Victimization – a spiritual disability


One of the biggest obstacle towards freeing ourselves from the shackles of the darkness of our ignorance is victimization. It is that sweet and sour feeling that the world is against us, that we are mistreated by life and the others, where we feel pity for ourselves. If you are there, you are trapped by your own inability to take full responsibility for your existence and if you continue on this path you can not exit. 

Exiting and transcending victimization is a huge progress yet a very hard decision to make. I have seen very beautiful souls that are, at least for the moment, incapable of taking full responsibility for everything in their lives. 

Whatever happens in your life is definitely there for you, there’s no accident, no chance. It is for sure some test, some karmic debt, some lesson to learn from. By running away from owning that moment in full awareness without blaming anyone, you are depriving yourself from a clear vision of where you stand at this moment on your evolutionary path. 

From experience I know how easy and comfortable it is to blame external factors, people and life in general for our experience. It’s such a soothing feeling to blame and point fingers at others instead of owning it all gracefully. 

First time I did it (managed to act out of the box) was with a very dear person to me that was appearing mean and disrespectful to me, when I decided to flip the tables and see things differently. Wow, what a shift. All of the sudden, a very potentially traumatic event appeared for what it truly was: nothing at all. It is us with our own power of consciousness, and roaming in heavy thoughts and over-analysis  that we create out of thin air traumatic events and enemies, through our veiled perspective about life. 

The spiritual student is a spiritual warrior. He/she sees the world as their opportunity to grow out of old habits and old paradigms that were keeping them fettered to the illusion. Now they see the world for what it is: a neutral school of souls to uplift themselves from the darkness of their ignorance. Everything is a theatrical play put in place by your higher Self to uproot once and for all the limitations that acted on your being as shackles, as huge fetters of ignorance blocking your advancement. 

The world we experience will change radically in front of our very eyes if we shift from the perspective of the victim to that of a being that knows always that whatever happens in their existence in the human body is just a play of the universe testing, balancing, healing and transcending old patterns into an unveiled, better perspective on life and the path towards self-discovery. 

Be grateful to everyone that takes you out of balance, that shakes you out of your illusory cocoon. Onto this path you started walking, there are no enemies. Be grateful to events that are out of your ordinary routine because there lays the opportunity of growth. Every single event or person that brings you into a state where you can choose to feel victimized is a great chance to grow and leave behind unnecessary and old ways of perception. 

Say to yourself,” ok, this happened! What’s my role in it, what is the lesson, what is the reason” . Forget about blaming others because it is of no use, forget about blaming circumstances because it is a misconception. Nothing is random, nothing happens by chance. Be grateful to those that shake your peace, because they’re the reminders that you are either that peace no matter what is happening, or you are just another spiritual hypocrite. 

The brilliance of life will be noticed immediately after forgetting the victim’s way of thinking and being. Your flow in life will be smoother and what you experience will be seen in direct accordance with the Higher plan of your Self, where there are no random events or people, they all have a great role in our evolution. 

Everything carries in it a great danger or a great opportunity. It is only a matter of our choice what is going to be. “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!”. Remember that and always take the right approach in whichever situation, take the juice of life and don’t allow nothing neither anyone drag you back to your old way of perception. Remember if you believe that your life is miserable and you are a victim of it and people, you will be enforcing that over and over again with your energy and thoughts. As soon as you shift, the paradigm will shift too and a veil will be lifted from you to grow further. 


Are we compassionate?

We are many times feeling sorry for the poor people, for the homeless, abused kids and what not. Believe it or not the “funny” thing is that they came to experience exactly that, whatever they’re experiencing. It’s their higher self who chose to experience that, and it’s not a punishment but an experience, everything is neutral in higher planes of existence, no duality, no good or bad.

It may seem cruel and wrong at first glance not to feel sorry for them, but feeling sorry comes from the inner own unhappiness and lack of proper understanding about life and what are the mechanisms of this illusion.

Who do we think we are to deny them that experience? That’s why, highly evolved human beings are not, or hardly interfering in this illusionary world, unless there’s a real genuine call for help and desire from the one asking for help to really change the patterns which brought them into the situation out of what they are trying to evolve.

Desire to help when help is not asked to be provided, comes from the false idea that we are or we know better, we are above that level and so on, in other words superiority complex which comes from ignorance. It’s the same like wanting to take down a professional climber who’s struggling to climb a very steep stone wall, falsely believing that we are saving him.

Nowadays main stream religions are getting more and more followers because they promote the idea of a savior, who is going to come to the rescue to save the world. Their proselytes are attracted about the lack of responsibility that they have to have, not having to work with past distortions, no self improvement needed , no self control nor cultivating good qualities, just worshiping the given gods or saints seems to be enough, and false compassion, and accepting the dogma which is based(again) mostly on fear.

Well, obviously many realize after years and years that they are either same as they were before or they accumulated even more distortions like pride that they are so right, that they are worshiping the right god, righteousness, false compassion where they are participating in charitable events, but failure to really help anyone whatsoever. By giving a hungry person food every day we may be pushing him to be lazy, not to search for a job, not to take his fate into his own hands especially if he sees that he is receiving the help constantly and he is not supposed to do anything for it. So see, non-interference or very limited interference is the best approach in this illusionary world. That doesn’t mean you can’t help people if they ask, and you feel that there’s a real need for your assistance. A certain level of awareness and good intuitive sense is needed in order to properly choose the right approach for every situation.

One friend told me long time ago that his father although rich, didn’t support him materially too much, but gave mostly advises and showed potential paths to follow and said to him: “a good father doesn’t give the adult son food when hungry, but gives him a gun and sends him to hunt”. That friend of mine grew up to become a successful business and family man.

I don’t want to be misunderstood. If you want to do charity, do! If you want to help homeless people, help. But do it from your heart and ask yourself if there’s a better way to do it, and the most important, forget that you have done it, so your mind won’t create a big ego about it.

Be aware that pity will send us back to the loop we’re trying to escape from. We have to abandon the ideea that we have to save anyone, there’s no such thing, since the only person that we’re in charge of is ourself. So if you want to save someone, save yourself and by your example only, some people may start changing also.