Category: love

Flowing with life vs controlling it

As long as there hasn’t been any inner work of acknowledgment of the inner programming and unpacking of the hidden undercurrents, be it subconscious or unconscious, how can we truly flow with life? That supposed flow with life will be just going with distortions and social viruses planted by the upbringing and the very system that keeps us in its thralls.

But that superficial “flow with life ” even when we’re not fully aware, is way better than trying to force life into a dynamic of controlling its outcomes, that we assume may be the best road to take.  Of course, that doesn’t mean that we are like a leaf in the wind, as we have to have a clear direction. The best is to just blindly trust life and its currents, even when, from the worldly way of seeing things, things look like they are heading “south”.

Trying to exert the utmost control over our lives and circumstances is even more laughable and futile: like a totally unaware Sisyphus, bound to repeat the same fallacy and eternally hoping for a different outcome, with the stubbornness of a bull insisting on hitting a fence, and trying to get on the other side although the door, just couple of meters ahead is wide open.

In order to learn to flow and trust life, we should learn to accept circumstances without trying to make it look better than it is, but we ought to avoid having that cynical approach of: “everything is always bad”, and avoid infusing that belief with the power of our consciousness. By doing so will empower the very thing we try to break away from.

I was many times allowing myself to “flow with life”, unaware of the fact that I am still flowing with past unresolved traumas and unquestioned beliefs that are as far as “flowing with life” as trying to control life’s currents. I would like to introduce my theory that we need someone who can give us a more objective perspective about ourselves, because we may be blindsided by those hidden shadows that we still unknowingly nurture within and by our subjective perception of ourselves.

Therefore, getting a chance to be with or close to someone who is at least as aware as we are is a true blessing. It can be a lover, friend, family member and even a teacher. This blessing we are given by Life itself is a token of unconditional love that the Ultimate Existence silently provides to all its fractals.

There is no being who is not provided with Grace and support from the Ultimate. The problem is our lack of understanding and failure to recognize that EVERYTHING that happens in our lives and given, is a step laid in front of us by our Higher Self, like an invisible wire sent to us, that’s pulling us through and out of the labyrinth of ignorance and false interpretation of life.

So flowing with life is the best approach to have, although without awareness, there will not be that much of a flow, but as I said previously, just a trick of the shadow to express itself unhinged and unnoticed. But even that is a step further and eventually, because the shadow acts in plain sight, we have a chance to notice it and find our way of accepting and transcending it.

It’s a matter of perspective

Each time we complain about our experience, it’s because our expectations are set on “high”. If there’s no expectation or hope neither addiction to a certain outcome, then whatever is given by life is fully received and embraced, and the true lesson of each experience is fully grasped and transcended.

From the perspective of the person who hopes that life should be “good “, each small stumble, each unexpected turn is perceived as very painful and becomes a vicious circle of trying to escape pain and change the outcome and even a intent to manipulate life to flow our way is initiated, and even if with great struggles, we manage to push the outcomes to fit our hopes, we will just postpone and pile up the events that we are so eagerly running away from.

I have been there myself, wondering why life was so difficult and painful. When I started accepting whatever comes my way with the least opposition, Life started flowing like a gentle river, bringing about debris of past rejected elements that I avoided and experiences of all kinds, but although unexpected events still take place, they’re just boulders in the river over which the water flows with ease.

Sometimes it feels like a miraculous way, the manner in which everything unfolds; how if I take time to accept whatever happens; whatever is offered, even if it feels unpleasant, as soon as I accept and embrace that event, it’s like it gets canceled by the very Existence, or one way or another the whole thing gets adjusted, sometimes to an even better situation than previously.

This reminds me of a quote from Tao Te Ching: “Do you have the patience to wait ’till your mud settles and the water is clear?
Can you remain unmoving’ till the right action arises by itself?”

Let’s say, if we are aware that this is a very low-vibration material existence, although not the lowest, and each emotion has to be experienced fully, (as this is the only purpose that we came to fulfill: to have a low experience without losing oneself), then it all start to make sense, and in the worst situations, remembering the nature of this existence, you will find the possibility to relax and even smile.

When we fall into sorrow, guilt, shame, comparison, jealousy, vengeance and other very low feelings, then we feed the very system that we are trying  to  escape.

As soon as an emotion is ignited, we should feel it deeply, so as not to try to escape the feeling that we came here to have, but we shouldn’t employ any escapist or coping mechanism, or allow thoughts and actions to drag us deeper into the depths of victimization.

Let’s say we are rejected: at first every one of us will have a painful reaction as we are programmed to look for good experiences and run for those who are taking us out of our comfort zone. I feel it, it first comes like a huge overwhelming wave that tries to create an immediate response, trying to drag me under the water, blinded by emotions and reacting in an inappropriate way. But I have learned to stay there with the feeling, accepting it, and trying not to react or think about it, just be with the feeling. And whenever I am aware, and I do not react to it, the whole tempest is showing itself for what it truly is: just a storm in a glass of water.

If we knew we were in hell whilst having this exact experience, we would be dancing and rejoicing every single day, remembering to see the blessings that we have in our lives and how this version of hell is quite OK, especially compared to other people’s experience, as soon as we stop antagonizing it. But if we project some sort of idea of a place of pleasure, hope and joy, we are bound for a rough awakening. So you see, it’s all about the perspective. Depends on the angle from which we see everything, and the expectations or lack thereof.

Don’t you see how our own expectations and projections are binding us even more? Transforming a neutral experience that a godlike being came to have, into a belief of being trapped, doomed, tricked, punished, and eventually bringing us back to the same place, less and less aware of the nature of this paradigm, when in reality nothing can bind us and everything is just a projected experience based on mistaken beliefs and assumptions.

I am not able to do it all the time, as many times I am caught off-guard by the waves of life, acting from past distortions and programming, but each time I take my time and allow life to flow at its own accord, I am so happy I managed to do it. The more we do it, we become free from projections, and the world will fail to look neither good nor bad, but it will just flow like the ocean’s waves: one day roughly, one day calm and joyful, another day it may look like they want to destroy and annihilate and other days they’re still as a  lake in a painting.

If you watch the ocean through the window or the TV screen, no storm will scare you, but you will enjoy its dynamism and continuous change and unpredictability. Similarly, if you grasp the nature of this existence, you’ll feel like watching it through a screen, and the tremendous show that it puts into scene will inspire and put you in awe, but it will no longer scare you or catch you off guard.

This is how we are gradually spiritually maturing, slowly growing, enhanced by our trust in life and by the Grace that flows from within us, not separate from the Life that flows equally from within, as everything that we experience outside of us.

How can then be someone to punish or reward us if everything is just us? But because we believe in that predicament, we create a life that will fit our idea of it. Change your perspective and life will feel easier, the power is always in our hands.

Experience it all

One of the tricks through which souls are maneuvered into returning to this experience is the idea of unfinished businesses, things and events that we refused to have, or we were too scared to dare facing.

Attachments are the other trick, and it can be any type of attachment: to an idea, to a lover, to a family member, friend, pet, belonging or all of them together. Another attachment is the religious/ spiritual one that can be used against us.

Ideally, every single day we should accept whatever is laid in front of us, without rejecting or denying it, just fully accepting whatever is given, as we accept a movie plot at the cinema, knowing that we can’t change the direction of the events in the projected movie. But through the experience we have, we have the potential to change things. Unfortunately, we mostly have the power to get more lost rather than grow out of it. Everything is made addictive, so we get hooked onto each experience and crave for more. That’s when the game gets a grip on the player instead of the situation being otherwise.

You came to have this experience, have it fully, embracing each particle of it, while trying not to get captured in its snare. “Be in the world but not of the world”.

Have everything but make sure you don’t crave anything, make sure you make peace with the idea of you potentially leaving this game tomorrow and be ready not to look back, either at family, lover or any other potential trap to bring you back.

Do not get stuck in the movie you just finished, but continue to let go of it, and every experience and be ready for the next one. The capacity to let go of everything, anything and anyone at any point is the key to successfully escaping the trap of being stuck in the game.

There’s no debt you owe to anyone and nobody owes you anything. If you know this, you’ll be safe. Our kindness is used against us when we are leaving, as a manipulation tactic. Guilt and shame and even the sense of duty will be used against us. Beings reminiscing religious figures of our choice will be employed to keep us in the loop. 

Promises of evolution, enlightenment and the achievement of perfection will try to trick one into coming back. But you should know that we are already all-knowingly, perfect and enlightened.

There are no stairs to climb, no place to reach, nothing to achieve. You’re just a being that has it all, yet wants to explore lower, and rather limited realms. It’s like a wealthy person having planes, helicopters and other vehicles yet enjoying the thrill of riding an old bike or skateboard and eventually becoming oblivious of his previous belongings. You can always get back to your vehicles and not remain stuck with the skateboard. The trick here is that, in the game we play, we can become forgetful of all those flying vehicles and allow ourselves to identify with the skateboard and get tricked into repeating the experience with the promise of a car, when, in reality, we are not even bound to time and space, hence even planes or helicopters are not really necessary.

If you are Everything that ever was, is and will be, which we all are, how can you owe anything to anyone, or how can anyone be indebted to you?

Even though the sun is hidden for days and weeks by clouds, that doesn’t mean it disappeared. As such, although you’re unaware of the Divine essence within you, that doesn’t mean that its existence is canceled by your unawareness of it.

Playing it safe in life is avoidance of the experience and, although many assume greatness or even sanctity in playing it safe, they are just deluding themselves. They’re deluded by their one-sided perspective. Whereas those who traveled deep within the hellish realms and yet traveled back through the obstacles and opposition, back to wholesomeness, those are the true unrecognized heroes.

So make sure you experience it all, whatever is yours to have, finish everything on your plate, or you might get tricked into return by your own unfulfilled desires and experiences and unfinished businesses and attachments.

Don’t make a big deal out of anything, forget, forgive and love unconditionally, be kind and selflessly giving, live courageously and know that you are already perfect, wise and enlightened. You just forgot! Now remember!

True happiness

Our idea of happiness, whilst associated with a person, an object, a place or time, is doomed to flip into unhappiness.

As long as we project the idea of happiness and associate it with anything or anyone outside of us, it will inevitably create and bring about the opposite of what we want, hope, and expect.

Let’s say that we associate our happiness with our loving wife or husband, with whom we share a beautiful relationship. Eventually, that relationship will end one way or another, be it separation, death or any other possible reason; the certain thing is that it is going to end. So happiness being rooted in the external world (outside of us) is always prone to failure.

True happiness is when we finally reside fully within our body, untouched by any external event, people or anything, always bathing in the blissful light of our Being. That happiness is the only true happiness that is worth searching for. It’s the coming-home feeling, the ultimate love found in the union of the Divine Feminine and Masculine inside our very Being, Yin and Yang, and Yoga (Union).

While writing this, I am bathing in that inner happiness that relies on nothing outside of me, and, therefore, it is not bound to vanish ever, even in the moments of distress when I am called outside my being, or when I am distracted and separated from it; that inner peace is still there silently shining, like an inner sun dazzling from within, just for me to remember to return to after the outside incursion.

This true happiness that I am talking about is the very essence of our Being, the Love of the primordial Source hidden in the center of all those particles that separated from It, one day to return home, called by the Highest Vibration of Love and Bliss that is reunification with the Eternal.

The message I am trying to convey is rather abstract and hard, almost impossible to put into words, but without a doubt can be felt and accessed within your very Self. Therefore, dare to look inside yourself and find that most intimate, deepest connection and Love that is always closer to you and your heart than anything and that was patiently waiting for you to remember to listen to that inner silence that sings, to touch that inner peace that can change not only our bodies and proximity but the very world we’re experiencing and everything that we bring into our active consciousness.

Once we get even a glimpse of this true Happiness, we will not put all the eggs into one (external) basket; we won’t be easily distracted by the external calls of the Illusion to capture our attention and energy, but we will calmly step outside (into the world – matrix) with that unshakeable determination and playful attitude that being established in our own Essence can give us.

We were never unhappy, just disconnected from the Source, that Source that is within us and all over outside of us, and there’s nothing that is not That.

Radical self-acceptance

Radical self-acceptance is true self-love. It’s hard, and it doesn’t come easy, as we were told since early childhood that we are not enough, unless we do this or that, look or behave in a certain way.

I train myself in embodying this self-acceptance by allowing myself to say or do stupid things without trying to save face, without defending. I see myself wanting to write a message to someone and, either while writing it or right after, I see it being incomplete, insufficient, silly or outright stupid or just too revealing. Although I am tempted to delete it or edit it I am leaving it there as it is, most of the time, as I am not trying to create a good image of myself anymore. I am more and more allowing people to perceive me as they want, and I  sometimes enjoy observing myself and that inner struggle I have in which I force myself not to defend or correct people’s impressions of me.

Of course, I am still work in progress, so I am at points catching myself trying to repair it and I even do it sometimes. But I am heading there.

How can we truly accept someone else in our lives fully when we haven’t yet done that in our cases? How can we accept someone else’s flaws and differences unless we’ve at least started to do that about ourselves.

Radical self-acceptance is a mandatory step on the path to remembering and embracing who we truly are. And self acceptance is not about all the bright features and characteristics, but wholesomely and fully incorporating every single aspect especially the undesirable ones courageously.

I am many times writing something to a girl that I fancy, and after I sent the message I go back and read it again and I see all the things I can improve, I should delete or edit… Most of the time I leave it as it is, offering an off-ramp, a possibility to see this part of mine which can help them run away. Why walking on eggshells? I am what I am, and I will definitely continue to do or say things that are less than perfect. Why would I try to create a fake image about myself when I like people to see me as I am?, so in case they like me, they will like the real me, and not some fancy image that I created, and that I assume would be better than the real me.

This is where we are wrong and hence we keep unnecessary people in our proximity through the fake image we project, enforce, and we keep our true soul-family and potential suitable partners apart because of our fear of not being “perfect” or enough by failure to fully embracing our own expression.

I am enough! For myself at least, therefore in my life, and with my apparent flawed version that I dare to expose to the outside world now a miracle happens: People are reacting different to me, people who used to like me (the mask) are not anymore interested and people who are more genuine and are as unapologetically themselves as I am learning to be are attracted to me. It’s beautiful. Finally, not trying to please anyone, nor playing roles, not trying to save face or force a certain perception onto people, but radical self-acceptance.

If you haven’t tried it, I recommend you to give it a shot. Yes, you’ll lose some unnecessary acquaintances in the process, but you can’t lose what’s yours, so be happy, as a more real life is being shaped and you’re slowly removing unnecessary debris from the old idea of how you ought to be and you start discovering who you truly are.

Once you start loving yourself for who you are, others will be more open to accepting and loving you for that. Isn’t that amazing?

Oh, woman

Oh woman, you beautiful celestial being. On your energy, empires rose to prominence, and empires declined; you are powerful beyond anything. Just by your whisper in the ear of your man, so much can happen. People can vanish like they never existed, and people can come into existence just by your sheer volition.

Many have tried to enslave and control you, yet only by your ignorant complicity and not knowing who you are have they managed to achieve this terrible goal, as through you, the world can crumble, but also be reborn.

Men are reduced to beasts when exposed to your beauty, sexiness, and power. All their intelligence and wisdom is canceled by your smile and you playing with your hair.

But you should know that with great power comes great responsibility, so don’t let yourself be dragged into the lower games as men do, because if you are lost, then the world is lost as well.

Don’t let yourself be pulled into the lowest of the material realm, as your power, if wisely used, is creating all the wealth and charisma that you can dream of without you needing to force anything. Shower your man with love and care and let him love you back, protecting and providing in the material plane while you are supporting everything on an energetic level. Your beauty lies in your inner power that transcends and transpires through your being, not because of some accessories or tricks you use to make yourself look better.

You are already beautiful exactly how you are, no matter how you look; if you let your true nature be revealed, men are lost in your charms without you trying anything, just by daring to fully show yourself.

Men may look at physical qualities and get mesmerized, like dumb animals falling into the sensual trap, but those are the low-level ones, barely different than the beasts. Every woman has at least one man who is lost in her image regardless of whether she has nails, some fancy hairstyle, makeup, beautiful clothes, or anything external.

That man sees you as a wholesome woman made of everything that you embody: your joy, your beauty, your wisdom, your kindness, purity, and your natural beauty, and even if you might see yourself far from perfection… For him, you should know that you are his one and only!

Why don’t you drag your man out of the swamp of evil, ignorance and greed? For you, it would be so easy. Your love and dedication can heal you both. And your beauty of your soul, love and dedication can heal the entire world.

Why don’t you embrace your highest nature of priestess of the Highest, mother of the world and all, a blessing for the righteous knights fighting their demons, and protecting their lady, and a curse for the ones who are remaining in their evil path; without you even wishing so, as the whole creation lays by your feet, ready to jump and devour those who dare to mistreat you.

With your honesty and purity of heart, every entity will start obeying, as they cannot oppose the mother, nor the lover nor the priestess. Of course, by choice, you can be a witch and evil and demonic and fall into victimization as you might have done in previous times. But that’s not you; it is just a shadow. A shadow born out of fear, sheer pain, and insecurity. A role you wanted to play to feel the power. But know that that’s not real power, that comes from trauma. Your true power comes from Love, knowing that you came here to choose your path of freedom, wholesomeness, and transcendence.

To make sure that the path you’re on is pure, see if your action comes from pain and fear, and revenge. Now check your actions if they might be coming from forgiveness and love and understanding, as a loving mother forgives their mischievous kids every single day.

I know at points you feel that they might deserve your wrath, and you might be right to an extent. But know that if we choose to be a tool of justice, we may also expose ourselves to the immutable divine justice that is left in place to guard this realm.

You are the wounded healer who overcame its lower nature and now steps on the same paths that Gods have trod. Do you think that those you see walking beside you can’t destroy those evil just by their raising of a finger? But that’s not the path of the High, as the Highest has patience and implemented rules, laws, rulers, and enforcers that interfere when the balance is broken. Hence rarely do gods interfere, as everything and everyone is brought eventually to balance. But guard your being like a lioness if necessary, and roar at them so they’ll be warned; let them walk backward ashamed, let them recognize and respect your boundaries.

Everything is perfect in its apparent imperfection! Then so are you, oh beautiful woman, just open your eyes and see! Don’t let yourself compare with others, as you’re unique and great and full of wisdom at your level and time and you’re continuously expanding. Smile and let yourself flow with your own heart and Essence of the Being, and see how everything is arranged by life without a doubt. Decide to honor your place among the Gods, as you are virtuous and worthy and without flaw.

Whatever we have done at points was because we were maybe ignorant and growing, as kids grow wiser through trial and error. Don’t let those events in the past shadow your true effulgence in the present moment, as we need you mothers, lovers, and priestesses, and through your love to us, remove our veils of ignorance, greed, and excessive sensuality, and together rise on our thrones of diamond: Emperor and his beloved Empress, an example of honor, Love and Grace and power altogether.

Recognizing true love

When it hits you, you will know it. Everything else will seem like jokes. Every other previous relationship will look like a parody or a kindergarten work.

Even if it’s not immediate recognition, you will feel something different. There’s something that you can’t pinpoint, something that finally clicks. And it’s not (only) on a physical basis, although that is most likely there too.

Things that others or even you considered about yourself as being flaws throughout your life, are appealing for that “one and only”. But I have to warn you that a lot of trial and error might be needed until that union is unlocked. Therefore dare to immerse yourself in love and life with courage and perseverance. Love and be loved; try to always bring a higher awareness, virtues, purity, and wisdom to the new relationship, and it may be the perfect one that you’ve been craving. If it is not that, be happy that you passed through a new opportunity to become better every single time, so that will ensure that you are better prepared for the very best whenever time is right.

Exercise truth and virtue and Grace will be with you, decide to shift the gears, and forget about the old, stałe and obsolete. Don’t be upset in case of failure. Know for sure that you are training for the real deal. Even scarred and hurt, you can rise again and allow yourself to dedicate  again, with force and determination.

I promise you, when you have done all your homework and maybe when you have lost all hope, but you’re still having your heart open only you don’t believe much anymore in the possibility of meeting “the one and only”, then he/she appears…

They’re both beaten by lives they’ve experienced and they are scarred like two pitbulls that survived lots of fights. They’re at first checking each other incredulously; feeling something, but  no longer jumping head first. They feel the attraction, but then again: “it happened so many times and it wasn’t that, right”? So they take everything with a cautious excitement, neither believing nor dismissing, but observing without hope nor fear, but with their open hearts taking again the leap of faith.

Be fully yourself this time, be fully truthful, show yourself in your full blaze of your Being. Whoever is not your person will run away for sure. Don’t you walk on eggshells ever again! Don’t wear masks no more! Just be yourself, but respect and accept other’s differences while honoring yourself and your self-expression fully too. But if you know that you want only That, the true One and Only, the pure Chintamani gem of your soul, why would you waste your time with anything less than that?

When that person appears, you feel like you can finally relax, you are accepted and seen as and for what you are, and you equally do it yourself. No matter if close or far, the hearts are connected, you can feel it. There’s connection, there’s love, there’s recognition. And yes, even if one of them is still not yet opened up fully, you can tell that the feelings are equally shared, a sense of deep longing takes place even after short breaks in the communication due to different chores and programs. A feeling of coming home is recognized while in the presence of the other.

It might not be easy since life has a funny sense of humor, and different aspects might give an idea of things being complicated, yes. But there’s true love that makes one endure whatever fire of purification and renewal is there. The present moment is acknowledged and treasured; a deep and subtle spiritual teaching is taking place just through sheer interaction, and the teaching is mutual and happens naturally, unforced. They are both learning one from the other, just like two communicating vessels equalizing each other in knowledge and vibration. It’s like merging. It’s beautiful, might be rough, but if hearts are open, everything is dealt with with ease, and the growth of their perception is exponentially and steadily expanding.

Love is the background and base of everything, and everything becomes easier; everything that seemed like a pain in the arse is now just another buzzing mosquito that fails to scare anyone.

Love is healing and empowering; it is undoubtedly the most powerful force in Existence; it’s the force motrice of Everything.

May all readers be given the chance to experience the ultimate love!

Life is a movie

Life is a movie that is so well made that it absorbs us in it, it captures us with its plots and twists that we risk forgetting ourselves and getting immersed in the drama and the apparent tragedy that’s on the screen.

Our Higher Self enjoys the movie, and it does so because of the interactive aspect of it and because each element can bring about expansion but it can also entrap the soul by the forgetfulness of who and what we are. The identification with the body is one of the traps. It’s like meeting someone and presenting yourself:

Hi, I am Nissan!

Hi, I am Ford

Sounds silly isn’t it? Now, know that we are pure Light and a splinter of the fabric of Everything g that Is, how can we be John or Jane? We drive a “John” or “Jane” vehicle, Yes, but we are definitely not limited nor bound to that. But the idea that we are John binds us to that prison, the body of John, which limits very much our perception about everything, and entraps us into the self-created snare.

No matter how we may perceive it, the movie (life) is a masterpiece. It’s such a great success that we lost ourselves in its thralls, lives after lives. But nothing is that tragic, nothing is bad. We chose to forget ourselves or we were captured by the intricacy and by its unexpected turns and flips, so what? Look at the amount of experience we’ve accumulated.

One way to pull ourselves out of our limitedness is remembering that we are beyond everything we see, believe, or feel, and I am being purposely a bit ambiguous because it’s enough to just remember that we are definitely not what we assume we are, and everyone should find out for themselves who, what, and why they came to this experience, as each of us has a different set of goals and minute purposes beyond the general one of removing ignorance, and limitations.

When we see the movie as being a movie and stop identifying with the vehicle, the change in perception is instant. It’s like an “aha” moment. It doesn’t enlighten one right away, actually, it can take some time according to each individual, because the lower mind is like a separate entity in itself, trying to preserve its power over us by creating scenarios and parallel scripts besides the already intricate scenario of life itself, to deceive us when it feels like we are close to restoring our self-awareness.

One advice that I give myself and I gladly share with you my dear reader is: whenever you feel threatened, fearful or worried, try to remember that it’s an interactive movie that you came here to dive deep into and  master, and allow Love to fill you up to the brim, love for the movie, for yourself, and everything.

  Smile , breathe and relax and understand once and for all that although we are powerful beyond anything we can imagine, we came to explore and experience exactly this “rudimentary” state in which we find ourselves in at the moment. So try to enjoy it, and instead of becoming a casualty of “the movie”, just laugh and cry and flow with its script, but don’t forget who you are, and most importantly: remember what you are NOT! You are not Nissan, Mercedes neither Opel, as you are definitely not John neither Jane, these are all just vehicles. It’s recommended to take good care of your vehicle, as it is an important tool for us but not to identify ourselves with it.

And to reiterate my point once again I would like you to try to remember something that happened recently and that “shook your world” and try to see it now knowing that you are not a victim of life, but its very Creator. Know that You (with capital Y) are enjoying all these obstacles and trouble, as a cinephile enjoys a good movie, since a movie that is all good and monotonous in its “all goodness” will fail to attract interest, especially if it doesn’t have some ups and downs and twists and turns.

Now let’s see all the drama from our past with this newly acquired understanding, is it still scary? Still shaking our world? There’s no drama, right? It was just the limited perception we had about the world that deceived us. Trust me, even pain seems like it’s not that painful anymore. Don’t get me wrong, it is still felt, but the knowledge that we are watching a movie, if properly understood, will rewrite the script and our perception will expand and become more and more real until we recognize everything as being our creation, our own game that we chose to participate in for sport.

Another perspective on Suffering

Every single person in this existence is one way or another suffering, that is an indisputable affirmation.

Suffering is changing places în a Divine directed sequence in our lives with periods of joy and carelessness. One of the most unknown reasons for suffering, among other more obvious ones that I am not going to address in this article, is that it serves as a reminder of the blessings that we are taking for granted, that we forgot to be grateful for their presence in our lives, so the ungrateful gets a glimpse of how life is without those things that he/she must have taken for granted.

Let’s not go too far into complicated examples, but I will give you an example through a recent realization of mine while trying to sleep, recovering from a heavy cold: I was struggling with my blocked nose and sinuses for days, and to have the nose blocked is so frustrating and annoying.

As soon as I got both nostrils unobstructed I felt relieved, joyful, and grateful, and I realized how many apparently small things we are taking for granted, yet as soon as any of them are temporarily or permanently removed we start lamenting, we realize their true value and place in our lives and we realize what an ungrateful beings the humans are.

It’s so sad, because in nature such issues do not occur, but since we disconnected ourselves from it, by forgetting the fact that we are part of it, we developed atrocious features that not even predators in the animal kingdom display.

If an animal is saved or taken care of by a human, that animal will most likely be forever grateful to that human that shows them compassion. But humans become used to being helped and gratitude is less and less part of their approach to help regardless of what kind. I have noticed especially that the new generation, in their majority, is devoid of this precious feature.

So, from my own experience I can testify that as soon as we start taking things for granted, life will put its gears into movement towards the removal of that blessing that we disregard. It may take a while, or at times it can be quite fast, especially if it is a typical approach of ours.

This is the amazing teaching of life saying “Appreciate what you are having, or you are going to have it taken away”. And it works like that for people who believe that they can continuously trash their own bodies with bad food, alcohol and other ways of taking their body for granted.

Others maybe forgot to tell their partners how much they mean to them, how much they love and appreciate them. Oh, boy! It does miracles, it brings the light into the face of the other! Whisper it in their ear when they least expect it. Try it, especially if you haven’t done it in a while, you will feel that love reigniting, because whatever we put out there, definitely comes back to us. And it’s all because we’ve remembered to throw some wood over a smoldering, almost dying fire.

The secret is that nothing gets really taken away, but by not investing our energy into it, the connection with that thing is gradually diminished and damaged. So invest energy in Love, in taking good care of yourself and your dwelling place, reminding people in your life of how much you appreciate them, play with your kids and pets and leave the phone aside, and it’s not that suffering may disappear, since it alternates with good times like the ebbing and flowing of the ocean. in this paradigm we’re experiencung, but you will easily go over those periods of discomfort and most important of all, you will know that you did all that was in your capacity.

Sometimes even if we give our 100%, there’s no guarantee for success since it’s not in our power to control outcomes, but undoubtedly if we do our best diligently, we will definitely succeed more often than if we are not fully involved.

Ideally, we should remember at least once a week to count our blessings, to be grateful for the people, objects, and everything that we are being given, and to remind ourselves how lucky and blessed we are, and that’s the way to attract more blessings, instead of seeing what we are lacking and inevitably attracting more lack.

Be Love

My dear, hang in there! The journey towards fulfilment of our love is bumpy, and because such a love will simply burn by its powerful radiation every darkness and impurity, that old, stale and dark will not want to go without putting up a fight. 

Buckle up, my love; it may look like a tough one, yet if our decision is made, there’s nothing that can be done to break us apart. Trust, stay with that decision of being together no matter what, and we’re transforming this apparent tough battle into a walk in the park. 

What they can do is use our weaknesses, they can temporarily enhance fears, they can make things appear darker than they truly are, they can use all our flaws, temporarily enhancing them, so that we would self-sabotage our relationship. 

They don’t have any power unless we’re investing them with our power. At points, they can make it look like I am the worst, that I am low, or I don’t love you, or that I betrayed you. Just breathe and let time reveal everything. Don’t jump into drawing conclusions, rather give me a chance to dispel the cloud that veils. Let the magic mist vanish by itself because, without our involvement, its power is inexistent. 

The power of evil is to use our unresolved traumas and soft spots and play us with mirrors and veils, but if we don’t play this game, if we don’t feed those dark thoughts if we don’t fall for tricks, we abstain from saying unnecessary words that hurt and we abstain from rushing to react,… Their power is 0. 
Remember evil has as much power over you as you give it, if you don’t give any power, it will fail to derail you. You are powerful beyond anything you can imagine at this point in time. For now, just trust me, and let us slowly allow ourselves to wake up to that innate magnanimity of our Oneness if our love is fulfilled.

Have patience. Whatever things may look like, before you even enquire about them, make sure you have your heart filled with love, then breathe in and out; relax and take enough time to rest. Their trick is to create a snowballing effect: thought – emotion – action. Stand still and let the storm pass first. Time is the enemy of darkness, as light is slowly swallowing the dark and occult, and time is the ally of the patient. 

If enough time is allowed to pass without allowing the snowball to roll down the hill, the snowball will vanish. 

Sometimes I feel like running too, I know such a love has a huge responsibility and has an effect of stirring all the crap left unresolved, such a love is the ultimate catalyst for the transmutation of the old and dark into pure Love, light and Divine Fire. But all the old and the unnecessary has to be abandoned and that’s our task.

Don’t hate the opposing force! It’s just a program, acting by Divine mandate, that tests the weak and lazy ones and sends them back to school to learn the missing lessons. Rather use everything to your own advantage. Like water, like fire. They’re neutral, yet they can be used to kill or to save, it’s always a matter of choice. Make sure that your choice is virtuous and comes from love, and no harm can touch you. We should always flip the tables and see how we can apply more virtue, and how we can fight our lower nature, rather than finding external elements, or entities to blame for the situation. This is the approach of the wise.

Now, come to me. I know we are ready to face ourselves and face the storm that purifies us. Look at the marks in the sand, I am always walking beside you. You see your footprints and mine, side by side. When the storm comes, there’s only one pair of footprints, yes! But worry not, you’re not alone, I haven’t left you. Those footprints are mine and I am carrying you in my arms. 

Come home, my dear. We are ready. We are One. 

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Let this be inspiration for beings of Light having a human experience, in their search, maintaining, nurturing and fulfillment of Divine Love with their Divine counterparts.

That peace, that love, that bliss…

Once we taste a very good quality of Sencha tea, in my case my favorite is organic Midori No Kaori from Uji province in Japan, then everything else that is below that level no longer feels tasty as it used to be, all of the sudden they all feel fake, a very faint reminiscence of what true quality should taste like. 

As such with our true Being, once we get a glimpse of that inner Being that resides in all and everything, the peace that we feel (that is the emanation of the Being), is like the scent of the rose… invisible yet powerful and going beyond the limitations of the physical form. 

Sometimes we are dragged back into the vortex of Samsara, the very mundane life that we thought we uprooted but even if we allow ourselves to be blinded again for a while, we will long for that true essence which sheds light to the so called reality we are living in and makes it look like a black and white movie that can’t be mistaken for reality. 

At points the emotional turmoil captures our awareness and we lack that spiritual objectivity from before the upheaval, but deep inside ourselves that Being is slowly unveiled, like growing (although in reality nothing is growing, everything was always there, only under some heavy veils and distortions). As soon as the power of the emotions subsides, peace comes back in unless we are trying to draw conclusions, analyze and give meaning to things that have no meaning whatsoever. Whatever happens has no true purpose other than teaching you to accept and let go in each and every moment of Now. Thoughts are bombarding us with suggestions: do this, do that, don’t do this and that, leave, run, attack.. 

The best approach is to smile or even laugh out loud. It’s at that moment that all the power that we invested our mind with is similar to the power that we give to the government and politicians that are no longer working in our best interest anymore,..everything fake falls into pieces by the Lotus feet of the Ultimate Existence – which we all are part of.  

Annihilate the mind projections and analysis, the thoughts and feelings and you are going to dive deep into your Being, no judgment, no projection, no concepts…Become pure perception, just pure unhindered existence. That’s who we all are. That peace, that Love, that bliss, that calmness and humbleness is who we truly are.

 All the rest, ideas, names, titles, possessions, attire, and anything other than that are just separating tools, tools that empower the lower ego, the “little self” who is forever victimized and in fear, who judges and analyzes the experience through past traumas and distorted memories and is driven by the desire to control the external environment. 

When you are able to get even for a small amount of time away from the mind and ego and taste that inner Blissful Being, then you will have only one vision: how to expand that Being which is You and Everything, into transcending all the past ideas and rulers and becoming fully That which you have always been. 

The selfless person is not competing anymore for anything, because they know that what’s theirs is there without effort, without fighting (for it), just because of who they are, because they’re flowing with Life and know that what’s theirs to have cannot be taken away and they do not let the experience bound them. We are One and All already, why are you running for a minute portion when you are everything that ever was, is and will be. Don’t misinterpret the “without the effort” part, we still have to give our 100% in everything we do, yet it comes almost effortless since it is a flow of You in the experience.

Now sit back and watch everything from the point of view of the information you’ve received. Everything is empowered and created by you. All your pleasure and pain is just seeing your creation through a very narrow standing point. Once you transcend, the illusion seems like it lost its shine, you see the flaws of the narrative that’s supposed to keep you asleep, and the ephemeral nature of everything within it and now you know that you are immortal and you are going to Be, long after this whole movie will end!

True love, a rare gem

Give people the freedom to be who they want to be, how they want to be, and with whom they want to be. Love doesn’t mean control. True love means total surrender to life and to the partner. Real love is devoid of possessiveness or jealousy. When we truly love someone, that true love is changing us and is pulling us “up”, out of the old idea of what “love” use to mean in the past, when the need to control the partner was part of the “normal love” characteristics, jealousy was seen as a result of love and possessiveness a sign of love and attachment.

Actually although it may interfere with your way of understanding love now, real love is the capacity of letting go of your lover(if needed) for the sake of their happiness. Whatever we have, be it things, people or any other things we are supposed to hold them with the open hand, not tight, but like we are holding a butterfly, without touching so we won’t damage and keeping the hand fully open so that they are free to leave whenever they feel like. This approach will create a current of positive energy that will bring you everything you need and will help you to lose all the pointless things and people.

Are you able to do it? It’s very hard, I know. Very hard because it’s so otherworldly that it doesn’t make any sense to anyone. Why? Because we are all players. Our own insecurity and lack of confidence, plus the lack of like-minded people that see the things the same way makes this task almost impossible. It’s unfortunate to project this kind of love onto unworthy people because they’re going to take advantage of us and use it against us. But so what? even if we do it , we did our best, we gave everything, if the love is genuine we’ll be happy for them that they found their happiness elsewhere. But if your love is not genuine why were you with them in the first place? If you did it with a person that wasn’t the right one, take it as a training that brings you close to perfection for the real soul mate.

Be selfless and taking everything lightly, with ease, patience and understanding. Your old player mind will say: “I told you, you and your sincerity and genuineness, look where they took you…” But don’t worry, the Universe has its way of balancing everything, you will find a more worthy partner. The real test of love comes when you are facing defeat, when you lost the person you think you love. Someone very dear to me once said: “If you are sinking, sink graciously…” Thank you dear for the wonderful teaching!, for me it became a very important thing to work with: learning to lose, since before learning to win anything one must learn how to lose.

In those moments thoughts of vengeance and violence arise in one’s mind. Where is the love? It is blinded by fear, of being alone, of being without the person that we were trying to be with (or to control). Love is letting go, with grace, with humbleness and with understanding. Let him/her go and if they are meant to be yours they’re going to be there with you or coming back soon. Isn’t it better to lose a person which is not destined to be with you? Why would you want to have someone who is not for you?

Offer what you want to receive! It works in love as well as in whatever part of life. You want sincerity? be sincere, you want honesty, freedom, understanding, peacefulness? then offer them yourself and you will be getting them back. It’s possible that it may not be from the same person, but then open yourself for knowing the real one, one that shares the same values that complements you, which completes you, and that understands love and life the exact way that you understand it. Although 100% compatibility may be an utopia, be ready to compromise, learn to let go of control and stop playing game of string in the relationship. When we truly love someone compromising doesn’t seem to be compromising at all, it’s just a natural flow of Being. Learn to sacrifice own stiffness for the flexibility of flowing in love and life.

The game of string is when you falsely let go of a person because you know that the reverse psychology will bring them to you, it is a lower level game, a game of control and deceit. Some play it on a smaller level, not answering messages or playing hard to get. Learn to be vulnerable in true love, but first make sure that the person that you are with it is “the one”. The one might be recognized by the “love at first sight”(although it’s not happening all the time) feeling or at least is how my intuition tells me that it has to be. At least the feeling of knowing him/her, or a deep feeling of like-mindedness should be there. It is not very often that one may feel that, of course being attracted and feeling of good chemistry may feel like it, yet it may not be.

The recognition of the real past connection, or a connection with a like-minded being is a relationship that is very nourishing but also very demanding, challenging and transformative, with lots of hard work from both side, but in the end the prize is the ultimate love, the perfect partnership. Are you ready to sacrifice old beliefs and stereotypes which delude people and transforms them into hypocrites that are hiding who they truly are, because they are afraid of losing their lover? Are you ready to remove desire to control, are you ready to surrender everything to the flow of life trusting it fully? Are you ready to accept to be vulnerable?

Who would you like the lover that you desire, to fall inlove with? With the role that you are playing, or with the real you? It works the same in physical, mental and spiritual level, why creating a version of yourself that the other may like? Show yourself with all the things that you may not be so proud of, but by exposing everything you don’t risk to lose the person afterwards, let them run now when it’s early, but if they don’t run, you got yourself a person who really love you for who you truly are.
Find out first, who you truly are since you were used to play role games your whole life, and then, expose yourself entirely. You will lose unnecessary people in the process, but it’s all part of the new You. Everything that is no longer important will disappear, it will dissolve by itself you will start attracting real like-minded people since you are no longer a hypocrite. Fake attracts fake and real attracts real. Be what you want to attract in your life 😉.

Don’t confuse being a cad with being free or expressing yourself. Being who you are is devoid of aggressiveness or show-off, no hidden agenda nor bad intentions. It is pure expression of self without fear, and without dissimulation.
Due to certain veils one of the factions may not be able to recognize the other as being the love of their life in potentiality, but patience, true love, understanding and humbleness may be a good approach to make them recognize you.

Dear readers, I wish to all of you that you find that soul mate, that real being which make you vibrate love and harmony, may your own metamorphosis from caterpillar to butterfly bring you the butterfly that you deserve.