Tag: illusion

True love a rare gem Part 2

Many get the wrong impression, inspired by Hollywood movies propaganda, that love should be the fulfillment of all the sensual desires, happiness, joy and peace delivered by our partner, eternally looking for someone to provide us with that which we should rather find within ourselves first. I realized that what I assumed to be love in the past was just a very limited, distorted and watered-down idea of what true Love is, and how it is supposed to happen.  

Firstly, one has to understand that Love is unrelated to any person, it either is within or it is not. In reality, it is intrinsic in all of us, yet hidden under heavy layers of trauma, propaganda and negative programming. You can try to mimic it, but that will not resist the test of time and the fake will undoubtedly be revealed in due time. Love with the capital “L” is selfless and impersonal. When you “love” someone, you say that you want them to be happy, but in reality that might be very conditional, limited, and manipulative. What kind of love is that? It’s definitely not unconditional, or pure as it should be; it just means you just want to possess and control that person and have them deliver you that feeling that you’re incapable of feeling within yourself.

You might then have the same selfish type of love that a gardener has: he cuts a beautiful rose, knowing that it will eventually fade, wither and eventually die shortly in the vase, no matter how much care it’ll invest in it.

Same we do when we knowingly or unknowingly try to cunningly manipulate our lover into delivering what we assume is best for us, selfishly and sturdily molding them into something that we assume would be the best for us to have, many times also ignorantly believing that might be the best for them. Even if we succeed in changing them, we will end up destroying that person’s particular character that made us be attracted to them in the first place, and we might lose interest in them if they haven’t lost interest before us.

That’s why the only true love I see as such between two people is when we accept and even encourage the full expression of the other’s character and peculiarities, full acceptance of the way their soul chose to manifest.

True love is when you see a beautiful rose, you enjoy its beautiful color and the amazing scent without trying to possess it, but you bless it and care for it selflessly. Hard, I know, yet not impossible. Once you do it, you won’t go back to the selfish and possessive type of love you were taught or rather programmed to have.

You can definitely enjoy a peaceful couple’s life, but you won’t project anything on it, you will be giving that person full trust, love, full freedom of expression and movement even if it might go against your wishes, and you’ll be proud of yourself, not in any egotistical way, but you will realize that you have touched a subtler level of love that many are unaware of. By doing so, you qualify for a higher level of relationship, a more refined kind of love when you finally discover a lover that will share the same views, and they’ll shower you with their Love as you also shower them with yours.

Love is not about possession or changing others. Love is about nurturing and encouraging others to fully and freely express their character, and fully accepting that freedom of theirs while expressing fully ourselves too.  We can certainly declare that we’ve hit the jackpot when both parties (us and our lover) express themselves fully and neither is disturbed by the other’s free flow, when there’s full acceptance and fondness of each other. In true Love neither of the parties should be “walking on eggshells”!

Love is either there or is not,. Hoping someone might start loving you might be silly and the effort you put into it might not be worthwhile, although it may also happen that the recognition of the other might happen on a later date, as everything happens in the right time and place.  We should rather just flow with our inner inexhaustible Love and let it overflow. Expect nothing and be happy, grateful, joyful, and equanimous, not because it’s reflected back at us, but because we are Love and that is our true nature.

From the human perspective, it is amazing if it’s also reciprocated. But once you accept the idea that you might not get it back the way you expected it, you stop seeing the unreciprocated love as loss; you just selflessly give it, allowing people to be free in their choice of the response to your love. 

That does not mean at all that you will stupidly “throw pearls before swines”, but you will silently shine onto everything and everyone indiscriminately, as the sun also does onto us all, whilst still not allowing people who are unworthy to be connected to your unconditional love flow indefinitely.

Love, as in the emotional, limited love between a man and a woman that we see all around us, is still just another level of a fancier and more sophisticated trap, a reproductive program planted into us to ensure the perpetuity of the human species … In reality, we should become Love! Train it till you make it! Really, I tell you, we all are that already, so there’s no real training or becoming anything, but remembering our true nature, removing programming and re-establishing ourselves into our real essence that got forgotten.    

Become that impersonal, all-encompassing Love! Indiscriminately loving everything and everyone will make us able to uproot ourselves from the thralls of the illusion… Limited love, in which both have their own hidden agendas, is a very rudimentary program of control through selfishness, that can be transcended by becoming more selfless every single day.

I know that if you come closer to becoming Love, if you haven’t yet already, you will definitely encounter the one and only true counterpart of yourself who will see things in a similar way, and the human concept of love will be fulfilled too, and beyond your expectations.  Life never fails to deliver that which we are worthy of having.

“Knowing”, an obstacle to Being

Ignorance goes hand in hand with arrogance, both sprouting out of immaturity. Bookish knowledge brings about arrogance, and the misconception of the acquisition of wisdom, which is far from what’s true. Actually, bookish knowledge cements and enhances ignorance under the misleading disguise of the opposite. So the most ignorant people in this world are not those who are unaware of things, but those who assume they’re wise and knowledgeable.

I have been there myself. What saved me? My humility and having the courage to question myself and my understanding of things. The more we discover about life and its experience, the more we realize how small and ignorant we are. Paradoxically, the more we truly know, the more humble we should become.

Once that happens, an invisible door is opened, a door to our inner, self-born knowledge. That inner knowledge has been there all along, but we just disregarded it, or were unaware of it, ignorantly empowering external forces, bookish knowledge, and “believing” instead of feeling and experiencing. Once we start recognizing inner knowledge, we start observing how  confirmation of what’s within in the form of knowledge, is all around us, attested by nature, people, things, and energies…

The realization that everything is indeed reversed downs onto us: the one who believes he knows much is in reality, ignorant and a fool… And the one who dares listen to life, nature and even others is continuously learning and expanding, whereas the self-assumed wise and knowledgeable is just falling for programming, propaganda, narrative and his own hubris

The child learns very fast because he is always ready to reassess and change what he believes in, when better experience and knowledge is available. He’s also humble enough in his flexibility, and it’s the very reason why children rapidly absorb knowledge. The academic people are almost lost, rigid in their beliefs, so crystallized, that they are incapable of starting with a blanc canvas, rewiring their own imagined and pre-programmed “reality.” They’re the bucket which is already full of stale old water, and they don’t dare emptying it as they’ve invested their entire life, time and energy to a fantastic, far-from-truth, predigested and ultimately illusory understanding of life.

Like the great Siddha Master Tilopa said: “… How pitiable the foolish, their struggles never end…” Why? Because they can’t let go! They can’t let go of their “knowledge” stained with ignorance, unable to renounce their concepts and theories that haven’t brought them any true benefit. Unknowingly, they are stuck on the path that takes one nowhere.

Same with mental illness: no one can cure and experience sanity unless they’re ready to redraw the whole understanding of the very Existence. So they continue to believe in the same fallacy over and over again, unaware of the immediate healing being just in the palm of their hands, by choice of revisiting and reviewing everything that they assumed was correct. It’s so simple and apparently easy, but so hard to do, as I can attest from my own experience.

Once you do it, you will be able to apply in all the situations you stumble across. Everything is slowly being revealed, nothing remains a secret. Life has no secrets, no mysteries for the one who is flexible and ready to adjust.  For the one who is humble, all doors are open.  Knowledge is always revealed from within where it was at all times.

For the one who believes that he’s the king of his own little box and assumes that there’s nothing other than his kingdom, his theory is proven right inside his own mind, in its very limited confines, yet he is depriving himself of truly experiencing the vastness of the Infinite, which is ever expanding therefore whatever knowledge exists is also expanding, adapting, and the true wisdom is allowing oneself to flow with this eternal expansion, aware of the fact that while limited to the human body, one can never grasp the full-fledged truth, but can get higher and higher versions of it while it’s capacity to carry that higher levels of truth is opened within by the power of humility and gratitude.

There is no mind

It just struck me. Mind is an abstract concept, an assumption, a planted idea that distorts our entire perception of life. Where is the mind located? Is it in the head? I feel that there’s no mind. The idea of “mind”is what creates separation and rupture. The mind is the very” divide et impera”, a Trojan horse we have planted inside of us, it’s the only thing that separates us from Everything and All.

We assume that the mind is the headquarters of intelligence and logic. In reality, we just know, we just feel, the mind adds distortions and creates concepts, assumptions and conditions. The entire body and its systems are an undivided unit that works under the supervision of the endocrine system. But the body with its ruler, the endocrine system” ought to be fully under the supervision of the Soul, or the Higher Self, but the middle man that ruins everything is the programmed idea of mind, which is like a treasonous intermediary.

We are ruled by the secretions of the glands, from the upper ones to the lowest of them. Our perception is dictated by the hormones secreted by those above-mentioned glands. That’s why the more balanced life is lived, the better the perception of the “reality” becomes. Even “reality” is just an idea, something that, for each sentient being, is something else, therefore it’s purely subjective. As such is the concept of “mind”.

I have sometimes been reading scriptures and old writings that try to explain something in detail, yet they end up being very heavy and filled with more complicated concepts and theories that, even if true, have no value because we should rather learn simplicity, and stop to define, explain or even try to get to the bottom of everything in a compulsive way. Adding more concepts and separation, more methods, more division defies the goal. The goal is Oneness. When we are One, desire and separation do not exist. Everything is always correct.

I feel that true Beingness is devoid of any idea of “mind”, just the simple idea of mind being inexistent, can put one into a peaceful, meditative and blissful state. Can you feel it? The more we separate things, the more we try to define and catalog things and people, the further we go from grasping Reality.

The Reality can be found in the state in which there’s the realization of “there is no mind”, there’s just being, no explanation, no worry, no trying to explain or frame something. Everything Is, and we are no different. Some people advise transcending the mind, to annihilate the mind, to silence it. How can we annihilate, transcend or silence something that is inexistent? This is the very added idea that, instead of helping, separated everything from everyone.

Once we realize that we have no mind, there’s no thought process as such, there’s just Beingness and a more active state of doing, but the more the state of Beingness is perceived and pervades through whatever “doing”, the doing will fade into Beingness, and everything will become That. That is the state of Yoga (Union)! Words fail, you can try to explain it, but it won’t work. It has to be perceived and then the “aha” moment will dawn. Don’t try to grasp the idea, just feel it, and flow with it, and everything you do or don’t, everything you say or not, will be Life itself acting through you, and you become aware of the spectator mode.

We can transcend the spectator mode by realizing that we are the very Director of the whole movie. The movie that made us laugh, made us cry, made us feel pain and try to escape it, and that made us feel joy and pleasure, and we tried to preserve and maintain it forever. But once we see the screen by realizing the inexistence of the mind, and remember it is just a movie, we stop identifying ourselves with any characters in it. We realize that we are the movie, the actors, the director, the spectator, everything and Nothing at the same time.

There’s a higher state behind any high state you achieve. More to heal and a more advanced level of truth to grasp. Don’t stop, or you’ll fall into believing that you are something great, some important person, or you will fall for the newly acquired charisma that can become the reason for your downfall. The only valuable thing that will keep you from falling is humility, knowing that no matter how many miracles you experienced or happened through you, you haven’t yet even scratched the very tip of the iceberg, so why stop at an incipient level?

Don’t get drunk with your own newly perceived “greatness”, as it’s an equal fallacy as the idea of having a “mind”, but rather observe your greatness through your concealment, through humility, let others not see you, let them misunderstand you. Just shine, silently like the sun. In reality, you are not where or what you think you are. It’s all just a trick of something that doesn’t exist, called “the mind”. When you realize there’s no Mind, you touch your true state. It’s here Now. Feel it.