Everything in due time

Everything comes in due time! There’s no bigger truth then that. You can try, you can run, you can pay or you can try to bribe, to force something to come to you, yet unless is the right time, that thing will stubbornly refuse you. Indeed you can be prepared, you can have a higher Vision which you need to pursue, but until the right time is there nothing much will happen. That’s why there is nowhere to rush, nothing to be afraid or worried about because whatever it is to be experienced you will definitely experience. And the only thing that you can do is surrender yourself to the flow of life. Life will never take you on the path that you think is going to take you, and if you hope for calm waters and a smooth path, life will give exactly the opposite, and not because it wants to disappoint you but because you are unable to see what’s the best for you. That’s why you sit back, relax and enjoy the ride. It can be really bumpy at points yet don’t worry, the bumpier the road is, the more are the chances of you evolving. And on this path according to my experience, whenever you feel the lowest you should know that the ego is living its last days of being in charge, the ego is not going to die, to be removed nor annihilated but kept at bay. Because the ego feels that its days of ruling over you are coming to an end. And now it’s trying its best to bring all the heavy artillery, all the victimisation and past pains that weren’t transcended because its power is vanishing, because the true self is getting stronger and stronger. So whoever is managing to go over to The Dark Night of the soul which is nothing but a play of ego, whoever is sturdy enough, and dedicated to the highest power and The Guru, having unshaken faith in them and in own higher nature, that being will definitely be awaken. But remember don’t rush anywhere but purify yourself daily through rejecting thoughts and emotions and stay sturdy and humble cultivating spiritual morale and not even the sky will be the limit.
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How to not give a damn 

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Many times we allow others to imbalance us. The fault is never of “the others” since the responsibility for our lives and interpretation of it lays just with us, and the others are just mere “buttons” triggering us, our fears and distortions.

I noticed a disturbing fact about myself and I am very sure that I am not the only one that feels like this:

Let’s say that we are walking on the street and somebody is staring at us, “shamelessly”. As soon as we noticed him/her, our insecurity kicks in, especially if his gaze doesn’t look friendly, or he is mocking or if we feel that he’s measuring us. We see him laughing while he is watching us pass by. Again a sting in the heart: am I ugly, stupid, do I have carrot pieces between the teeth, is my pants zipper open? We are unable to simply be, ignoring or being comfortable with whatever happens. Watch this feeling, it’s one of the old patterns that has to be transcended and worked with. It is the very lack of self-love and confidence that make us indeed unappealing to anyone else.

When we are insecure, we are devoid of love to ourselves. How can we love someone else then?

It means that our “love” may be based on the other’s appreciation and show of care and “love”, a common exchange happening nowadays in the inter-individual relationships dynamics. When these (love, care, appreciation are not shown by the other(s), self-doubt appears. This self-doubt will create a mess in our lives, at first will spread like an infectious disease onto other levels of our lives like job, relationship with kids, neighbors… So, the self-sabotage appears. In these moments, if possible, let go. Let go of all expectations and desires, just surrender everything to the space,to the nothingness. Remember the Higher Self and God, and fully surrender to whatever is happening. Whatever it is, there’s no way you can change that in those moments. In moments of distress our decisions may be wrong, based on the emotional imbalance that we’re in. That’s why, let everything subside, let it be just “nothing”, as you will soon discover. Go back to some stressful situation in the past. That restlessness and fear and all are not there anymore, everything was an illusion.

We may start inventing nonsense, unifying imaginary dots, remembering things… Going lower and lower, feeling scared, deserted, betrayed and all the lower vibrational range of feelings and emotions. All the insecurities are appearing: we feel ugly, unwanted, unworthy. Well, we definitely forgot about being a spectator, only watching the storm, but not jumping into it. So remember to be a spectator even when you feel that you are in the middle of the mess, it’s just an illusion. If we realize that we can be spectators of own dramas without a need to interfere, give thoughts or analyze much, we achieved a certain “next level”. It is hard, almost impossible, because it takes some otherworldly effort to really detach and decide that we are not creating more emotions or explanations about something that is already there.

Good luck and may you be supported on your path as I know well that all true seekers are supported, even without knowing.

I will not write anything anymore on this blog. Maybe I will release a book one day and whoever is following the blog will know about the book because I will announce it here.

Evolution is here Now! Decide to start, and the path will unfold itself to you.

Be a spectator 

Be a spectator and not an actor is my advice. You’ve been an actor your whole life, if you want to improve, something has to be changed from your end. You can’t expect the change to come from elsewhere.

When we are seeing things from the outside  they are just neutral, like a movie, and we can freely see what was the reason for whatever happened. On the other hand, when we’re in the midst of the emotional turmoil created by some external stimulus, we are becoming dumb-like, we are forgetting self and who we truly are, we are surrendering the control over the body and mind to the animal instinct, an autopilot which sabotaged our lives continuously until now. We are slowly self-destructing ourselves by exhausting our life force (energy).

Whoever reaches the point of being a spectator of own drama, is a true master of the illusion. Much more, instead of running away from it, we are to dive deeper and deeper, to really fully understand the causes and we are experiencing the events fully from the standpoint of stillness, non-judgmental, inner love and contentment.

If we see that our lives are full of drama and misunderstanding, maybe it’s time for us to step out of it, to enjoy it fully though, so eventually becomes useless. Drama and any other “bad happenings” are here to teach us detachment or they’ll end up exhausting us. Don’t know about you dear reader, but I had enough of it. I will just sit back and enjoy, taking everything easy, because I have noticed that when we’re able to do it, all the drama and whatever is just like a straw fire, it burns with huge fearful flame but it exhausts immediately. Don’t feed the fire with your involvement, energy, or emotions. Sit back and enjoy the ride.

If we can do that, we solved one of the problems which will literally kill us sooner or later, since like I stated previously, emotional and energetic exhaustion are the cause of the body getting old and ill.
We are prone to make mistakes based on insecurities, fears, lack of self-love and love and understanding for the rest. Be the best, forgive when no one is able, because you are just doing a favor to yourself. Love when you are not loved, and here I don’t mean that we have to throw ourselves into some unsuitable person. What I meant is even less common nowadays  because it only comes from a sense of deep love to oneself and understanding and unconditional love to everyone else. So to love when you are not loved it means to have a crazy trust in life and yourself and to be able to continue loving someone even when that person doesn’t. Because real love has no jealousy and no vengeance.
As a conclusion, become a loving spectator for the amazing show that life unfolds in front of you! Never forget to count your blessings, realize that you are already perfect beautiful being not needing to be liked or accepted by anyone else.

Are we rushing anywhere?

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If the suicidal person will just give a day or two for that issue to burn itself off, there will be no death by suicide on this planet. I bet many of us had the idea at some point. Yet we are still here, and whatever was the motive that pushed us to take into account such a possibility, it eventually faded away. But in those moments, we love to project, to create monsters out of plain nothing, to feel that everyone hates us and takes advantage of us (victimized perspective), we tend to analyze and over analyze the facts, finding more disturbing (fake) things that we didn’t see before yet there’s nothing there, everything seems darker and darker. It is all our own creation and projection. Nothing is ever good or bad, there is just our analysis on that issue which brings a meaning to the facts. In fact everything is meaningless and time destroys eventually everything: ideas, perceptions, actual people, buildings, planets, stars, you name it. If you are not feeding the fire with fuel and/or it has no oxygen it will turn off by itself. Same with whatever issue you encounter. You feed a problem with your thoughts with your attention to it, with projecting, imagining outcomes, future events. Nothing is there, you are just artificially creating a bigger problem which doesn’t exist. Stop it, divert your mind from it, but come back when you’re calm so that you learn from it. Breathe deeply and you’ll see that whatever it was, it was just a storm in a glass of water.

Watch it, because when you are taking the road to fixing and removing the bad programming in your mind and subconscious, you are opening a Pandora’s box which is impossible to close. Either you walk the path or the path is going to consume you. Many have died trying (literally), it’s a path for the courageous, for the selfless people. It’s a magical path, which can be compared to a marathon but a marathon against various distorted versions of your own self. Be aware. It’s not easy, but it’s not always painful either. And it all depends on the perspective, so have no perspective, don’t judge the situation anyhow, accept everything comes your way lightly.

I would like to tell a small story about perspectives: One Buddhist monk sat under the tree where Buddha was said that attained enlightenment. That tree was a special tree and sometimes it was a path of communication between the true seekers and God. So this monk, looks above and asks:
– In how many lives I will attain enlightening?
God answers:
– You see, my son, count the leaves of the tree and as many lives it will take you to reach the enlightenment.
– This is horrible, said the monk and starts running while screaming and whining.

A second monk comes and sits under the tree and asks the same question.
The answer invariably the same.
– Thank you, that’s great… and he starts jumping like a child, claping hands and laughing… so I will get my enlightenment after all…
In that same moment the monk got enlightened.

You see, both monks received the same answer but each saw it in a very different way. Life is always according to the individual perspective and perception through own veils. And the one with no expectations received the boon that was promised after thousand lives. So like this in life, one has to learn to let go. Letting go of everything: expectations, people, hopes, desires, addictions, bad habits… But there has to be a vision, a Higher Vision, a goal that is beyond any tiny little mundane ambitions. And being patient and understanding that it may take a lot of time, may shorten actually the time of waiting and transforming oneself may come sooner than expected. The funny part is that whoever is rushing and wants things fast, will just run like a tiny mouse in a hamster wheel, pointlessly, since you can’t make anything happen before the time is right. You can never trick the Higher Self, the Universal Consciousness, you can just arm yourself with humbleness and patience and maybe you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

See, this self-improvement road is a very long and bumpy road, but by Grace, you are supported, even when you think you are not. You are loved and supported and above all watched. Start on this route with no expectations whatsoever. Just desire to be a better version of yourself and many boons are given without even you noticing. Like in a game when one player reaches the end of the level, he gets points and rewards, because after all this life is just a game, and the only certitude in this game is that at some point everyone surrenders the body.

If we make the boons our destination, we are just caught in the power game, and that same power which we may be dreaming of having will eventually destroy us.

So, you think is there anywhere to rush?

We are mostly navigating unconsciously in this reality 

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Record yourself, video or at least audio, keep the recorder on the whole day and try to watch it afterwards and realize how unaware we are of what we do and say throughout the day. But in order to realize the unawareness, a certain level of awareness (which is mostly nonexistent to the majority of people) and honesty to self has to be there. We have to be very sincere in order to accept that we are looking like possessed sometimes, possessed by the subconscious mind, old patterns and poisonous emotions.

Because maybe nobody will waste time to watch or listen 8-10 hours of their day, I will recommend you to start recording when you reach home for the 30 minutes and better when you are meeting someone. Even if you will alter your way of behaving because remembering that you are recording, it’s a good exercise where you can realize that you are acting automatically when not being aware. So it is a good way to start being more aware.
I studied myself especially when interacting with other people, and I was surprised to find out how my old behavioral patterns were dictating my way of communicating and behaving with others. It is like we are living our lives mostly being unaware, of the root of our habits and the programs which define the automatic and semiautomatic responses to different stimuli.
Our behavior is altered by the conscious, subconscious and unconscious programs that we acquired throughout this life and previous. So we already come altered to some extent, but not only that we’re not aware of these programs, but we are collecting more and more, adding to the level of difficulty that the path towards the true freedom has, transforming it often in an impossible task,at least for this lifetime.
If we are happy with the life that we are having and we are not ready to implement gradual changes, it is no problem, sit back, relax and enjoy. But I am sure that we are all aware that life is not a walk in the park, and no matter how much we enjoy it, at some point we will be questioning the meaning of our existence. Since you are reading this, that question must have been already addressed. Have you found your purpose? Nowadays paradigm, unfortunately, doesn’t support the ideas that you are going to find, reading this blog, but if something in it clicks with you, if you feel that there may be some truth in it, just dig deeper. You don’t need to take my experience for truth, you just need to start thinking for yourself, and whatever information comes your way, filter it through your intuitive sense, and secondly or not at all by the mind because many times mind is too linear, too logical to accept something which is out of the range of the things that is used to analyze. If you hear an idea that may seem crazy at first glance, don’t deny it (like in the scientific method), don’t accept it either. Question it. First of all, in order not to waste unnecessary time with it, ask yourself “Is the answer to the question going to improve my life or the way I understand the things?” If the answer is yes, then use intuition, or contemplative method, but if it’s not useful, why to even waste your time with?
If it’s really useful, and the answer is going to change your life or way to see the world, then ask first your Higher Being, or we may say ask your heart or your right side of the brain about it, the abstract part of the mind, because the logical one (left side), is failing to understand most of the time matters that are beyond the comfort zone, which is the case with the path of self-realization. In order to recognize intuition we must train ourselves to listen to it. So many times my intuition warned me about certain people at first sight, but I was trying to convince myself that I am biased or it’s not fair or “politically correct”, but each time, the intuition was right, sooner or later that person would show their real face to realize that my inner feeling was always right. I shared this with you , dear reader, so you may draw a similar parallel. Maybe each of you had different moments when you were warned by intuition ,yet you were not following it. You may find useful to start using the biggest tool that we have embedded into our being!
Are we really navigating adrift in this reality? Yes the majority of us are. Because we have no higher vision whatsoever, most of the time, and by the sunset of the life we realize the uselessness of the life we lived. Don’t know about you dear readers but I will definitely do something about it. I will start using the steering wheel (awareness). Like in the song of Michael Jackson: “If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change…”