Tag: Become

True love a rare gem Part 2

Many get the wrong impression, inspired by Hollywood movies propaganda, that love should be the fulfillment of all the sensual desires, happiness, joy and peace delivered by our partner, eternally looking for someone to provide us with that which we should rather find within ourselves first. I realized that what I assumed to be love in the past was just a very limited, distorted and watered-down idea of what true Love is, and how it is supposed to happen.  

Firstly, one has to understand that Love is unrelated to any person, it either is within or it is not. In reality, it is intrinsic in all of us, yet hidden under heavy layers of trauma, propaganda and negative programming. You can try to mimic it, but that will not resist the test of time and the fake will undoubtedly be revealed in due time. Love with the capital “L” is selfless and impersonal. When you “love” someone, you say that you want them to be happy, but in reality that might be very conditional, limited, and manipulative. What kind of love is that? It’s definitely not unconditional, or pure as it should be; it just means you just want to possess and control that person and have them deliver you that feeling that you’re incapable of feeling within yourself.

You might then have the same selfish type of love that a gardener has: he cuts a beautiful rose, knowing that it will eventually fade, wither and eventually die shortly in the vase, no matter how much care it’ll invest in it.

Same we do when we knowingly or unknowingly try to cunningly manipulate our lover into delivering what we assume is best for us, selfishly and sturdily molding them into something that we assume would be the best for us to have, many times also ignorantly believing that might be the best for them. Even if we succeed in changing them, we will end up destroying that person’s particular character that made us be attracted to them in the first place, and we might lose interest in them if they haven’t lost interest before us.

That’s why the only true love I see as such between two people is when we accept and even encourage the full expression of the other’s character and peculiarities, full acceptance of the way their soul chose to manifest.

True love is when you see a beautiful rose, you enjoy its beautiful color and the amazing scent without trying to possess it, but you bless it and care for it selflessly. Hard, I know, yet not impossible. Once you do it, you won’t go back to the selfish and possessive type of love you were taught or rather programmed to have.

You can definitely enjoy a peaceful couple’s life, but you won’t project anything on it, you will be giving that person full trust, love, full freedom of expression and movement even if it might go against your wishes, and you’ll be proud of yourself, not in any egotistical way, but you will realize that you have touched a subtler level of love that many are unaware of. By doing so, you qualify for a higher level of relationship, a more refined kind of love when you finally discover a lover that will share the same views, and they’ll shower you with their Love as you also shower them with yours.

Love is not about possession or changing others. Love is about nurturing and encouraging others to fully and freely express their character, and fully accepting that freedom of theirs while expressing fully ourselves too.  We can certainly declare that we’ve hit the jackpot when both parties (us and our lover) express themselves fully and neither is disturbed by the other’s free flow, when there’s full acceptance and fondness of each other. In true Love neither of the parties should be “walking on eggshells”!

Love is either there or is not,. Hoping someone might start loving you might be silly and the effort you put into it might not be worthwhile, although it may also happen that the recognition of the other might happen on a later date, as everything happens in the right time and place.  We should rather just flow with our inner inexhaustible Love and let it overflow. Expect nothing and be happy, grateful, joyful, and equanimous, not because it’s reflected back at us, but because we are Love and that is our true nature.

From the human perspective, it is amazing if it’s also reciprocated. But once you accept the idea that you might not get it back the way you expected it, you stop seeing the unreciprocated love as loss; you just selflessly give it, allowing people to be free in their choice of the response to your love. 

That does not mean at all that you will stupidly “throw pearls before swines”, but you will silently shine onto everything and everyone indiscriminately, as the sun also does onto us all, whilst still not allowing people who are unworthy to be connected to your unconditional love flow indefinitely.

Love, as in the emotional, limited love between a man and a woman that we see all around us, is still just another level of a fancier and more sophisticated trap, a reproductive program planted into us to ensure the perpetuity of the human species … In reality, we should become Love! Train it till you make it! Really, I tell you, we all are that already, so there’s no real training or becoming anything, but remembering our true nature, removing programming and re-establishing ourselves into our real essence that got forgotten.    

Become that impersonal, all-encompassing Love! Indiscriminately loving everything and everyone will make us able to uproot ourselves from the thralls of the illusion… Limited love, in which both have their own hidden agendas, is a very rudimentary program of control through selfishness, that can be transcended by becoming more selfless every single day.

I know that if you come closer to becoming Love, if you haven’t yet already, you will definitely encounter the one and only true counterpart of yourself who will see things in a similar way, and the human concept of love will be fulfilled too, and beyond your expectations.  Life never fails to deliver that which we are worthy of having.

In order to become Something, unbecome everything

We tend to approach our growth and evolution in the same distorted way as an ambitious approach to achieve material wealth and success in the world. It is the very greed-fueled approach that seems to be so “normal”. Unfortunately you can’t use tools used in carpentry in a marble quarry. Therefore an old approach to understanding the depths of the Universe, mysteries and secrets beyond the apparent with our obsolete tools are going to be promoting an imaginary type of evolution which is only happening in our fantasy and ego.

It’s hard to convey in words what I realized within, but let the transmission of my realization reach out to all of you reading and may at some point reach the same realization if you haven’t done so already.

In order to realize things out of the box, we have to be out of the box. Exiting our “righteous” routines and ways to look at the experience are helping us to step out and have a broader understanding of the world and everything. The sailors on a sailboat can blow air into the sail as powerful as they can but the boat will stand unmoved regardless, as in order to exert the influence on that sail one has to be outside of the boat.

The path to “the out of the box” realm is by changing the way we see things, people and events. Whilst we still see those in very dual way, like: those are my friends and these are the enemies, you will still be blowing in your sail while standing on the boat.

Once we start stoicly accepting everything in our lives as ours to have and we stop perceiving people in a antagonistic way, realizing that everyone is a catalyst in our potential unfolding, life will start to look different, and even events and people will stop being so triggering for us.

It took me a lot of time to get here and I am still wondering if I can be able to mantain this level of perception tomorrow, as the Matrix tries to bring us back to its thralls but the heck with tomorrow, as it doesn’t exist.. I am here now and I can read this article tomorrow (if tomorrow comes), and  I will remember today’s realization.

To come back to the title, when we stop wanting to become anything, and we start detangling from the bondage of all the ideas we have about ourselves, and everything else, practically unbecoming everything, the reality rushes in, and pompous words like “we are all One” really start to be perceived at their proper depth, as perceiving a level of reality that renders all previous ideas and concepts obsolete.

Everything that used to excite my imagination and look for in the future just stopped being appealing. I can and will still have some of those, but there’s no “need” or longing for any of those, a real level of detachment dawned onto me. And at first is so painful like you wake up and see all the fake, glitter and sparkling stuff falling off everything that we used to appreciate and look forward to getting,  now showing its ugly, rusted and even unnecessary side.

If you are ready to abandon the pursuit of all those little things that used to give a meaning to life, then this is how it goes, but if not yet, no worries. I believe that this realization comes only after diving deep in the material plane (illusion) with awareness, when you realize that you are Sisyphus, and trying to push that boulder uphill will never work and you decide to just accept that hilltop without the boulder there. The boulder in this case is all that baggage of ideas and concepts that used to be the background ruler of everything happening in our lives.

When we stop wanting to be recognized as anything, and we allow people to misunderstand and wrongly assume that we are like this or like that, then we’ve walked a long way and our disillusionment is very close. There’s nothing to defend, or prove. Whoever is to get our true essence they will, whoever is not to grasp who and what are we about, they will not, regardless of us trying to convince  or prove them otherwise.

When you unbecome all the ideas you had about yourself, then you become “I am”, and that is impossible to explain in words, you don’t need any quality attached to that “I am” as you are Everything and Nothing. That takes you out of the trap of souls: that makes you be in the world, yet not of the world; no longer wanting to save anyone or anything as you’ll start seeing the perfection of the world as it is, in its apparent imperfection.