same path, in a loop similar to the Sisyphus’s one. You may choose to stop now. Ask yourself if you want to become a better version of yourself and act upon this decision. Stop hurting people or this loop of unhappiness is going to haunt you throughout this and next lives. Forgive! Forgive yourself and everyone else. Love yourself and after you love yourself exactly how you are, without attire, titles, names, fancy clothes, diplomas, just who you truly are, and love for the humanity will come automatically coming from the realization of “We are all one”. Entitlement and righteousness is the main trap we are falling over and over again to, along with vengeance…They are all actions of a very low vibration. If we manage to transcend them, our life is going to take a turn which we are not even able to dream about.

May all of you have a chance to discover your Divinity within, and act wisely!

True love, a rare gem

Give people the freedom to be who they want to be, how they want to be, and with whom they want to be. Love doesn’t mean control. True love means total surrender to life and to the partner. Real love is devoid of possessiveness or jealousy. When we truly love someone, that true love is changing us and is pulling us “up”, out of the old idea of what “love” use to mean in the past, when the need to control the partner was part of the “normal love” characteristics, jealousy was seen as a result of love and possessiveness a sign of love and attachment.

Actually although it may interfere with your way of understanding love now, real love is the capacity of letting go of your lover(if needed) for the sake of their happiness. Whatever we have, be it things, people or any other things we are supposed to hold them with the open hand, not tight, but like we are holding a butterfly, without touching so we won’t damage and keeping the hand fully open so that they are free to leave whenever they feel like. This approach will create a current of positive energy that will bring you everything you need and will help you to lose all the pointless things and people.

Are you able to do it? It’s very hard, I know. Very hard because it’s so otherworldly that it doesn’t make any sense to anyone. Why? Because we are all players. Our own insecurity and lack of confidence, plus the lack of like-minded people that see the things the same way makes this task almost impossible. It’s unfortunate to project this kind of love onto unworthy people because they’re going to take advantage of us and use it against us. But so what even if we do it , we did our best, we gave everything, if the love is genuine we’ll be happy for them that they found their happiness elsewhere, if your love is not genuine why were we with them in the first place? If you did it with a person that wasn’t the right one, take it as a training that brings you close to perfection for the real soul mate.

Be selfless and taking everything lightly, with ease, patience and understanding. Your old player mind will say: “I told you, you and your sincerity and genuineness, look where they took you…” But don’t worry, the Universe has its way of balancing everything, you will find a more worthy partener. The real test of love comes when you are facing defeat, when you lost the person you think you love. Someone very dear to me once said: “If you are sinking, sink graciously…” Thank you dear for the wonderful teaching!, for me it became a very important thing to work with: learning to lose, since before learning to win anything one must learn how to lose.

In those moments thoughts of vengeance and violence arise in one’s mind. Where is the love? It is blinded by fear, of being alone, of being without the person that we were trying to be with(to control). Love is letting go, with grace, with humbleness and with understanding. Let him/her go and if they are ment to be yours they’re going to be there with you or coming back soon. Isn’t it better to lose a person which is not destined to be with you? Why would you want to have someone who is not for you?

Offer what you want to receive, works in love as well as in whatever part of life. You want sincerity? be sincere, you want honesty, freedom, understanding, peacefulness then offer them yourself and you will be getting them back. It’s possible that it may not be from the same person, but then open yourself for knowing the real one, one that shares the same values that complements you, which completes you and that understands love and life the exact way that you understand it. Although 100% compatibility may be an utopia, be ready to compromise, learn to let go of control and stop playing game of string in the relationship. Learn to sacrifice own stiffness for the flexibility of flowing in love and life. The game of string is when you falsely let go of a person because you know that the reverse psychology will bring them to you, it is a lower level game, a game of control and deceit. Some play it on a smaller level, not answering messages or playing hard to get. Learn to be vulnerable in true love, but first make sure that the person that you are with it is “the one”. The one can be recognized by the “love at first sight” feeling or at least is how my intuition tells me that it has to be. It is not very often that one may feel that, of course being attracted and feeling of good chemistry may feel like it, yet it may not be. Love at first sight is the recognition of the real past connection, a relationship that is very nourishing but also very demanding, challenging and transformative, with lots of hard work from our side, but in the end the prize is the ultimate love, the perfect partnership. Are you ready to sacrifice old beliefs and stereotypes which delude people and transforms them into hypocrites that are hiding who they truly are, because they are afraid of losing their lover? Are you ready to remove desire to control, are you ready to surrender everything to the flow of life trusting it fully? Are you ready to accept to be vulnerable?

Who would you like, the lover that you desire, to fall inlove with? With the role that you are playing or with the real you? It works the same in physical, mental and spiritual level, why creating a version of yourself that the other may like? Show yourself with all the things that you may not be so proud of, but by exposing everything you don’t risk to lose the person afterwards, let them run now when it’s early, but if they don’t run, you got yourself a person who really love you for who you truly are.
Find out first, who you truly are since you were used to play role games your whole life, and then, expose yourself entirely. You will lose unnecessary people in the process, but it’s all part of the new You. Everything that is no longer important will disappear, it will disolve by itself you will start attracting real like-minded people since you are no longer a hypocrite. Fake attracts fake and real attracts real. Be what you want to attract in your life 😉.

Don’t confuse being a cad with being free or expressing yourself. Being who you are is devoid of aggressiveness or show-off, no hidden agenda nor bad intentions. It is pure expression of self without fear, and without dissimulation.
Due to certain veils one of the factions may not be able to recognize the other as being the love of their life in potentiality, but patience, true love, understanding and humbleness may be a good approach to make them recognize you.

Dear readers, I wish to all of you that you find that soul mate, that real being which make you vibrate love and harmony, may your own metamorphosis from caterpillar to butterfly bring you the butterfly that you deserve.

Live like there’s no tomorrow

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There is no tomorrow indeed. There’s a perpetual moment of now replicating itself over and over with just small variations. The main unchanging constant in this simple equation is consciousness, although it is eternally improving and evolving. Otherwise everything is perishable and illusory and all can end at any point.

I also have to give you the advice that I gave to myself, that helped me go through and above selfishness and other distortions of the consciousness: Do everything like being watched… Meaning when you serve, serve selflessly but with dedication like you would like to be served and even better, when you do whatever you will be doing, do it full heartedly and with dedication like someone is watching you and giving you grades according to your behavior. Whenever we allow our beings to go low, to go with animal instincts or lower programs that have virused our being, we risk our evolution, we risk of losing the path or taking it on a detour mode, detour which can be months, years, or even lives. It is very fulfilling ego-wise to go with one feelings of righteousness and entitlement, but the stronger these feelings, the harder is to experience true spiritual freedom, because these programs are veiling one’s true vision and the way one perceives life, creating a dark web which acts like a veil in front of our very eyes, which due to their limitation they may deceive even without the veil, but much more when these distortions are there in a veil form.

But now since I said about doing everything like being watched, I must remind you that you have to dance like nobody sees you. 🙂 The meaning is: be free in expressing yourself truly because real expression of one true self beyond victimization or righteousness, anger or any other emotion, helps one realize who he/she truly is. The world we’re living in is a world of chameleons, people without a true core, who do not even realize that they have no true goal or vision in life, they are just floating in a distorted way and going with whatever mainstream media, TV, or social programing are inoculating to us, dreaming about riches, having cars, houses, gadgets, kids and other mainstream ideas. We are a world of hypocrites trying to put down the one we consider low or wrong or inferior and praising the one who we fear or who shows more self-esteem, based on bookish knowledge and other devoid of real importance information for our further spiritual growth, and exit from this illusionary world.

We are constantly believing that the external world is bad or good according to our limited understanding about life, but the reality is that everything is just a projection of inner distortions that are deeply hidden in our DNA, the very Karma which gives us challenges and experiences which are supposed to help us understand and evolve beyond our limited way of perceiving the world we’re living in.

Trying to change people that surround us is just a silly attempt of a child. It’s the same like trying to destroy the wall socket with a hammer, because we introduced a needle in it and we got electrocuted. The socket does what it was designed to do, offer electricity, but it was us who plug the needle in. So who is to be blamed? The same goes for external triggers and stimuli (people) that bring “bad” experiences into our lives, they are just triggers. Trying to change the trigger is the same like trying to destroy the socket. Instead, try not to react to those buttons that are being pushed, try not to stick needles into wall sockets, and you won’t get electrocuted. Likewise stop reacting to people triggering you, take a different approach, learn the lesson that is to be learned and start growing out of old patterns because unless you manage to evolve out of them and transcend the old behavioral patterns, there can be no real evolution. As soon as one stops reacting to external triggers, the triggers will disappear from your life or stop affecting you, because their purpose has been met. It is a very hard way of evolving, because there is a need of truthfulness to ourselves and there is a need for huge doses of courage and sturdiness. Also huge amount of Grace through the Guru or other more evolved people than us in our lives is required, to be able to walk over the ocean of Samsara(life that we know made of illusion and ignorance).

May all of you who are dedicated to finding your true self, be blessed to find That and may you recognize the power inside yourself and overcome past distortions which were obstructing your way!

 

Stop being too serious

By being too serious you transform everything that happens into your life in a worse version of what it is already.

Learn to laugh in the face of problems. Take it easy and remember that everything is an illusion, extremely well elaborated, but still a mirage. First of all our 5 senses are too limited for us to properly understand the realm that we are living in, in a way closer to what it really is.

Our mind is always completing the fragmentary picture that the senses transmit and the missing parts are just invented, and projected according to previous experiences or memories. So whatever we may think we know, see, feel, taste, smell it’s either partially or totally counterfeited by the mind. So let’s enjoy life diverting our attention from what may be wrong, let’s learn to smile and enjoy life as it is, accepting whatever comes our way with ease, and with a broad smile on our faces.

Too much seriousness comes from rigidity and stiffness and I would like to quote Lao Tzu- Tao Te Ching chapter 76:

“The living are soft and yielding;
the dead are rigid and stiff.
Living plants are flexible and tender;
the dead are brittle and dry.

Those who are stiff and rigid
are the disciples of death.
Those who are soft and yielding
are the disciples of life.

The rigid and stiff will be broken.
The soft and yielding will overcome.”

I feel like saying “Amen to that” 😂.

So take everything with a pinch of love and smiles, let go of control, since control it’s only an illusion and we can’t control anything but our own behavior, and even that not fully since we are slaves of addictions, needs, desires, predigested informations fed to us previously, and we’re lacking awareness.

Of course, there are moments when we need to be serious, but even then let’s not exagerate and even if externally we look serious, let’s smile continuously inside, knowing who we are and that we are experiencing and that is all a game, but a game in which we have to immerse fully adapting to the game rules but bringing in, a touch of freedom and nonconformism that slowly slowly can influence the outcome of the game and the rest of the players.

Whenever you feel disappointed, down, depressed or just bored, come back to read this article again and you’ll refresh, removing the clouds from your sky!