Be a spectator and not an actor is my advice. You’ve been an actor your whole life, if you want to improve, something has to be changed from your end. You can’t expect the change to come from elsewhere.
When we are seeing things from the outside they are just neutral, like a movie, and we can freely see what was the reason for whatever happened. On the other hand, when we’re in the midst of the emotional turmoil created by some external stimulus, we are becoming dumb-like, we are forgetting self and who we truly are, we are surrendering the control over the body and mind to the animal instinct, an autopilot which sabotaged our lives continuously until now. We are slowly self-destructing ourselves by exhausting our life force (energy).
Whoever reaches the point of being a spectator of own drama, is a true master of the illusion. Much more, instead of running away from it, we are to dive deeper and deeper, to really fully understand the causes and we are experiencing the events fully from the standpoint of stillness, non-judgmental, inner love and contentment.
If we see that our lives are full of drama and misunderstanding, maybe it’s time for us to step out of it, to enjoy it fully though, so eventually becomes useless. Drama and any other “bad happenings” are here to teach us detachment or they’ll end up exhausting us. Don’t know about you dear reader, but I had enough of it. I will just try to sit back and enjoy, taking everything easy, because I have noticed that when we’re able to do it, all the drama and whatever is just like a straw fire, it burns with huge fearful flame but it exhausts immediately. Don’t feed the fire with your involvement, energy, or emotions. Sit back and enjoy the ride.
If we can do that, we solved one of the problems which will literally kill us sooner or later, since like I stated previously, emotional and energetic exhaustion are the cause of the body getting old and ill.
We are prone to make mistakes based on insecurities, fears, lack of self-love and love and understanding for the rest. Be the best, forgive when no one is able to forgive, because you are just doing a favor to yourself. Love when you are not loved, and here I don’t mean that we have to throw ourselves into the arms of whichever unsuitable person. What I meant is even less common nowadays because it only comes from a sense of deep love to oneself and understanding and unconditional love to everyone else. So to love when you are not loved it means to have a crazy trust in life and yourself and to be able to continue loving someone even when that person doesn’t. Because real love has no jealousy and no vengeance.
As a conclusion, become a loving spectator for the amazing show that life unfolds in front of you! Never forget to count your blessings, realize that you are already perfect beautiful being not needing to be liked neither accepted by anyone else but yourself.