Be true to yourself

If we are true to ourselves we automatically become true to the world. Because whatever external people, things or events exist out there, it is our mind creating that, and whatever is inside gets manifested outside in the form of people, things and events. The more resolved our past traumas and events are the smoother the external world will flow. 

When we decide to be honest with ourselves, we would not be able to entertain some external person or thing that is not resonating with us anymore, but we will cut through the bullshit like a sharp knife, and not because we’re rude or lacking empathy or diplomacy, but we realize that we are supposed to be ourselves and stand by the truth that is within us. By wasting time with people that are not on the same frequency we exhaust ourselves and we are neither helping them and much less ourselves. We are depriving them of the lesson of proper boundaries and we are exhausting unnecessary energy. 

The same goes for partnerships, friends, family and acquaintances or strangers. Why would you entertain someone if you don’t want to? Why to continue talking or meeting someone that drains you? Isn’t it that you are just tricking yourself that you are being a good friend, person, lover, neighbor .. Or whatever “good” you project on yourself to be? 

Lack of proper action sometimes is the same thing as harming self and others. Lack of determination in implementing what’s best for us is not at all “being kind and/or compassionate with the other”, but the other way around, because not establishing proper boundaries also deprives the other side of having the proper experience to also wake up and work with themselves. 

But let’s forget about the others. Let’s say that we want someone, we need a partner, a lover. At first we have all these ideas of I want him/her to be like this and like that and I definitely don’t want him/her to have this or that features. But as time goes by our neediness grows, so directly proportionally our standards lower and we are ready to accept things that in the beginning we were 100% sure we didn’t want to have. 

Eventually the hormones might push us into lower and lower vibration and we might be ready to accept many red flags just for the sake of satisfying the lower mind and body needs. It’s an experience that might transform into a trap. It may be good if it happened, you had it and let it go. The problem appears when we enter relationships with the wrong or let’s say inappropriate reason. Why? Because sexual intimacy or (just) external superficial attraction shouldn’t be the reason for us getting into a relationship, it means that the whole foundation is rotten. It means that our home’s foundation is made of clay and with time the sturdiness of the foundation will be tested and indubitably that construct will collapse under the heavy weight of vibrational, spiritual and mental mismatch. 

The more we stay in this types of relationships the more we will suffer, because through numbing our intuition and denial of the obvious, attachments are created, unhealthy projections and hopes are coming to existence and it will make the break-up more painful. On the other hand whatever is true and supposed to be there will unfold in a natural, beautiful way although relationships where there’s only peace love and harmony might be an utopic idea in this era.

When we are honest with ourselves, we are honest with the world and although we will lose a huge amount of (unnecessary) people, rest assured that we are heading towards knowing how our life is supposed to be, not what we were projecting onto it. 

On the other hand we shouldn’t project too many qualities or what the future partner should have or not, rather learn to flow with life, to listen to your Being, your heart and intuition, learn to see everything from the inner contentment feeling in which you are complete and devoid of “needs” or “wants”, and whatever is supposed to be yours will appear on its own. Appearance of its own doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t do anything towards that goal (of having someone) if that’s how we feel. Choose wisely by cutting through the past distortions and tendencies that threw you over and over again into similar distorted relationships and you will step out of the lower flow. Observe life through that inner contentment and you will be able to accept being alone or with someone as being equally acceptable. 

There’s a saying that the one that’s the most patient will reap the ripest fruit. If you are experiencing a period of being alone, enjoy it. Take it as an opportunity to work your crap out, take it as a period of time for reflection and contemplation. Whatever is there it’s the best thing that can happen to you. Especially when you are honest with yourself. The more honest you are, the more free you will become. The more you love yourself, the more you will love everything and everyone in a very unconditional way. But don’t confuse the unconditional love towards the world and the existence, with the new-agey nonsense that you have to be good, do good and everything is pink clouds and unicorns. That’s again dishonesty to self. Find out who you are and own it! Embrace it with good and bad features, with qualities and shortcomings, because that is how you came to experience life.

There’s no malicious act if you’re acting, talking and being from that inner peace, the inner contentment that’s the essence of our Being. Therefore if you are more and more aligned with that Being that lies hidden inside of whatever living being at any point of time, then you can never go wrong,.. Whatever you might be saying or doing will be in perfect alignment with the Life itself regardless of how external people might perceive it. Life will then flow through your Being and through you people will get their own lessons without any effort or without you even noticing or wanting it. 

Be true to yourself and automatically you will be true to the external existence, hence there’s no need to further analyze your actions and speech.. Trust and love yourself and your life will become a synchronistic course of events.. Flow with life and know that you are being taken care of. 

Love and friendship

True selfless and sincere friendship nowadays is almost utopic. But in order to find such an utopia, first become that utopia yourself. Offer all those qualities which are found in the perfect friend. Be gentle, generous, kind, forgiving, understanding, soothing and nourishing your friends as you would do it for yourself. Do it selflessly and those who don’t qualify for being your friends will disappear by default or they’re going to show their true face, becoming entitled, arrogant, controlling and /or abusive. You will know what to do. The new “weapon” is free flowing of your true being, pure love and selflessness and whoever is not suitable with your flow you can remove by conscious decision or they will disappear themselves because of the energy mismatch.

True friends in this life will definitely not be many, and true friends are united by mutual respect  honesty and unconditional love. True friendship may be the best way to find our life partner. True friends are like-minded, they are complementing each other. As such if you find that person who is able to talk to you for hours and both feel pleasant and enjoy the talk, you should know that whenever physical beauty disappears, the mental, spiritual and emotional will be still there. So if you are falling in love with your best friend, if they are alone and the feeling is mutual, then you are one of very few very fortunate people in this dimension. Treasure and appreciate what you have found because it’s such a blessing from the Universe. 

But as a fire has to be taken care of and maintained by constant feeding it with combustible elements, similarly the true love and friendship has to be enforced by actions, emotions and words! 

Everyone knows nowadays to hurt others, to control or try to, to punish and to do low vibrational deeds, it’s so easy because the realm is mostly polarized towards the negative, but those who fight against the stream, against the “natural tendency” of the world, being humble and honest, loving and caring, understanding and forgiving,.. They’re going to reap the best of the fruits, rare fruits that are very scarcely appearing in the world, named true love and friendship. 

You don’t have it yet? It’s because you haven’t reached that vibration, because we attract what we are. If you attract fake people how does that make you? If you attract angry people, guess why? You got the point. In this world what you want to attract you have to become. You should become that without desire; you don’t decide I want to attract honest people, but you become honesty yourself and you will lose those who are no longer matching your vibration and you will open the gate for meeting people that are on the same page. 

Stop complaining, if you want love, be love yourself! But be aware because if you are throwing pearls before the swines that doesn’t make you loving, but stupid (and loving 😁). If you see that you are offering yourself honestly, free-flowing and people are becoming arrogant and cocky, trying to manipulate and take advantage of you, you block them from receiving your free flow. Otherwise you deserve them. 

Plant before you harvest! Be vulnerable and honest but not stupid! Observe people how do they use your honest approach and your free flow, if they are not freely flowing themselves, fracture will be created and a huge precipice is growing between you too. You can give extra chances if you feel like they might deserve it, but if you see that nothing changes, probably it’s time to say goodbye to them. 

Let go of control otherwise you will encounter control freaks like you. Let go of expectations otherwise how can you meet something extraordinary? Don’t rely on your senses because they’re limited and they can trick you! Rely on your heart, on your inner gut feeling. When you will be talking to a person who is free flowing, your heart will be rejoicing, you will feel home, no matter if you are talking about some important topics or not. 

True friends might be coming to teach us, to scold us, to fight us, especially when you are wrong, because they want you good, they are not afraid to lose you, they are always themselves. Fake friends are avoiding confrontation, they are just minding their agenda and see only their comfort and fun as their purpose in the friendship. 

My well wishes to all of you, and remember to become what you are looking for! 

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This is what I feel about true friendship in this world, but it is just my opinion so from other people’s perspective I might be mistaken. If you disagree please leave me a message. I would love to hear your idea about this topic.