What it takes to evolve

The real secret about life is extremely simple, yet so hard to be grasped by the great majority.

The secret is our behavior. Yes, scratch your heads as much as you want but it’s just that. The secret to our evolution is “ignoring” with grace what others are doing or saying no matter how atrocious it may be… We just have mind our actions and reactions. It’s such a mind-blowing element in its own simplicity, but it is just that. The others are just triggers and tools for our true unfolding of the Self. 

Imagine that you are a fish in a aquarium, swimming freely along with other fish. Is the fish aware of the outside world? Can he be fully aware of the fact that his life is being watched since he was a tiny little egg then as a tiny fish and now a fully grown fish? Can he be aware of the fact that each left or right turn is attently monitored and noted? Can he realize in its simplicity how limited he is, yet is he able to make real moral choices in the most weird and twisted situations? This is the very exit from the limited being towards something greater, this is the very tiny door towards the evolution from an instinctual animal towards something great, beyond human nature which is animal-like anyway.

And yes, it may seem at moments that some people hate us, some are lying and inventing about us, but our reaction to it it is all that matters. 

It is beyond hard, it’s of a non-human way to comprehend and to act naturally like you forgive and understand everyone with a motherlike attitude, but this, is the very root of the actual evolution, whatever else is minor, is bullshit. Whatever else is just dreaming, inventing and fantasizing. But you see, this is very hard, because no one can fake being moral and non-violent, nobody can fake having a good and kind heart, they can try to replicate, but the Life itself will push the tests to such a degree that the fake ones will always lose it, they’ll always let their true nature come to surface. 

Once I received an advice which I wish I will always remember, because in the advice there’s the whole world compressed: “If you sink, sink graciously.” What was the message? If you are going down, don’t pull others, just learn to accept defeat graciously and then victory may be around the corner. No place for vengeance, no place for punishing those who are doing wrong things to us.

 Many did reprehensible things being “righteous”, because righteousness is just an illusion, even is we are “right” . Righteousness is the “key” to losing oneself and the dear ones, is the key to lose the battle with your lower nature.

Want to evolve spiritually? Are you ready to be helpless with seeming that there’s one to care for you? Are you ready to see the “truth” that everyone may desert you, blame and accuse you? (although it may be just an illusion or an imposed feeling). Are you ready to be publicly or privately humiliated to the degree that you feel like dying? Are you ready to see all your loved ones hating you? Are you also ready to see old friends looking at you like you have the plague? It’s not really necessary to be like that yet it might happen. Are you ready to be a good person and stick with the good manners and good, healthy thinking about everything even when everything may be looking like is against you?

Are you ready to see that people that you were putting up on a pedestal are still people and they may even look now underdeveloped, just to test you and your faith even more? They may even be unawares of being played by Life against you, but it’s just a game, where either you win it, by winning your dark side or you are “righteous” and you allow yourself to blame, accuse, hurt and curse others, like you did over and over again throughout past lives. The things are twisted, after losing such a test, life can become good, so that we may misinterpret it,..

What is certain is that all the people that are evolved spiritually, have gone beyond primeval instinctual living, and they have been tested by the Higher Self lives and lives. They were suffering tremendously, unbearable things yet they managed to be moral and kept the right path regardless of their dramas. Are you able to do it? Or you are just one of the many who are just dreaming about superpowers and gaining control over matter yet runs away from the responsibility for own actions, reactions and things you say?

True Power comes to the Real Master, the master of own life, of own decisions. True Power is self intelligent impossible to trick or lie to. True Power tests the aspirant. And know many, so many are just doomed to fail,…Be one of the few, one of those who stay calm without analyzing without judging, understanding the temporary nature of the world and staying inside, unmovable minding only own actions and reactions. 

Are you ready to face it all?? And if so, what’s your motivation? It happened in the past that Power was given as the final test to many, but oh, they misused it and they may be still facing the consequences. You see, it’s not that someone is denying us the power, is that The Power itself is trying to protect us from premature exposure which may destroy us. My advice to myself and all of you readers is to really make sure that you are ready to face unimaginable trials and make sure that you are dedicated to improving your actions and reactions to whichever stimuli. Because true spiritual evolution goes through hell and back and makes us feel like living in a hellish realm. 

Be aware that people who helped you big time and who you put great trust into, may be part of your test, they may all of the sudden look like low, like you wasted time and effort, but deep inside your heart lies the truth, don’t rationalize, because the mind will try to delude you, use intuitive sense and surrender to the Higher Power, ask for clarity, don’t expect immediate effect neither answers, just keep an open mind and stay simple and don’t allow your mind to wonder, because it may trick you, just give it time(to the issues you’re having) and whatever is fake fades in time, but what is true will shine eventually and can’t be hidden for long from the real seeker.

I wish that we all have clarity in all of our endeavors and may higher moral be always the guide into whatever action you enterprise. If you feel that you are not ready to face the dirt, don’t start any spiritual quest because many projected easiness onto it and although it may look easy for those who achieved it, for those struggling to get there it’s but invisible and untouchable goal until the moment you close your eyes and surrender to your Higher Self and your Guidance and take The Leap of Faith. Sounds easy, but it’s almost impossible. It takes tremendous dedication, selflessness, patience, resilience, effort but most of all Trust. So I wish that there are many of you readers who may benefit at some point of this information, because one day, when the time is right You will remember it.

In the moments of distress you might forget or discard this information, probably because we are too burdened by life’s vortex or maybe we are not allowed to have any advantage, so I suggest that you just develop detached love towards all that is alive or existing in the illusion and developing high moral values and be ready to surrender and feel beaten up and disappointed, but the good thing is that it won’t last long and your memories are going to be coming back and you will be able to remember this information and to assess your progress. Don’t be hard on yourself if you are failing over and over again, if only one time you manage to do it, to overcome your animal, then you passed to the Big League. 

My well wishes to all of you.

Aren’t we all One?

The awakened being finds a teaching under each stone, under the most trivial of life experiences. But for the awakened being the old, logical mind is not making the decisions anymore, since it proved its obsolescence. Logical mind it’s still useful for navigating silently in this illusion since it’s made of the same fabric, yet for those intending to raise above the illusion, the tool must be out of the illusion. That tool gets perfected through a lot of trial and error, a lot of falling and rising again, dusting off the clothes and starting all over again.

For such being, there’s no winning or failing, since everything is just experience. Everything is pushing that being to recognize the temporary quality of all the manifested, so automatically that being is heading towards the Eternal, the recognition of one’s own Essence and the fact that this essence is all pervading, all knowing, and it’s inseparable from any bit and piece of the manifested.

Every small thing has a meaning and no meaning whatsoever. Everything is just a huge game of the Eternal playing with Self, separating Itself in tiny bits and pieces of matter, removing the omniscience from Self so that the show is: the struggle towards the removal of the ignorance of that separated, now-materialized (crystallized) Self, and the fight in the process with other pieces and bits of the same Existence that we all are. So, we are continuously facing ourselves in the struggle of getting rid of ourselves. Sounds silly, and it is silly because we can’t escape from ourselves.

The secret is the incorporation, not in the separation. We are all One. We can all feel vibration inside such a blunt and resounding Truth, yet it is too abstract for us, it removes our “uniqueness”, our “specialness”, and we don’t like that. The mind immediately removes whatever is too abstract, afraid we are that we might free ourselves from its influence. That’s the very Ego, and this is why it’s so hard to overcome, because getting rid of it means separation from any ambition or desire that we might have; we let the other Self have it, knowing that whatever is ours, can’t be lost, and that that other Self is still us.

Embrace the enemies and struggles; embrace the pains because they are the ultimate friends of Your True Self. Happiness is the blue pill from the Matrix; you may feel like you’re taking it, yet it slips through the fingers all the time until thousands of lives go wasted like that, and we feel deep inside the futility of going on the same old paths which eventually bring us back to the same old result: misery.

Let go of the idea of happiness since it’s just a trick; it’s like running in the desert for a mirage. The true happiness is within, and it’s there when we experience the “good” and the “bad” alike. Stop crying for what you don’t have and be thankful for what you have. We, the souls experiencing the human experience are the most ungrateful and forgetful beings. We are programed to want something and when that something is acquired, a new desire is born, so we can never experience happiness from the very design of this reality. If so, there wouldn’t be any billionaire and neither  would there be poor, since they would all stop at some moment enjoying their happiness which is always there, no matter how much they have or what are their titles.

Drop the ambition and in an instant you’ll experience “happiness”. True happiness is true existence, enjoying the sweet-scented and the stink alike, not bothered by any of them and not craving for anything either. It’s the moment when the whole Universe and its secrets get unlocked, and they reveal themselves to that Being, because They are that Being.

This process is the process in which we discover, not who, but What we truly are, since we are Everything and Nothing at the same time.

Be a spectator 

Be a spectator and not an actor is my advice. You’ve been an actor your whole life, if you want to improve, something has to be changed from your end. You can’t expect the change to come from elsewhere.

When we are seeing things from the outside they are just neutral, like a movie, and we can freely see what was the reason for whatever happened. On the other hand, when we’re in the midst of the emotional turmoil created by some external stimulus, we are becoming dumb-like, we are forgetting self and who we truly are, we are surrendering the control over the body and mind to the animal instinct, an autopilot which sabotaged our lives continuously until now. We are slowly self-destructing ourselves by exhausting our life force (energy).

Whoever reaches the point of being a spectator of own drama, is a true master of the illusion. Much more, instead of running away from it, we are to dive deeper and deeper, to really fully understand the causes and we are experiencing the events fully from the standpoint of stillness, non-judgmental, inner love and contentment.

If we see that our lives are full of drama and misunderstanding, maybe it’s time for us to step out of it, to enjoy it fully though, so eventually becomes useless. Drama and any other “bad happenings” are here to teach us detachment or they’ll end up exhausting us. Don’t know about you dear reader, but I had enough of it. I will just try to sit back and enjoy, taking everything easy, because I have noticed that when we’re able to do it, all the drama and whatever is just like a straw fire, it burns with huge fearful flame but it exhausts immediately. Don’t feed the fire with your involvement, energy, or emotions. Sit back and enjoy the ride.

If we can do that, we solved one of the problems which will literally kill us sooner or later, since like I stated previously, emotional and energetic exhaustion are the cause of the body getting old and ill.
We are prone to make mistakes based on insecurities, fears, lack of self-love and love and understanding for the rest. Be the best, forgive when no one is able to forgive, because you are just doing a favor to yourself. Love when you are not loved, and here I don’t mean that we have to throw ourselves into the arms of whichever unsuitable person. What I meant is even less common nowadays because it only comes from a sense of deep love to oneself and understanding and unconditional love to everyone else. So to love when you are not loved it means to have a crazy trust in life and yourself and to be able to continue loving someone even when that person doesn’t. Because real love has no jealousy and no vengeance.
As a conclusion, become a loving spectator for the amazing show that life unfolds in front of you! Never forget to count your blessings, realize that you are already perfect beautiful being not needing to be liked neither accepted by anyone else but yourself.

True love, a rare gem

Give people the freedom to be who they want to be, how they want to be, and with whom they want to be. Love doesn’t mean control. True love means total surrender to life and to the partner. Real love is devoid of possessiveness or jealousy. When we truly love someone, that true love is changing us and is pulling us “up”, out of the old idea of what “love” use to mean in the past, when the need to control the partner was part of the “normal love” characteristics, jealousy was seen as a result of love and possessiveness a sign of love and attachment.

Actually although it may interfere with your way of understanding love now, real love is the capacity of letting go of your lover(if needed) for the sake of their happiness. Whatever we have, be it things, people or any other things we are supposed to hold them with the open hand, not tight, but like we are holding a butterfly, without touching so we won’t damage and keeping the hand fully open so that they are free to leave whenever they feel like. This approach will create a current of positive energy that will bring you everything you need and will help you to lose all the pointless things and people.

Are you able to do it? It’s very hard, I know. Very hard because it’s so otherworldly that it doesn’t make any sense to anyone. Why? Because we are all players. Our own insecurity and lack of confidence, plus the lack of like-minded people that see the things the same way makes this task almost impossible. It’s unfortunate to project this kind of love onto unworthy people because they’re going to take advantage of us and use it against us. But so what? even if we do it , we did our best, we gave everything, if the love is genuine we’ll be happy for them that they found their happiness elsewhere. But if your love is not genuine why were you with them in the first place? If you did it with a person that wasn’t the right one, take it as a training that brings you close to perfection for the real soul mate.

Be selfless and taking everything lightly, with ease, patience and understanding. Your old player mind will say: “I told you, you and your sincerity and genuineness, look where they took you…” But don’t worry, the Universe has its way of balancing everything, you will find a more worthy partner. The real test of love comes when you are facing defeat, when you lost the person you think you love. Someone very dear to me once said: “If you are sinking, sink graciously…” Thank you dear for the wonderful teaching!, for me it became a very important thing to work with: learning to lose, since before learning to win anything one must learn how to lose.

In those moments thoughts of vengeance and violence arise in one’s mind. Where is the love? It is blinded by fear, of being alone, of being without the person that we were trying to be with (or to control). Love is letting go, with grace, with humbleness and with understanding. Let him/her go and if they are meant to be yours they’re going to be there with you or coming back soon. Isn’t it better to lose a person which is not destined to be with you? Why would you want to have someone who is not for you?

Offer what you want to receive! It works in love as well as in whatever part of life. You want sincerity? be sincere, you want honesty, freedom, understanding, peacefulness? then offer them yourself and you will be getting them back. It’s possible that it may not be from the same person, but then open yourself for knowing the real one, one that shares the same values that complements you, which completes you, and that understands love and life the exact way that you understand it. Although 100% compatibility may be an utopia, be ready to compromise, learn to let go of control and stop playing game of string in the relationship. When we truly love someone compromising doesn’t seem to be compromising at all, it’s just a natural flow of Being. Learn to sacrifice own stiffness for the flexibility of flowing in love and life.

The game of string is when you falsely let go of a person because you know that the reverse psychology will bring them to you, it is a lower level game, a game of control and deceit. Some play it on a smaller level, not answering messages or playing hard to get. Learn to be vulnerable in true love, but first make sure that the person that you are with it is “the one”. The one might be recognized by the “love at first sight” feeling or at least is how my intuition tells me that it has to be. Or at least the feeling of knowing him/her, a deep feeling of like-mindedness is definitely there. It is not very often that one may feel that, of course being attracted and feeling of good chemistry may feel like it, yet it may not be.

Love at first sight is the recognition of the real past connection, a relationship that is very nourishing but also very demanding, challenging and transformative, with lots of hard work from our side, but in the end the prize is the ultimate love, the perfect partnership. Are you ready to sacrifice old beliefs and stereotypes which delude people and transforms them into hypocrites that are hiding who they truly are, because they are afraid of losing their lover? Are you ready to remove desire to control, are you ready to surrender everything to the flow of life trusting it fully? Are you ready to accept to be vulnerable?

Who would you like the lover that you desire, to fall inlove with? With the role that you are playing, or with the real you? It works the same in physical, mental and spiritual level, why creating a version of yourself that the other may like? Show yourself with all the things that you may not be so proud of, but by exposing everything you don’t risk to lose the person afterwards, let them run now when it’s early, but if they don’t run, you got yourself a person who really love you for who you truly are.
Find out first, who you truly are since you were used to play role games your whole life, and then, expose yourself entirely. You will lose unnecessary people in the process, but it’s all part of the new You. Everything that is no longer important will disappear, it will dissolve by itself you will start attracting real like-minded people since you are no longer a hypocrite. Fake attracts fake and real attracts real. Be what you want to attract in your life 😉.

Don’t confuse being a cad with being free or expressing yourself. Being who you are is devoid of aggressiveness or show-off, no hidden agenda nor bad intentions. It is pure expression of self without fear, and without dissimulation.
Due to certain veils one of the factions may not be able to recognize the other as being the love of their life in potentiality, but patience, true love, understanding and humbleness may be a good approach to make them recognize you.

Dear readers, I wish to all of you that you find that soul mate, that real being which make you vibrate love and harmony, may your own metamorphosis from caterpillar to butterfly bring you the butterfly that you deserve.