love – Inspired by and dedicated to Jivanmukti and Siddha Param-Para

When the silence talks

Throughout the years of my life, I have had experiences that could have easily been spread over several lifetimes, such concentrated lessons in a succession of events that seemed at points to be the very end of the experience in this body. That’s how strongly their pain has been felt.

An external observer would be unable to assess the true vastness and range of experiences, as many of the recent events that touched me were mostly internal battles, inner struggles and processes of transmutation. I am amazed by the fact that I am still here, back again from my inner infernal places, able to write about it all.

I have risen and fallen so many times. I have reached heights of understanding and realizations that I am still surprised I managed to grasp, and at points I was deprived (I forgot) of all that knowledge and wisdom, and even been pushed again to plunge so deep back into the very depths of my shadowy self, to the very abyss that we are all trying to pretend it exists not within our hidden chambers. And yet here I am, all scarred, dusty and almost lost, found again with a true smile on my face and unlimited gratitude to the Grace of the Eternal that manifested through people, events and the entire movements of the gears of Life and its incredible stories and twists.

Such an amazing game of hide and seek we’re playing with ourselves. Such a great example of the living paradox that is a Soul exploring the lower material plane, such a trap, so cunning this construct and so incredibly booby-trapped at every step. Everything yells for our attention and energy, everything is doing its utmost to steal some juice(energy) from us one way or another, to keep us blind, stumbling in mediocrity. It’s indeed a war, but not with any external forces, but with internal self-created demons who are fighting to preserve and defend the status quo, to try and ensure the survival of the old paradigms of control and their self-preservation.

I am living a true miracle, but only now do I recognize it as such. My old self would scoff and roll his eyes in disbelief and hopelessness, as probably the reaction of the majority of people who ever met me. My “miracle” may look like nothing or even like a scary thing for the unadvised. The simplicity of it all is almost impossible to grasp by the overcomplicated reasoning mechanism of the limited mind bound to old concepts. Even I have fallen back to old paradigms so many times, unable to hold onto the realization of the truth.

I am! I truly feel that these 2 words and 3 letters are all encompassing, like the primordial particle out of which everything sprouted out. “I am” is realized in silence.

The silence and its power are often times misunderstood and disregarded. Yet when you dare facing it, embracing it, it’ll talk to you and you will Know! When you embrace the “boredom” of staying in silence with yourself, the whole Universe will reveal its hidden song, the song of Life and Love, the song that reminds us that we are One, that we are enough, and it is in every single moment of Now that we are always wholesome and perfect.

When we embrace what we used to run away from, we will be able to get all the missing parts of the puzzle that we were searching for only in our comfort zone. Such a fallacy, to look for knowledge and wisdom only where we expect it to be, as silly as being on a bridge and losing a precious object in the river, yet deciding to look for it on the bridge to avoid wetting our clothes.

Truth and pieces of it are found in the places that we least expect. One of this “places” is the silence. What’s ignored, and disregarded, has hidden in it some juice that can’t be found elsewhere. Dare to turn each stone in your life upside down with courage and determination, and you will hear the silence that speaks, that sings and that guides.

My deepest gratitude to my Guru and the entire Higher realm that protects and guides us!

True happiness

Our idea of happiness, whilst associated with a person, an object, a place or time, is doomed to flip into unhappiness.

As long as we project the idea of happiness and associate it with anything or anyone outside of us, it will inevitably create and bring about the opposite of what we want, hope, and expect.

Let’s say that we associate our happiness with our loving wife or husband, with whom we share a beautiful relationship. Eventually, that relationship will end one way or another, be it separation, death or any other possible reason; the certain thing is that it is going to end. So happiness being rooted in the external world (outside of us) is always prone to failure.

True happiness is when we finally reside fully within our body, untouched by any external event, people or anything, always bathing in the blissful light of our Being. That happiness is the only true happiness that is worth searching for. It’s the coming-home feeling, the ultimate love found in the union of the Divine Feminine and Masculine inside our very Being, Yin and Yang, and Yoga (Union).

While writing this, I am bathing in that inner happiness that relies on nothing outside of me, and, therefore, it is not bound to vanish ever, even in the moments of distress when I am called outside my being, or when I am distracted and separated from it; that inner peace is still there silently shining, like an inner sun dazzling from within, just for me to remember to return to after the outside incursion.

This true happiness that I am talking about is the very essence of our Being, the Love of the primordial Source hidden in the center of all those particles that separated from It, one day to return home, called by the Highest Vibration of Love and Bliss that is reunification with the Eternal.

The message I am trying to convey is rather abstract and hard, almost impossible to put into words, but without a doubt can be felt and accessed within your very Self. Therefore, dare to look inside yourself and find that most intimate, deepest connection and Love that is always closer to you and your heart than anything and that was patiently waiting for you to remember to listen to that inner silence that sings, to touch that inner peace that can change not only our bodies and proximity but the very world we’re experiencing and everything that we bring into our active consciousness.

Once we get even a glimpse of this true Happiness, we will not put all the eggs into one (external) basket; we won’t be easily distracted by the external calls of the Illusion to capture our attention and energy, but we will calmly step outside (into the world – matrix) with that unshakeable determination and playful attitude that being established in our own Essence can give us.

We were never unhappy, just disconnected from the Source, that Source that is within us and all over outside of us, and there’s nothing that is not That.

Radical self-acceptance

Radical self-acceptance is true self-love. It’s hard, and it doesn’t come easy, as we were told since early childhood that we are not enough, unless we do this or that, look or behave in a certain way.

I train myself in embodying this self-acceptance by allowing myself to say or do stupid things without trying to save face, without defending. I see myself wanting to write a message to someone and, either while writing it or right after, I see it being incomplete, insufficient, silly or outright stupid or just too revealing. Although I am tempted to delete it or edit it I am leaving it there as it is, most of the time, as I am not trying to create a good image of myself anymore. I am more and more allowing people to perceive me as they want, and I sometimes enjoy observing myself and that inner struggle I have in which I force myself not to defend or correct people’s impressions of me.

Of course, I am still work in progress, so I am at points catching myself trying to repair it and I even do it sometimes. But I am heading there.

How can we truly accept someone else in our lives fully when we haven’t yet done that in our cases? How can we accept someone else’s flaws and differences unless we’ve at least started to do that about ourselves.

Radical self-acceptance is a mandatory step on the path to remembering and embracing who we truly are. And self acceptance is not about all the bright features and characteristics, but wholesomely and fully incorporating every single aspect especially the undesirable ones courageously.

I am many times writing something to a girl that I fancy, and after I sent the message I go back and read it again and I see all the things I can improve, I should delete or edit… Most of the time I leave it as it is, offering an off-ramp, a possibility to see this part of mine which can help them run away. Why walking on eggshells? I am what I am, and I will definitely continue to do or say things that are less than perfect. Why would I try to create a fake image about myself when I like people to see me as I am?, so in case they like me, they will like the real me, and not some fancy image that I created, and that I assume would be better than the real me.

This is where we are wrong and hence we keep unnecessary people in our proximity through the fake image we project, enforce, and we keep our true soul-family and potential suitable partners apart because of our fear of not being “perfect” or enough by failure to fully embracing our own expression.

I am enough! For myself at least, therefore in my life, and with my apparent flawed version that I dare to expose to the outside world now a miracle happens: People are reacting different to me, people who used to like me (the mask) are not anymore interested and people who are more genuine and are as unapologetically themselves as I am learning to be are attracted to me. It’s beautiful. Finally, not trying to please anyone, nor playing roles, not trying to save face or force a certain perception onto people, but radical self-acceptance.

If you haven’t tried it, I recommend you to give it a shot. Yes, you’ll lose some unnecessary acquaintances in the process, but you can’t lose what’s yours, so be happy, as a more real life is being shaped and you’re slowly removing unnecessary debris from the old idea of how you ought to be and you start discovering who you truly are.

Once you start loving yourself for who you are, others will be more open to accepting and loving you for that. Isn’t that amazing?

Oh, woman

Oh woman, you beautiful celestial being. On your energy, empires rose to prominence, and empires declined; you are powerful beyond anything. Just by your whisper in the ear of your man, so much can happen. People can vanish like they never existed, and people can come into existence just by your sheer volition.

Many have tried to enslave and control you, yet only by your ignorant complicity and not knowing who you are have they managed to achieve this terrible goal, as through you, the world can crumble, but also be reborn.

Men are reduced to beasts when exposed to your beauty, sexiness, and power. All their intelligence and wisdom is canceled by your smile and you playing with your hair.

But you should know that with great power comes great responsibility, so don’t let yourself be dragged into the lower games as men do, because if you are lost, then the world is lost as well.

Don’t let yourself be pulled into the lowest of the material realm, as your power, if wisely used, is creating all the wealth and charisma that you can dream of without you needing to force anything. Shower your man with love and care and let him love you back, protecting and providing in the material plane while you are supporting everything on an energetic level. Your beauty lies in your inner power that transcends and transpires through your being, not because of some accessories or tricks you use to make yourself look better.

You are already beautiful exactly how you are, no matter how you look; if you let your true nature be revealed, men are lost in your charms without you trying anything, just by daring to fully show yourself.

Men may look at physical qualities and get mesmerized, like dumb animals falling into the sensual trap, but those are the low-level ones, barely different than the beasts. Every woman has at least one man who is lost in her image regardless of whether she has nails, some fancy hairstyle, makeup, beautiful clothes, or anything external.

That man sees you as a wholesome woman made of everything that you embody: your joy, your beauty, your wisdom, your kindness, purity, and your natural beauty, and even if you might see yourself far from perfection… For him, you should know that you are his one and only!

Why don’t you drag your man out of the swamp of evil, ignorance and greed? For you, it would be so easy. Your love and dedication can heal you both. And your beauty of your soul, love and dedication can heal the entire world.

Why don’t you embrace your highest nature of priestess of the Highest, mother of the world and all, a blessing for the righteous knights fighting their demons, and protecting their lady, and a curse for the ones who are remaining in their evil path; without you even wishing so, as the whole creation lays by your feet, ready to jump and devour those who dare to mistreat you.

With your honesty and purity of heart, every entity will start obeying, as they cannot oppose the mother, nor the lover nor the priestess. Of course, by choice, you can be a witch and evil and demonic and fall into victimization as you might have done in previous times. But that’s not you; it is just a shadow. A shadow born out of fear, sheer pain, and insecurity. A role you wanted to play to feel the power. But know that that’s not real power, that comes from trauma. Your true power comes from Love, knowing that you came here to choose your path of freedom, wholesomeness, and transcendence.

To make sure that the path you’re on is pure, see if your action comes from pain and fear, and revenge. Now check your actions if they might be coming from forgiveness and love and understanding, as a loving mother forgives their mischievous kids every single day.

I know at points you feel that they might deserve your wrath, and you might be right to an extent. But know that if we choose to be a tool of justice, we may also expose ourselves to the immutable divine justice that is left in place to guard this realm.

You are the wounded healer who overcame its lower nature and now steps on the same paths that Gods have trod. Do you think that those you see walking beside you can’t destroy those evil just by their raising of a finger? But that’s not the path of the High, as the Highest has patience and implemented rules, laws, rulers, and enforcers that interfere when the balance is broken. Hence rarely do gods interfere, as everything and everyone is brought eventually to balance. But guard your being like a lioness if necessary, and roar at them so they’ll be warned; let them walk backward ashamed, let them recognize and respect your boundaries.

Everything is perfect in its apparent imperfection! Then so are you, oh beautiful woman, just open your eyes and see! Don’t let yourself compare with others, as you’re unique and great and full of wisdom at your level and time and you’re continuously expanding. Smile and let yourself flow with your own heart and Essence of the Being, and see how everything is arranged by life without a doubt. Decide to honor your place among the Gods, as you are virtuous and worthy and without flaw.

Whatever we have done at points was because we were maybe ignorant and growing, as kids grow wiser through trial and error. Don’t let those events in the past shadow your true effulgence in the present moment, as we need you mothers, lovers, and priestesses, and through your love to us, remove our veils of ignorance, greed, and excessive sensuality, and together rise on our thrones of diamond: Emperor and his beloved Empress, an example of honor, Love and Grace and power altogether.

Recognizing true love

When it hits you, you will know it. Everything else will seem like jokes. Every other previous relationship will look like a parody or a kindergarten work.

Even if it’s not immediate recognition, you will feel something different. There’s something that you can’t pinpoint, something that finally clicks. And it’s not (only) on a physical basis, although that is most likely there too.

Things that others or even you considered about yourself as being flaws throughout your life, are appealing for that “one and only”. But I have to warn you that a lot of trial and error might be needed until that union is unlocked. Therefore dare to immerse yourself in love and life with courage and perseverance. Love and be loved; try to always bring a higher awareness, virtues, purity, and wisdom to the new relationship, and it may be the perfect one that you’ve been craving. If it is not that, be happy that you passed through a new opportunity to become better every single time, so that will ensure that you are better prepared for the very best whenever time is right.

Exercise truth and virtue and Grace will be with you, decide to shift the gears, and forget about the old, stałe and obsolete. Don’t be upset in case of failure. Know for sure that you are training for the real deal. Even scarred and hurt, you can rise again and allow yourself to dedicate again, with force and determination.

I promise you, when you have done all your homework and maybe when you have lost all hope, but you’re still having your heart open only you don’t believe much anymore in the possibility of meeting “the one and only”, then he/she appears…

They’re both beaten by lives they’ve experienced and they are scarred like two pitbulls that survived lots of fights. They’re at first checking each other incredulously; feeling something, but no longer jumping head first. They feel the attraction, but then again: “it happened so many times and it wasn’t that, right”? So they take everything with a cautious excitement, neither believing nor dismissing, but observing without hope nor fear, but with their open hearts taking again the leap of faith.

Be fully yourself this time, be fully truthful, show yourself in your full blaze of your Being. Whoever is not your person will run away for sure. Don’t you walk on eggshells ever again! Don’t wear masks no more! Just be yourself, but respect and accept other’s differences while honoring yourself and your self-expression fully too. But if you know that you want only That, the true One and Only, the pure Chintamani gem of your soul, why would you waste your time with anything less than that?

When that person appears, you feel like you can finally relax, you are accepted and seen as and for what you are, and you equally do it yourself. No matter if close or far, the hearts are connected, you can feel it. There’s connection, there’s love, there’s recognition. And yes, even if one of them is still not yet opened up fully, you can tell that the feelings are equally shared, a sense of deep longing takes place even after short breaks in the communication due to different chores and programs. A feeling of coming home is recognized while in the presence of the other.

It might not be easy since life has a funny sense of humor, and different aspects might give an idea of things being complicated, yes. But there’s true love that makes one endure whatever fire of purification and renewal is there. The present moment is acknowledged and treasured; a deep and subtle spiritual teaching is taking place just through sheer interaction, and the teaching is mutual and happens naturally, unforced. They are both learning one from the other, just like two communicating vessels equalizing each other in knowledge and vibration. It’s like merging. It’s beautiful, might be rough, but if hearts are open, everything is dealt with with ease, and the growth of their perception is exponentially and steadily expanding.

Love is the background and base of everything, and everything becomes easier; everything that seemed like a pain in the arse is now just another buzzing mosquito that fails to scare anyone.

Love is healing and empowering; it is undoubtedly the most powerful force in Existence; it’s the force motrice of Everything.

May all readers be given the chance to experience the ultimate love!

Be Love

My dear, hang in there! The journey towards fulfilment of our love is bumpy, and because such a love will simply burn by its powerful radiation every darkness and impurity, that old, stale and dark will not want to go without putting up a fight.

Buckle up, my love; it may look like a tough one, yet if our decision is made, there’s nothing that can be done to break us apart. Trust, stay with that decision of being together no matter what, and we’re transforming this apparent tough battle into a walk in the park.

What they can do is use our weaknesses, they can temporarily enhance fears, they can make things appear darker than they truly are, they can use all our flaws, temporarily enhancing them, so that we would self-sabotage our relationship.

They don’t have any power unless we’re investing them with our power. At points, they can make it look like I am the worst, that I am low, or I don’t love you, or that I betrayed you. Just breathe and let time reveal everything. Don’t jump into drawing conclusions, rather give me a chance to dispel the cloud that veils. Let the magic mist vanish by itself because, without our involvement, its power is inexistent.

The power of evil is to use our unresolved traumas and soft spots and play us with mirrors and veils, but if we don’t play this game, if we don’t feed those dark thoughts if we don’t fall for tricks, we abstain from saying unnecessary words that hurt and we abstain from rushing to react,… Their power is 0.
Remember evil has as much power over you as you give it, if you don’t give any power, it will fail to derail you. You are powerful beyond anything you can imagine at this point in time. For now, just trust me, and let us slowly allow ourselves to wake up to that innate magnanimity of our Oneness if our love is fulfilled.

Have patience. Whatever things may look like, before you even enquire about them, make sure you have your heart filled with love, then breathe in and out; relax and take enough time to rest. Their trick is to create a snowballing effect: thought – emotion – action. Stand still and let the storm pass first. Time is the enemy of darkness, as light is slowly swallowing the dark and occult, and time is the ally of the patient.

If enough time is allowed to pass without allowing the snowball to roll down the hill, the snowball will vanish.

Sometimes I feel like running too, I know such a love has a huge responsibility and has an effect of stirring all the crap left unresolved, such a love is the ultimate catalyst for the transmutation of the old and dark into pure Love, light and Divine Fire. But all the old and the unnecessary has to be abandoned and that’s our task.

Don’t hate the opposing force! It’s just a program, acting by Divine mandate, that tests the weak and lazy ones and sends them back to school to learn the missing lessons. Rather use everything to your own advantage. Like water, like fire. They’re neutral, yet they can be used to kill or to save, it’s always a matter of choice. Make sure that your choice is virtuous and comes from love, and no harm can touch you. We should always flip the tables and see how we can apply more virtue, and how we can fight our lower nature, rather than finding external elements, or entities to blame for the situation. This is the approach of the wise.

Now, come to me. I know we are ready to face ourselves and face the storm that purifies us. Look at the marks in the sand, I am always walking beside you. You see your footprints and mine, side by side. When the storm comes, there’s only one pair of footprints, yes! But worry not, you’re not alone, I haven’t left you. Those footprints are mine and I am carrying you in my arms.

Come home, my dear. We are ready. We are One.

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Let this be inspiration for beings of Light having a human experience, in their search, maintaining, nurturing and fulfillment of Divine Love with their Divine counterparts.

The powerful energy of love

Have you ever noticed a man, in your circle of friends, acquaintances or co-workers, even a stranger that shines, that has a charm, a charisma that you can’t pinpoint, regardless if he’s just a normal-looking guy, a handsome man or even a not so good looking one, and there’s no real explanation to why is he so bright, so charismatic, so great?

Well, it’s because a good woman loves him. It’s because he’s being showered by her gentle, sweet and very powerful energy of love. It’s because her heart is open to him. So now we can remember the saying that behind any powerful man, there’s a powerful or an even more powerful woman. It is a divine law. Women and men are supposed to be balancing each other, complementing and completing themselves as Yin complements and completes Yang.

Many times it happens to men in their youth since they are young, and relatively pure, untarnished by the world that much (although that spoiling happens already in younger and younger ages). But they get with a girl/woman that starts to love them. That’s when their charisma starts expanding, and they notice that women are seeing them, and it’s so empowering and making their self-esteem reach the roof.

The risk is also that they’ll fall prey to that feeling of being so good, so great, unknowingly of the true source of their power. That’s when they start considering other women, believing that grass might be greener on the other side. It’s a test of life, that always balances every single imbalance. So their love is tested, and unfortunately, it’s so hard to fight that feeling that you are the belly button of the world. After indulging in their success the time of fall comes, because they have so many dissonant energies, due to misusing the pure love mixing it with fleeting infatuations with other women.

So the loving woman will feel it and even without her knowing she will start feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, and unloved even if the external actions of the guy didn’t quite change. So this is the beginning of the end, from here everything is like an avalanche, everything is snowballing into the eventual disaster even if it may still last for a while.

The best advice I have for all the men out there that have someone who loves them, is to close the door to your mind, heart and body for any other woman in that intimate way. Dedicate yourself full-heartedly, serve her and love her with all your being, and you will be rewarded heftily by life, and by her. But be rather selfless, don’t do it for the rewards, since you can’t trick consciousness. Know that you are her protector, nourisher, the peace creator and love provider in her life, the one that she relies on.

A man who has developed and integrated a very strong and healthy feminine aspect besides the masculine side is gifted with the same power of making his woman shine too, heal and be charismatic as in the case of a woman loving her man. This is rather rare in this day and age when men are players and hunters. Women have learned to develop this same unhealthy masculine aspect in themselves, hunting and playing for the sake of instant gratification.

Unfortunately, these abusers will be hit by the balancing force of life itself and they will need to face the repercussions of their actions, to understand the value of true, genuine, and unconditional love to their counterparts. But nothing is forever and they will be given chances over and over to finally break through their limitations and bad decisions.

Coming back to the adult which is shining because of his woman, if he transcends his lower nature and tendencies, he will have a chance to a higher level of vibration which is intensely changing, uplifting and healing on all possible levels. He should close himself to seeing anything other than his beloved, as seeing himself in a black-and-white movie that fails anymore to capture his interest, if he knows what’s good for him and together they will prosper and advance in a harmonious, sacred type of relationship where each serves the other selflessly, hence their needs are automatically fulfilled, and grace of the Ultimate is within that couple, protecting them and multiplying their blessings, a testimony and an example of how people should behave with their counterparts.

So many players, occultists and other men who are aware of this secret are taking advantage and trying to capture the power of the loving woman, but they are the most ignorant and prone to failure, if they believe that they can trick life and get away with it. The more they misuse the woman and their power, the harder and more unbearable their pain will be. Therefore my advice would be: take whatever is yours, cherish it and be grateful for it with all your being, and life will always take care of you as a loving mother caring and nourishing their babies. You won’t be able to sustain what is not yours, even if you achieve it, it will be through huge struggles and trouble and it will be shortlived.

Love the woman you chose and be always grateful to the Highest for meeting her, and to her for choosing you. Make her happy and your life will be flowing harmoniously. Love her with honesty, love her with dedication, love her with all your being and no matter how much opposition you’ll encounter in life, she’ll be behind you, supporting you with her wonderful energy, as you protect her and nourish her in the material, spiritual, mental and emotional aspects.

But to be honest, I believe that finding that partner that is ready to dedicate to you and you to them is a rather very rare occurrence and whoever had a chance to experience this rare type of union should make sure that they are feeding every single day that beautiful flame of genuine love with actions and words, like an oil being poured every day that will feed the lamp of their love, because as soon as they cool off, and get lazy in their dedication love will diminish in intensity and most likely fade away.

Let’s start with the basics

Theoretically the end goal should be coming back home, uniting once again with the Source.

I know that this information will click with many of us, at least on a mental/theoretical level. The trick is that unless we’ve done the “dirty work” , this information is kind of useless. And here’s my take on the matter:

We always dream about some distant goal, enlightenment, becoming once again knowledgeable, self-realization etc.. But we are trying to skip some steps, looking for shortcuts in the process and we just can’t foul ourselves (the higher Self). The steps we all dream about avoiding are: taking care of all the things in the material mental and spiritual world in a proper sequence. And I really mean every single (apparently unimportant) thing.

I am a bit an adept of rough and visual examples to make my point, so I would compare this avoiding thing with dressing ourselves in very elegant clothes and wearing expensive and divinely scented perfumes without ever taking a shower.

Yes, guilty! Again me and my examples 😁. But I am sure you got the point. And I have noticed that we have to start with the very minute things that we usually assume we can ignore and postpone, like doing dishes, mantaing ourselves, houses and surroundings clean and tidy, like having proper nourishment and rest, taking care of every aspects of our lives.

And these are undoubtedly things that are so boring and repetitive that we might get fed-up with and consider not that important as “higher” things as meditating, chanting mantras or any other type of saddhana, working your shadow and past traumas out and so on. Remember again the example of wearing great clothes and perfume without taking a shower.

The trick is that it will fail to bring results, no matter how dedicated and perseverent we might be on the “higher” levels. It will be the same like wanting our car to work smoothly and do its job, without us taking care of all of the needful, like oil, gasoline, cooling liquid, brake fluid etc. So we all know that if we miss even just one of those, the car will eventually fail to take us where we need to go and it’s all because neglecting to take care of all the aspects that needed to be taken care of.

The body, house, clothes and whatever we have, are tools in our existence and we can’t neglect them and believe that some are unimportant, or less important than others, or the entire machinery will malfunction.

So I believe that this is why the majority fail, because believing we can neglect something in favor of something else. And I am talking from experience.

Tidying our house is not only having an esthetic role, but a hidden and more profound one, in allowing the energies to flow smoothly, in not allowing clutter to accumulate, because that’s promoting stagnation on an energetic and material level. Also lower level entities are living in lower level vibration. By mantaing things properly washed, functioning and tidy, we are creating an unwelcoming environment for beings and entities that enjoy a rather lower resonance.

It’s probably obvious that if the body is malnourished, not rested that we won’t have its full assistance on our path, therefore every single detail has to be taken into consideration. And the same analogy applies to the body as to the house: we are hosts of so many entities from physical to an energetic level, like bacteria, fungi, viruses and other entities either parasitic or symbiotic. The better we take care of the body in a proper and diligent manner, the more we create a welcoming environment for symbiotic beings and entities, and obviously if we neglect, misuse and forget anything, we lower the body efficiency and defense and implicitly create an environment promoting the pathogenic and lower vibration elements and entities.

Cooking for oneself with love and using quality ingredients and utensils is also a good way to enhance the quality of our self-care. We should use beautiful cutlery and dishes, maybe even silver cutlery, or at least stainless steel, crystal glasses and china cups and plates, with natural and pleasant colors. Let’s make everything that we offer ourselves an offer to the All, the Universe, the Absolute, because there can be no love for That which we don’t know and can’t see, without love, care and respect for what we see in the mirror every day. We should treat ourselves and our surroundings with outmost respect and care, and they wouldn’t fail to serve us well.

So to conclude: before dreaming about the sky, we should first become masters of the lower realms, starting with the grosser and advancing to the subtler, otherwise the “doors to the sky” will fail to open. There are many so called spiritual people that live in a mess yet hope that one day the gates of the sky will open. But the wise ones know that they’re the ones to climb the stairs, walk the path, put the key in the keyhole, turn it and that will open the doors, any other way or forgetting a sequence will fail to bring the desired result.

So let us all remember the “lower” and “mundane”, and pamper ourselves today starting with making our beds as soon as we wake up, than continuing with a good shower, opening the windows to invite good and new air in the house, cook some good food, imbued with love, and use our best utensils for eating it, and tidying up the house, and I guarantee you that even by taking care of such minute and easy tasks, already we will be able to feel the wind of improvement, a state of betterment and good feeling, letting us know that we are on the right path. Now extrapolate these easy notions to everything you do. Then continue to apply this recipe for success, looking for more things and places to add value and improve from low to high and from material to subtler and spiritual levels.

Is there such thing as happiness?

Happiness is unreachable for people that always want something..

When one doesn’t want anything, happiness is reached, because not wanting anything means being at peace, without searching, without looking for anything, just acceptance of what it is, and that’s when we discover the state of Beingness!

Fulfillment of a desire will ignite several others and we often forget to stop chasing things, people and experiences, unawares that whatever is ours to be will be provided, even pushed by life onto us.

As soon as we stop wanting, and see how much we already have and realize that whatever is needed, is always provided by the Universe, the whole paradigm shifts and we get a chance to know that happiness is already with us at any single point in time, already here in the present moment where nothing is missing, nothing is ever wrong, even whilst in the midst of the most terrifying of the storms.

Yes, even when in a very troublesome moment or unwanted event we can always go within and experience that peace and love! And that my friend, is who we truly are.

Whatever else is fleeting, but that Eternal Being which can be named as peace, love, bliss, calm and humbleness is always there for us, it is who we truly are! Just tune in! Just allow turmoil to be there for as long as necessary, and go back to who you truly are.

Withdraw all your attention within from whatever external elements, people and events that keep you scattered, and I bet you that an imperceptible smile will appear on your calm face. You will know what I mean! Just tune in to the eternal peace that we all are, that’s within each and all of us.

Let life happen to you

Let whatever is yours come your way unobstructed, and let whatever is not yours to have, leave you without opposition.

When we want to control life, to direct its flow towards a certain outcome the result is pain. Even if we achieve that goal that made us invest so much time, energy and effort into it, eventually we realize that maybe it wasn’t really worth the struggle. Moreover the fulfillment of one desire automatically brings more desires and this loop never stops. Not even death puts an end to it since the mind will take its desires to the next experience (birth) so this is the very reason for us playing this game of birth and death.

As soon as you stop wanting things you have reached the ultimate happiness, the eternal bliss. That can come from the realization of “I had enough of everything” – Enough is enough! – and you decide to watch and rest, instead of manipulating, controlling and struggling. Or it comes from the realization of who you truly are, the Ultimate existence that has already everything and is already anything.

Every single moment of our lives carries a teaching, in each moment we have a choice. It’s like life tests us continuously bringing up similar struggles or dramas with those in the past, and we are facing them to see if lessons have been learnt. We are unaware of us being vengeful and feeling entitled and excusing atrocious behavior of ourselves under the pretext of righteousness. There’s no excuse for doing harm, for violence, when it comes from the rottenness of the ego.

The motive always matters. If a family living in the woods hunts every week a deer for the family to be fed, nature endures. But when people go hunting for the thrill of killing, it means that they are killing animals for their own pleasure and for that pleasure nature is going to punish one way or another. We are so unaware of the consequences of all our actions, everything produces an impact, everything is accounted for, therefore if we let life happen to us, but the steerer is the ego, then we’re down that same drain, in the same loop that kept us busy tens and hundreds of lifetimes.

When we let life happen to us, we are allowing what’s for us to come and find us, regardless that it can be catalogued as “good” or “bad”. In my understanding we are supposed to have a certain amount of experiences, a certain amount of pain, joy and whatever. When we run away from the experience, when we run away from pain, solitude and whatever disturbs us, we are just postponing it and prolonging the agony.

Let’s say we are meant to experience pain, 8 on a scale from 0 to 10. In a traumatic situation pain is building and grows on that scale, 1, 2, 3.. 7. When we run away from it before reaching that tipping point we postpone the whole process once again. So we will need to face a different traumatic event, again building the pain 1,2,3..7 but if unless the destined degree has been reached, there will be no resolution. Therefore, we should try to embrace whatever comes. Whatever comes is definitely ours to have.

The good news is that life is very just and balanced. There is never only a downward spiral of unhappy events from bad to worse. Even if we have a heavy karma to pay, we are going to be given moments of joy, of rest. Life is always fair, always correct. If we are aware that the huge pile of crap we’re carrying is ours to handle and carry until we transmute it into pure spiritual gold, then there’s no external actor or unfortunate event neither accident to blame for whatever we experience. In that moment of realization you drop all blame for yourself or others, you will definitely smile, understanding that everything is perfect, everything is always right!

Do what is for you to do, and forget about outcomes since we are not the ones in control of the outcomes. Do your best and forget the rest! If you are alone and you are fine with it but life brings someone in your life, if it clicks, it’s yours to have: be it a happy or painful experience, it’s definitely what you need to have! When we are flowing with and through life, everything comes naturally, everything is meant to be. When we think we know better we might bring unnecessary, delaying events and elements into our lives. So there has to be an element of surrender always present in our lives, even if we are caught unawares, the moment we surrender and let go, the grip of despair is loosening.

Surrender control, embrace everything, stop seeing things from the “I”, “me” and “mine” perspective. These are the veils that keep us ignorant: limiting ourselves to the bodily frame and limited mind and ego and separation perspective.

Let life happen to you and enjoy the ride, as all the rides sometimes are smooth, sometimes bumpy. It is all you’ve chosen for you to experience, so trust your higher Self! If it happens it means you are ready to have that (whatever might be), see the learning lesson within, the pain that surrounds that bitter event is just a veil to make it harder to accept, but each such event is a blessing in disguise, a bitter candy that has a sweet, creamy core as a reward for the patient, courageous and resilient who beared the bitterness.

Who am I?

I just can’t box myself.
The moment I believe I am intelligent I see my many moments of stupidity.
The moment I believe I am a bad person I see the purity and kindness of my heart.
When I see my qualities, life is pointing at my shortcomings.
Who am I? How can I say that I am this or that?, I am like this and like that, because I encompass everything, the ugliness and beauty, the white and the black alike. I know that everything is beyond the polarities yet it remains just a fiction (whilst not fully realized) , another concept for the mind to play with and to twist, a theory that is not yet embedded in each particle of my physical and subtle existence.

The Being knows it, it is That, the essence that’s beyond the duality, the place where everything emerged from. Yet the mind and its physical vessel is limiting, because I don’t know yet how to stop it. Of course I know there’s nothing to stop. How can you stop an inexistent car? It’s frustrating, says the mind. Yet the body is relaxing, no longer falling for the mind anxious ways,..It aligns with the Being. I let go, I, that being that IS, and nothing else. Everything else I am not. I am not the mind, not the body, I am not my character and it’s ephemeral qualities. The logic can’t grasp it, because it’s not just a thought put into writing, it’s just That, that I am, that we all are.

Do you see it? Probably. Probably not. Do you feel it, yes! I am certain. I bet some little click happened within, of course the mind will cover it up, trying to hide it, like it deletes everything that’s too abstract for its limited, squary logic to grasp, but this click is not possible to delete, because it comes from that which unites us all. It is eternal. Unbound. Unstoppable. Like a tsunami. But it can be delayed, because the mind in its existing inexistence controls another illusion which is time. But that little click will slowly blossom and the process is unstoppable, remember. Let what’s a dream vanish, and what’s true stay. In time we will master the method. We are One.

So who am I? Can’t tell. But I know that everything that I thought I was, I am not.
As soon as I box myself, I see the box,.. It used to be invisible, but slowly I started feeling it, because the mind created it. So what am I? I just am. I am.

I am like a seed. A seed that used to want to grow into a full-fledged tree in the world, but I have to find my way back. To re-learn how to be a seed and stay there, unborn, unsprouted, uncreated, bathing in the eternal bliss of Sat Chit Ananda.

I am not running away from the world, from life. On the contrary, I embrace it fully, looking so immersed in it, yet something is different this time. I am no longer on “autopilot” mode. I am more and more aware. This awareness is slowly growing and things that used to be there, fixed in my character start to vanish or become fainter.

To be continued…

Rely on nothing

We all have things, people and beliefs that define our position and keep us floating in this illusion. All these reference points are just anchors into this self-created illusion of our minds. Throughout our lives we are proven that all these reference points are not so important and in fact might be just our fear creating them as we are holding tight to a securing rope while being in a high ground.

All these fake ideas are challenged by life and this is the reason why we experience mostly misery, because we are enforcing, creating and holding onto these fake props in this ephemeral existence while experiencing this human body. If we are aware enough and stop this frenzy of continuously defining the existence, analyzing and interpreting it, we would suddenly realize that we are just pure existence, as a tiny little particle unbound by anything, free in the infinity of the Void. But that may scare us, because we are so used to being tied up to some secure place, a rock, a building, a person, something that would feed us the illusion of safety. Forget about safety and you’ll experience the Self, that true Higher Being that you are and always have been.

The need for safety comes from fear, comes from the conviction that we are in danger, comes from the ignorance of not knowing who and what we truly are, hence not trusting life fully. You should know that this is a game and all those concepts, ideas and beliefs are part of the game program to keep you ignorant, to keep you enslaved, to continuously feed it with your fears, insecurities, desires and continuously wasting your energy trying to fix and control things and people that aren’t fixable neither controllable.

Wake up and start dropping everything that is so familiar, that gives you security, drop the idea of being a man or a woman and misogyny will vanish, feminism will vanish,.. Forget the color of your skin and there can be no racism. Let go of the desire to control and everything will be always as it should,.. Perfect!

Do you see it? It’s not that we become knowledgeable and get rid of the ignorance by accumulating information, but by getting rid of all the information that we were storing and relying our reality upon. This is the thing no one wants to say, because it’s not easy to understand from a complex, logically and analytically inclined person. Drop all points of reference and ideas and the result will be the Ultimate knowledge dawning on your Being.

From my observation I have noticed that it is very hard for people to let go of things that they believe that define who they are, a doctor (as an example) is not ready to accept its ignorance, because this is the “virus” that academic knowledge is planting into us, the belief that we know, which is the attribute of the very ignorant human.

When true knowledge is born within we are suddenly realizing how ignorant we are (still) by still lacking the full image of everything and by realizing how different reality is, compared with what we were assuming and projecting that it was. Even when that inner knowledge is born inside, it is not enough for us to decide that we are now knowledgeable.

So to summarize: the true spiritual knowledge will be humbling us down; on the other hand the academic, dry and bookish knowledge is just feeding the ego and empowering the mind more and more until the moment of the rigidity reaches its pinnacle and that being will get to a point of no return in this lifetime, hence fast degradation of the physical body takes place culminating with the demise of the person.

Imagine your existence in the middle of a canvas, with all those chords and safety ropes, all those needles pinning it into the center of that canvas as a captured insect pinned for the amusement and study of a biology student. You are there on that canvas almost unable to move because of all those things securing that position. As soon as you start cutting all that unnecessary things away, the movement of the being will slowly slowly enhance, until full freedom is achieved by removing the last chords and pins and realizing their obsolescence. The fake point in the middle of the canvas, that was imagined and created by the ego will disappear along with the canvas itself and the whole limited image about self and the surroundings are vanishing, knowing that we are not in a box or on a canvas, but we are in the Infinite Body of the Absolute, free to roam everywhere, free to explore the individual, limited experience in the world, but unbounded by it and with the full knowledge of being One with everything.

By cutting everything that you are not, you discover slowly what you are truly, and the separation starts vanishing, because there has never been anything other than Yourself existing out there.

Face yourself!

A beautiful, scented flower is not yelling: “Here,.. I am here! “, but it’s discovered and recognized by its beauty and its beautifully scented emanation. As such, truly evolved beings share their Being with everyone and everything they come into contact with, selflessly and without announcing anything.

Daily we might be touched by the Grace of such beings, but because they are not looking for recognition, the touch of Grace does its work in silence. As long as we look for approval and confirmation, we are just played by the ego, which might play this time a “saintly” role and might easily pass for the (higher) Self, yet it is not.

Best way to see if we are selfless and humble and not looking for recognition is to take a bill of 50 or 100 euros/dollars or according to the country we live in (a substantial amount of money or at least a big bill) and put it inside someone’s pocket or purse or hide it in their house without being seen, and leave without knowing if that person is going to find it, if they are grateful or not, or anything else, and without even thinking about it anymore… It’s a good test to humble ourselves down…and check and realize that we have a hidden desire to be recognized and praised or acknowledged.

This is one way of checking our ego level and training the mind not to attach itself anymore to the outcomes of our actions. When mind detaches itself from desires, objects, people, expectations and entitlements, the ego wanes more and more… And when the little ego is no longer there (in full control of us) , the true realization of “I am” dawns on us!

Truly evolved beings attract through their simplicity, humbleness, peaceful attitude, and their inner light shines silently touching everyone and everything they come in proximity with. Because they are not bound to the fake society morale or conditionings, because they are truly free, as no in-bondage person can be that freedom unless they have tasted it, they are mostly misinterpreted and misunderstood , yet they are not trying to prove their point, neither imposing themselves because they understand the perfection of everything in its apparent imperfection.

The higher the vibration level of one person is, more chances that he/she will be attracted to that Highly evolved (maybe self-realized) being because of the innate desire to be free that is embedded in all humans. But the higher that Being radiates, the more the chances of the “less evolved” one to have to face all the inner crap, demons and distortions that they’re having within.

“Normal” people (not realized yet) are similar to the principle of the communicating vessels, continuously exchanging energies with the environment and other beings. So when two people closely interact with each other they are going to be exchanging, and regulating their vibration exactly like communicating vessels do; so if one is more malefic than the other it will lower the vibration of the second one and implicitly the malefic one will be slightly influenced to the better by the other.

The deeper(closer) the connection the more acute is the transfer of energy. This is the reason why sexual intimacy has the potential to be highly detrimental when based on superficial carnal desire, but it can be a very good tool for those who are aware, like-minded and with similar interests and where there’s mutual respect and attraction mostly soul to soul rather than body to body (only), although the superficial bodily attraction might be there too as a confirmation of compatibility on all the planes.

Aware sexual intercourse should be the culmination of the beings compatibility, a merging of their existences on all plans, physical, mental and spiritual. This is the moment when the true soul’s alchemy will activate and become a tool in their spiritual quest towards rediscovery of their true Selves. Nowadays the whole narrative of the Matrix pushes people to engage and crave in depraved sexuality, where little or no true connection is present, hence instead of the sexuality becoming a wonderful tool in self-realization, it becomes an obstacle and a way to engross beings more and more into ignorance.

On the extreme part of the range of vibrations, highly vibrant persons are no longer affected by the low vibration ones, or the influence is insignificant, or immediately observed and consciously discarded. Same with a very malefic one, it’s highly unlikely that it will be affected positively significantly by the higher vibration.

So when a person that is in between, neither too bad nor enlightened meets one of the radiant beings, they will need to face all their inner dirt, traumas, weaknesses and distortions they have, because that pure light emanated by the evolved one will bring all that hidden negativity to the surface. Therefore the real Path within requires high level of courage, because we will need to face and accept (that inside us we have) all this darkness and very old negativity that we carry with us throughout eons.

Perceiving reality

Whatever is disturbing us outside, people, events, things and what not, are in fact a turbulence in our own field, a distorted way of externalizing what’s internal and seeing it in an obviously distorted way. Therefore patience in allowing life to unfold and time to unveil everything is mandatory for the spiritual adept since without patience we would be continuously pushed by the mind and its erroneous interpretation of existence, to take actions and say things that we might not want or we might regret later.

The world we’re experiencing is perceived therefore in an erroneous way. Everything comes translated by the logic in something that resembles something that happened in the past, because this is the capacity of the limited mind to relate to past events and things it learned in order to decipher the present moment. The present moment is always altered by the past perception, that’s why all the wisdom that reached us from old times through scriptures or oral transmissions emphasizes over and over again living in the present moment.

We assume that we are doing it, yet besides the erroneous interpretation of the mind through past distortions (sometimes as old as from previous lives), we are always burdened by thoughts of past and future. We are always allowing that inner voice to distract us from whatever is NOW. That is the voice of the lower mind, the ego which is conservative(nothing to do with politics), which wants to be always in control and in its comfortable, known box and trying to prevent us at all costs from breaking the walls of our self-created prison, whilst our true perception of reality remains but a dream, some event that should be happening in a distant future.

We are always wondering about past events, “what if I would have done this or that”, or future planning. Everything is very useless, its only purpose is to keep us enslaved and burdened by regrets and full of hopes,one more useless and illusory than the other.

In hoping there’s a desire to control the outcome of our actions, we are trying to manipulate life’s flow towards something that we assume might be the best thing that could happen. True knowledge and wisdom comes with humbleness and knowing that we know so little, no matter how far we have reached, even when we reached the point of the self-born knowledge blooming within, there will still be an infinitesimal number of aspects of the world, ourselves and life that we are going to be ignorant about.

The wise person is free from hopes, because inside he/she no longer desires to manipulate the flow of life, there’s total surrender to Life, trusting fully that whatever is unfolding is always the best experience for them to have. That makes them always at ease with themselves, and at peace with the external manifestation. Even in the midst of the storm they maintain their inner contentment and peace, knowing that nothing lasts forever in this experience and their actions come from that same root of sedateness and inner contentment aware of the illusory aspect of life.

Be true to yourself

If we are true to ourselves we automatically become true to the world. Because whatever external people, things or events exist out there, it is our mind creating that, and whatever is inside gets manifested outside in the form of people, things and events. The more resolved our past traumas and events are the smoother the external world will flow.

When we decide to be honest with ourselves, we would not be able to entertain some external person or thing that is not resonating with us anymore, but we will cut through the bullshit like a sharp knife, and not because we’re rude or lacking empathy or diplomacy, but we realize that we are supposed to be ourselves and stand by the truth that is within us. By wasting time with people that are not on the same frequency we exhaust ourselves and we are neither helping them and much less ourselves. We are depriving them of the lesson of proper boundaries and we are exhausting unnecessary energy.

The same goes for partnerships, friends, family and acquaintances or strangers. Why would you entertain someone if you don’t want to? Why to continue talking or meeting someone that drains you? Isn’t it that you are just tricking yourself that you are being a good friend, person, lover, neighbor .. Or whatever “good” you project on yourself to be?

Lack of proper action sometimes is the same thing as harming self and others. Lack of determination in implementing what’s best for us is not at all “being kind and/or compassionate with the other”, but the other way around, because not establishing proper boundaries also deprives the other side of having the proper experience to also wake up and work with themselves.

But let’s forget about the others. Let’s say that we want someone, we need a partner, a lover. At first we have all these ideas of I want him/her to be like this and like that and I definitely don’t want him/her to have this or that features. But as time goes by our neediness grows, so directly proportionally our standards lower and we are ready to accept things that in the beginning we were 100% sure we didn’t want to have.

Eventually the hormones might push us into lower and lower vibration and we might be ready to accept many red flags just for the sake of satisfying the lower mind and body needs. It’s an experience that might transform into a trap. It may be good if it happened, you had it and let it go. The problem appears when we enter relationships with the wrong or let’s say inappropriate reason. Why? Because sexual intimacy or (just) external superficial attraction shouldn’t be the reason for us getting into a relationship, it means that the whole foundation is rotten. It means that our home’s foundation is made of clay and with time the sturdiness of the foundation will be tested and indubitably that construct will collapse under the heavy weight of vibrational, spiritual and mental mismatch.

The more we stay in this types of relationships the more we will suffer, because through numbing our intuition and denial of the obvious, attachments are created, unhealthy projections and hopes are coming to existence and it will make the break-up more painful. On the other hand whatever is true and supposed to be there will unfold in a natural, beautiful way although relationships where there’s only peace love and harmony might be an utopic idea in this era.

When we are honest with ourselves, we are honest with the world and although we will lose a huge amount of (unnecessary) people, rest assured that we are heading towards knowing how our life is supposed to be, not what we were projecting onto it.

On the other hand we shouldn’t project too many qualities or what the future partner should have or not, rather learn to flow with life, to listen to your Being, your heart and intuition, learn to see everything from the inner contentment feeling in which you are complete and devoid of “needs” or “wants”, and whatever is supposed to be yours will appear on its own. Appearance of its own doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t do anything towards that goal (of having someone) if that’s how we feel. Choose wisely by cutting through the past distortions and tendencies that threw you over and over again into similar distorted relationships and you will step out of the lower flow. Observe life through that inner contentment and you will be able to accept being alone or with someone as being equally acceptable.

There’s a saying that the one that’s the most patient will reap the ripest fruit. If you are experiencing a period of being alone, enjoy it. Take it as an opportunity to work your crap out, take it as a period of time for reflection and contemplation. Whatever is there it’s the best thing that can happen to you. Especially when you are honest with yourself. The more honest you are, the more free you will become. The more you love yourself, the more you will love everything and everyone in a very unconditional way. But don’t confuse the unconditional love towards the world and the existence, with the new-agey nonsense that you have to be good, do good and everything is pink clouds and unicorns. That’s again dishonesty to self. Find out who you are and own it! Embrace it with good and bad features, with qualities and shortcomings, because that is how you came to experience life.

There’s no malicious act if you’re acting, talking and being from that inner peace, the inner contentment that’s the essence of our Being. Therefore if you are more and more aligned with that Being that lies hidden inside of whatever living being at any point of time, then you can never go wrong,.. Whatever you might be saying or doing will be in perfect alignment with the Life itself regardless of how external people might perceive it. Life will then flow through your Being and through you people will get their own lessons without any effort or without you even noticing or wanting it.

Be true to yourself and automatically you will be true to the external existence, hence there’s no need to further analyze your actions and speech.. Trust and love yourself and your life will become a synchronistic course of events.. Flow with life and know that you are being taken care of.

A hamster in its wheel

Oh silly happiness seeker, dreaming about an illusion. The illusion is eating your brain like the maggots are feasting from the carcasse’s flesh. Why are you longing for chimeras? Why can’t you just be, without projections neither desire, and you can see that the thing that you are looking for in the world exists inside of you, in the form of peace and stillness. You are already there, only unaware of it.
This world feeds out of people’s desire for happiness. Just like little mice in their wheels; powering and empowering the matrix with every craving and desire.

And when they’ve found that “happiness” they’ll have to taste disappointment again, cause whatever they’ve found is but temporary. If they (we) would know all this deep inside themselves they wouldn’t pray to gods anymore, but gods will pray to them, since the shackles of ignorance will be shattered by surrendering desires, the true Godliness will emerge.
I am myself a mouse in its wheel ; and the harder I try to reach my goals, the more exhausted I am, and the result invariably the same: failure. If the poor mouse would be able to realize that there’s nowhere to go, neither anything to achieve, in that very second the mouse will be God.

Working with distortions

When we are being triggered by something or someone’s actions or words, it means that that distortion is inside of us and that person or event was just an external stimulus to something that was previously existing inside of us in the form of a distorted understanding of life and its neutrality.

I believe that there was a traumatic event in everyone’s childhood or youth in which we felt low, hurt, not worthy, alone and/or not taken into consideration, therefore we created a “strong me” image yet in reality it might not be quite as it may look. We might believe that being vulnerable makes us weak, yet we become strong by overcoming that identification of the adult and independent self that we are showing at the moment with the helpless little hurt child from the past.

We are all victimized to a certain extent. But when we react to a certain stimulus it means that that trigger (stimulus) touched a soft spot, brought a weakness into our awareness and that should be happily embraced as a huge potential for transcending past distortions which are plaguing our present and inevitably the future too. Therefore we shouldn’t point fingers outside to the stimuli(people or events), but see what is the issue that the trigger uncovered. So our reactions to those stimuli are unfolding a certain traumatic event(from childhood) that has been misinterpreted and/or swiped under the rug, and no matter what is that event, the idea is to break away from the victim mentality, knowing that we are definitely not victims of events or people but rather creators and we are supposed to take full responsibility.

Taking responsibility and accepting whatever is happening is an evolutionary step forward, and other, deeper distortions will come forth to be worked with as soon as we have worked the ones that are brought to our attention today.
If we choose not to, it’s fine, it’s our choice… Yet life might push people and events to trigger that soft spot until we either transcend it by accepting and realizing that only our limited perception and interpretation made it such a big deal, or until we will succumb under the external pressure and our inner resistance to change.

Change is inevitable, as certain as death and taxes, but awareness about the eternal changing nature of life and realization and acceptance of it will bring tremendous peace and wisdom.

Love and friendship

True selfless and sincere friendship nowadays is almost utopic. But in order to find such an utopia, first become that utopia yourself. Offer all those qualities which are found in the perfect friend. Be gentle, generous, kind, forgiving, understanding, soothing and nourishing your friends as you would do it for yourself. Do it selflessly and those who don’t qualify for being your friends will disappear by default or they’re going to show their true face, becoming entitled, arrogant, controlling and /or abusive. You will know what to do. The new “weapon” is free flowing of your true being, pure love and selflessness and whoever is not suitable with your flow you can remove by conscious decision or they will disappear themselves because of the energy mismatch.

True friends in this life will definitely not be many, and true friends are united by mutual respect honesty and unconditional love. True friendship may be the best way to find our life partner. True friends are like-minded, they are complementing each other. As such if you find that person who is able to talk to you for hours and both feel pleasant and enjoy the talk, you should know that whenever physical beauty disappears, the mental, spiritual and emotional will be still there. So if you are falling in love with your best friend, if they are alone and the feeling is mutual, then you are one of very few very fortunate people in this dimension. Treasure and appreciate what you have found because it’s such a blessing from the Universe.

But as a fire has to be taken care of and maintained by constant feeding it with combustible elements, similarly the true love and friendship has to be enforced by actions, emotions and words!

Everyone knows nowadays to hurt others, to control or try to, to punish and to do low vibrational deeds, it’s so easy because the realm is mostly polarized towards the negative, but those who fight against the stream, against the “natural tendency” of the world, being humble and honest, loving and caring, understanding and forgiving,.. They’re going to reap the best of the fruits, rare fruits that are very scarcely appearing in the world, named true love and friendship.

You don’t have it yet? It’s because you haven’t reached that vibration, because we attract what we are. If you attract fake people how does that make you? If you attract angry people, guess why? You got the point. In this world what you want to attract you have to become. You should become that without desire; you don’t decide I want to attract honest people, but you become honesty yourself and you will lose those who are no longer matching your vibration and you will open the gate for meeting people that are on the same page.

Stop complaining, if you want love, be love yourself! But be aware because if you are throwing pearls before the swines that doesn’t make you loving, but stupid (and loving 😁). If you see that you are offering yourself honestly, free-flowing and people are becoming arrogant and cocky, trying to manipulate and take advantage of you, you block them from receiving your freely flowing love. Otherwise you deserve them.

Plant before you harvest! Be vulnerable and honest but not stupid! Observe people how do they use your honest approach and your free flow, if they are not freely flowing themselves, fracture will be created and a huge precipice is growing between you too. You can give extra chances if you feel like they might deserve it, but if you see that nothing changes, probably it’s time to say goodbye to them.

Let go of control otherwise you will encounter control freaks like you. Let go of expectations otherwise how can you meet something extraordinary? Don’t rely on your senses because they’re limited and they can trick you! Rely on your heart, on your inner gut feeling. When you will be talking to a person who is free flowing, your heart will be rejoicing, you will feel home, no matter if you are talking about some important topics or not.

True friends might be coming to teach us, to scold us, to fight us, especially when you are wrong, because they want you good, they are not afraid to lose you, they are always themselves. Fake friends are avoiding confrontation, they are just minding their agenda and see only their comfort and fun as their purpose in the friendship.

My well wishes to all of you, and remember to become what you are looking for!

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This is what I feel about true friendship in this world, but it is just my opinion so from other people’s perspective I might be mistaken. If you disagree please leave me a message. I would love to hear your idea about this topic.

The dual potential of the experience

Life in its essence is extremely simple and its guidelines easy to follow for an aware being. The problem is that nowadays we are mostly navigating adrift, without a clue in this ocean called life. Everything that happens to us has the potential to destroy us (to drag us deeper into the illusion) or to uplift us, meaning to give us the tools for our conscious awakening, towards realizing who we are and what’s the purpose for incarnating in this particular realm in this particular day and age, but more so: the pain that we are supposed to notice, accept and work with in order for it to become obsolete.

Everything that happens to us is definitely something that we have to experience, especially since it happened already. The first thing we can do to properly address the matter is to accept it no matter how hard it is to do so.

Acceptance itself it’s such a powerful tool that reduces a lot the negative impact of some unfortunate happenings.

When we accept something that happens, we exit already the low vibrational vortex of victimization, whining, guilt, shame and other unnecessary emotions and feelings. If we truly accept something there’s no reason anymore to roam in what happened, we automatically step into the present moment and instead of asking ourselves how would it have been if we would have act or said something differently, – which is useless because that moment is gone, and there’s absolutely no reason to waste your time and energy accusing self or other/-s, trying to project potential other approaches – we should rather accept what happened. So once you have accepted, the “problem” is already half solved.

Working with own faults, distortions and programs is way easier when those flaws are brought to the surface by a certain life event or triggered by a person in your life. I remember that someone asked me: “Well but how do I work my crap out?”

The first step is noticing the existence of the “crap”, secondly you accept the fact that it is there inside yourself and that it is affecting your life, your decisions and the outcome of your actions. The worst mistake that we’ve all been through throughout our lives is to blame external actors (aggressors) and situations. Take full responsibility, there’s no other way. The third part is working with it. Accepting the responsibility for that character flaw (like victimization, narcissism, controlling nature, aggression, lying…) and be ready to watch with awareness that particular flaw (for the moment) and decide to consciously stop its influence in your life. One way of working with it would be to notice when was the first time that we remember a similar pain to the one that we’re experiencing in the present circumstance even if the events might look different and unrelated. Then we should start asking, like kids, “Why do I have this pain? Because I feel hurt. Why do I feel hurt? Because I did that. Why have I done that?”… and so on until you manage to get to the root of the problem. Probably it’s useless to repeat that this will not work unless a full openness and truthfulness to self is employed. Most likely the root cause of the problem is some misinterpretation of a childhood occurrence, an over-exaggerated perspective over that early experience. Or it can be even some very serious abuse, violation, violence or even small – totally silly for our mind now- events where we felt ashamed, guilty, abused, raped, betrayed, alone, deserted, sinful and so on… One way of transcending it is to consciously go in to that same situation and look at the actual event happening in front of you, you being the victim (as a child – in that moment) and you being an adult, now, a spectator to the whole drama. Feel that pain fully in your body, accept it if still there, because it will not go unless you are experiencing it fully, getting it exhausted. See it in a very detached way, forgive yourself and whoever was the trigger or aggressor, know that we are supposed to take full responsibility for everything that happens in our lives, and know that nobody is truly a victim. Know that you are lighter now, having a better chance to evolve out of your misery because of that event taking place. Hug that broken, hurt child that is suffering in the replayed memory, cry together if necessary, but then explain the child that everything that we are experiencing is necessary for our further growth and beyond everything that we’ve learned, everything is definitely correct and always in alignment with the Divine construct laws to which our lives abide as everything else in the Existence.

So keep always in mind the dual potential of whatever happens in your life and remember that it’s only us and our reactions to it that truly determines the outcome of that (otherwise neutral life circumstance). We are the only ones self-sabotaging our own lives by choosing always the same path, the old path that we know, the automatic response of the autopilot, the victimized perspective. Letting go with ease is crucial, it’s the choice that defines who we are at the moment. Surrender and let go of everything, embrace challenges, be always ready for change, embrace things that you used to run from, like facing problems, pains, hard work and struggle or new experiences that you would have passed in the past otherwise. In order for you to pick different fruits from your garden you have to definitely plant different trees. Old trees will invariably give the fruits that you already know. Without a new approach, everything will continue as previously, so there’s no one to blame for your life circumstances but yourself, your choices and past deeds. But “blaming” (as a choice of wording) can be misleading, so you shouldn’t even blame yourself. Don’t blame anyone, but instead take responsibility for everything and remember that the secret is in your actions or the lack of them, in what you say or what you don’t say. Study your own being and the knowledge that is scattered in millions of books and individuals, will be unfolding from within yourself with ease. It was always there hidden under tons of unnecessary junk that you started sorting out. You were always That which is the essence of everything surrounding us. Good luck with sorting that huge pile out, I got some crap to work with myself 😁.

When the hell breaks loose

The true evolution is continuous change. All life circumstances and events are in continuous movement. Karma is fastly paid and tests are arising more and more. When the yogi is close, the whole “hell” breaks loose..yet don’t be scared, it is only the inner negativity which comes to the surface to be worked with and eventually transcended.

On this path towards remembering who we are there’s no longer stability, whole worlds are created, and destroyed in minutes the entire Creation is revealed in front of us. The victimized will feel like doomed. The true seeker will realize that he’s learning so fast that the whole world is moving faster for him to clear the debris of the old and unnecessary in a brief period of time.

The price of evolution is continuous movement and “letting go”.

We are like in a cosmic washing machine, continuously spinning faster and faster until we either succumb to the trials and go back to the old or we find our inner peace which eventually will override and even cancel the external turmoil.

The worst of the storms is the biggest blessing. The hecticness of life is a test of the level of inner contentment, acceptance and true surrender.

Life seems more and more like a movie and the realization of its illusory nature is more and more revealed through the almost chaotic, intense ups and downs that push our boundaries to the very limit. In the midst of drama there’s a chance to realize that we are just too involved in the “movie” although we are the spectator, the actor, the director and the movie itself, and much beyond them all. Once this realization is taking place, the whole illusion collapses like dominoes and the true nature of self and the external world can be grasped.

Although this realization is very powerful and has the chance to totally shift our perspective about things, if the time is not yet right we might continue to wonder around to exhaust whatever we came here to exhaust. But that true realization is a seed of destruction that will grow more and more. It’s the very destruction of the ignorance, the disillusionment that we’ve been searching our entire existence and although we might waste some time on things that are not part of the newer paradigm growing inside of us, eventually we will wake up to realize the futility of chasing chimeras and decide to follow what’s eternal and true.

Cheer up dear souls, there’s not even one which eventually won’t come back to the Source, even after hundreds and hundreds of lives.

After all it’s nothing but a combination of determination, courage, simplicity, selflessness and inner purity that leads us to the real inner-contentment, the stillness that is who we truly are. We are all One, the only difference is timing which exists only in this experience. We are all perfect already in our Higher form, yet each individual has a different goal and that determines the length of the journey.

The desires are still keeping us prisoners to the duality, the very pleasure has in it embedded the pain. Hence love has in it the pain of loss, enjoyment of food, the hunger, and so on. Once we let go of everything the true (spiritual) eyes are slowly opening and we are allowed to see the illusion unfolding and its mechanisms are revealed.

We might still love, eat and enjoy life, but there will be no desire and no attachments that were keeping us from Being. Now everything will happen through Beingness, everything will come from the inner contentment that will annihilate the “good” or “bad” outcomes of our actions since there will be just a pure flow of your Being, unobstructed by desire to control this flow.

Perceiving life as it is

We, people are so ignorant about everything. We are perceiving everything through a very tiny opening through which we peek into the so called reality, yet we are literally unable to grasp the existence. So we are prone to misinterpret continuously the reality we’re living in by projecting old beliefs and understanding from past experiences into the present, so that the present is not at all “present” but some new experience with “past” flavors. Hence, the evolution is getting more and more limited as time goes by, that being the very reason why we perish.

Let’s take a look at our problems and things that we are not so happy about. It seems like we are in deep trouble, yet if we take a moment to contemplate about it, we might be surprised to find out that more than half of the planet’s population have worse experiences, and yet they might take it easier.

It is all about the inner perception about the world. So 2 people experiencing same experience will always feel it and interpret it in different ways.

I found something on the internet that said: “I was sad that I didn’t have shoes until I met a person without legs.” So it’s all about the way we perceive life and mostly we perceive life not only through past distortions and experiences but through comparison with others. Eventually we are living a terrible experience just because of our expectations and hopes. We are just unable to accept whatever comes our way with calm and taking everything as a new opportunity of inner growth and experience.

We are doomed, just because we are dreaming about pleasure and happiness. Because we are slaves to the senses, we are continuously looking for ways to entertain and “enjoy”, yet true enjoyment is in each moment of “Now”, each moment carries embedded the inner contentment, or the happiness that we are foolishly looking for outside. We are already there. Even in the moment of distress, if we manage to look at the things far from above, like watching a movie, we will realize that there’s nothing so tragic, nothing so traumatic. It’s just life, and the more there’s struggle, the more we are pushed by life towards understanding what life is about.

True spirituality is in the conscious experience of each moment of NOW, perceiving the most traumatic and the most pleasurable alike, as pure neutrality. Know that life is a continuous roller-coaster, a perpetual up and down cycle which we can’t stop or control. The only thing that we can change is ourselves and our wrong perception about life, a perception from the victimized and /or entitlement point of view.

Feel life deep inside yourself because there’s nothing outside of us which is not already existing inside. Flow with life, embrace challenges! Let your existence become a flow of your Being and the veils hiding Yourself from yourself will slowly vanish.

Are we aware in our personal life?

Can you love everyone just for existing exactly how you may love your own pet?
Do you love your favorite cat because is doing something or performing in a certain way or you just love her for who she truly is, regardless of the moments of destroying some objects furniture by scratching them, besides of the fact that it may scratch you or bite you? No matter how angry you are at a certain moment in time because of this happenings, eventually you will realize that it’s just an animal with its limitations, and you will forgive whatever like nothing happened.

If so why are you so rough with people, with your own partner, family members. Don’t they deserve at least the same treatment and maybe more? Why can’t you do that? Because you had certain expectations? Maybe it’s time to realize that it’s useless to have expectations if you are really dedicated to own evolution. Understanding the (lower) human nature, that everyone is impredictable, animal-like, unaware of others or self on a very deep level… The best solution to solve the problems and “dramas” is to accept whatever like you accept when the dog or the cat pooped on your favorite carpet. After all, everything is repairable, the carpet can be cleaned and washed or even replaced. What can it be so hard for us to accept others mistakes? Are we free of mistakes, or better to say, have we done it (the mishap) ourselves at any point in time? If so would you like to receive the same treatment that you are offering to the person that is at fault? If we take time before choosing to act in a certain manner, many of our problems wouldn’t exist.

If we are aware enough and honest with ourselves, we may able to recall moments when a big drama was created out of some really laughable(now) reason.

Some people divorced out of a so-called difference of opinion. It’s bullshit because if there’s love and full awareness in there, there can never be such a thing because people who love each other, compromise. And the funny thing is that they don’t even feel like compromising. But when love fades away the capacity of the person to compromise diminishes and the one who’s love diminished more will start putting pressure on the other, starting to “feel a foul smell” out of everything that the other is doing. If you are doing that can you really realize that you are a co-creator of your dramas? Are you able to be honest with yourself and realize that if you stop fueling the incipient “fire” (arguments, reproaches..), then the entire drama will disappear? If you are not able to stop yourself from adding fuel onto the fire by creating more pressure and discontentment, then why do you expect the other to do it?

I come back to one of my previous writings about nonviolence, whatever happens, if you manage to approach that in a non-violent way, you are the promoter of peace. If something goes wrong there are always multiple choices of reacting. The most common is: how dare you doing… Or… I thought you have more brain into your head not to do… Wtf is wrong with you… These are all ways of creating a monster scandal which many times degenerates in extreme violence or unfortunate events.
Another way of reaction can be: what’s done its done, let’s see how can we repair the problem, if there’s a way or not to undo it. You can choose to go with the “little self” which may push you to accuse, blame, shame the other, or you can choose to forgive, as you will forgive the dog that pooped under the kitchen table.

So the real question you should ask yourself is: Am I really the victim in here or I am the very aggressor? Many victims are first aggressors because they are unable to comprehend that they are co-creators of the whole thing. If you would calm yourself down and say intelligent things in a calm voice, trying to find solutions instead of blaming, there can be no drama whatsoever.

I read somewhere on the internet that: If the problem wouldn’t matter in 5 years from now on, then you shouldn’t give it more than 5 minutes of your time now.

Drama is addictive, you may unknowingly end up with wanting more, creating and/or feeding with your energy these conflicts, just because the love that was there, started to diminish or totally disappeared. No need to create anything. Realize that you have to either split with that partner, but not running away from life, or diving deep into the relationship, removing the desire to control, surrendering to life itself with the decision to try to make it work.

Your personal life behavior will always reflect onto your decisions in the society, so you may try to exercise your motherlike new way of approaching your family life, and eventually you will be able to apply it into the macro scale as well.

I wish you all readers to reach out to your maximum potential during this lifetime!

Live like there’s no tomorrow, Part II

This illusory life we’re living in is a constant emotional struggle. Stop struggling and you will be able to see the futility of reacting or fighting against it. It will be a straight parallel to Don Quijote’s fight against the wind mills.
Before working in the present moment, go to the past and recall one of the biggest issues that you experienced. See how it feels. Remember how it felt at the moment. Is it so unbearable as it felt in that moment? I doubt. But if yes, stay there with that feeling of pain, being hurt, betrayed, lied to, cheated, ashamed or guilty… Work with it, because the progress is for the courageous people. Evolution is hidden in the pain. Why would we want to evolve when we’re in a warm, cozy place? Pain is just the engine of transformation, be there with it, realize that there is nothing to be afraid anymore, realize that that moment in time created ripples that riches over and over to you and creates havoc in your life. Situations may look very different but the main emotion is same and it continues to milk you out of your vital force dragging you into the cave of sorrow and self-pity. You want to go there? Go. But there is no one to blame but your own insecurities and lack of courage that stops you from taking yourself out of the misery.

If there is no response or a very faint one when you go to the past trauma, just draw a parallel with all the stressful situations or mishaps that happen lately in your life. Do they look so bad when the moment is gone? No. Then the only task one has so far is to give whatever problem a short period of time, from 5 minutes to few days depending on the problem/issue, but by not reacting, that bad thing looses the power, if you don’t analyze nor fall into despair, you may realize shortly that it was just a bubble of soap. Nothing in the world is worth of exhausting our emotional energy. This energy is the same energy that keeps us alive in this illusionary world we’re living in.
Like a DSLR photo camera who is having a limited amount of clicks that is guaranteed, like a bulb which has a limited amount of on/off sequences, same, our body has a limited amount of emotional energy so far. You exhaust it, you’ll have to change the vehicle (next life’s body).

I struggled with my own demons a lot, trying to abstain myself from reacting to triggers. On a smaller scale I was successful, but when a big wave was coming, I was again caught off guard. Again back to square 1. But with the help of the Grace and some very special people in my life, I managed to raise again, dust my clothes and start climbing again like Sisyphus. But the difference between him and me is that I have a chance to make it through.
The secret to getting over whatever situation is realizing how short life is and that there may be no tomorrow.

This may be also misinterpreted by some, thinking that if there’s no tomorrow they can hurt people or decide not to do their chores, stop working or so. Well, I will have to disappoint you. Actually is doing everything you can to make sure that if you reach “tomorrow”, your job is amazingly done, nobody is hurt and so on, but reacting towards the issue as there is no tomorrow. Cause if there’s no tomorrow, if only the present day is what’s left, you will maybe concentrate on having a wonderful day with your family and friends,and you will want to let them know that you love them and you enjoy the beautiful time you have with them, and you will try to be at ease with everything and everyone. And no matter what problem you may encounter during this last day, nothing will really matter, isn’t it?
The constant projection into the future is killing us slowly, but there’s no doubt about that. Live in the present, since the past is gone and the future doesn’t exist. This is that “experience the moment of now” which everyone talks about. But do you dig it? Does it ring your bell? No? Maybe not yet, but this information which existed your whole life somewhere hidden inside you, will sprout out one day, of this life or one of the next. But what is in this moment of “now”? Is that firm, steady information deeply rooted in yourself that this life can be just a dream, a game, one of the many you already had, so all that matters is just the present moment! Yet we keep on stumbling over and over again, so we have to be born again and take it all over again. One life, you enjoy the richness and you get lost in it and you forget that there’s a higher meaning for you to find. The immediate next your Higher Self will want to be poor, because whatever you took extra, eventually has to be given back. The other life you enjoy being a political leader, a religious one, a killer, dictator, and the next life you may be a victim of one… Distraction for the soul. Until you will exhaust your thirst for power, this can take hundreds and thousands of lives. Same with the love for money. There’s no problem with the money, but they are only a way of sustaining a decent existence not a purpose “per se”. When they become a purpose, like an addiction, they destroy the addict like whatever addiction does in the end, no matter what addiction that can be, cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, TV, games, food, promiscuous sexuality… Yes, in the end there’s only one winner, the addiction. And here you go again, over and over on the same path, in a loop similar to the Sisyphus’s one. You may choose to stop now. Ask yourself if you want to become a better version of yourself and act upon this decision. Stop hurting people or this loop of unhappiness is going to haunt you throughout this and next lives. Forgive! Forgive yourself and everyone else. Love yourself and after you love yourself exactly how you are, without attire, titles, names, fancy clothes, diplomas, just who you truly are, and love for the humanity will come automatically coming from the realization of “We are all one”. Entitlement and righteousness is the main trap we are falling over and over again to, along with vengeance…They are all actions of a very low vibration. If we manage to transcend them, our life is going to take a turn which we are not even able to dream about.

May all of you have a chance to discover your Divinity within, and act wisely!

True love, a rare gem

Give people the freedom to be who they want to be, how they want to be, and with whom they want to be. Love doesn’t mean control. True love means total surrender to life and to the partner. Real love is devoid of possessiveness or jealousy. When we truly love someone, that true love is changing us and is pulling us “up”, out of the old idea of what “love” use to mean in the past, when the need to control the partner was part of the “normal love” characteristics, jealousy was seen as a result of love and possessiveness a sign of love and attachment.

Actually although it may interfere with your way of understanding love now, real love is the capacity of letting go of your lover(if needed) for the sake of their happiness. Whatever we have, be it things, people or any other things we are supposed to hold them with the open hand, not tight, but like we are holding a butterfly, without touching so we won’t damage and keeping the hand fully open so that they are free to leave whenever they feel like. This approach will create a current of positive energy that will bring you everything you need and will help you to lose all the pointless things and people.

Are you able to do it? It’s very hard, I know. Very hard because it’s so otherworldly that it doesn’t make any sense to anyone. Why? Because we are all players. Our own insecurity and lack of confidence, plus the lack of like-minded people that see the things the same way makes this task almost impossible. It’s unfortunate to project this kind of love onto unworthy people because they’re going to take advantage of us and use it against us. But so what? even if we do it , we did our best, we gave everything, if the love is genuine we’ll be happy for them that they found their happiness elsewhere. But if your love is not genuine why were you with them in the first place? If you did it with a person that wasn’t the right one, take it as a training that brings you close to perfection for the real soul mate.

Be selfless and taking everything lightly, with ease, patience and understanding. Your old player mind will say: “I told you, you and your sincerity and genuineness, look where they took you…” But don’t worry, the Universe has its way of balancing everything, you will find a more worthy partner. The real test of love comes when you are facing defeat, when you lost the person you think you love. Someone very dear to me once said: “If you are sinking, sink graciously…” Thank you dear for the wonderful teaching!, for me it became a very important thing to work with: learning to lose, since before learning to win anything one must learn how to lose.

In those moments thoughts of vengeance and violence arise in one’s mind. Where is the love? It is blinded by fear, of being alone, of being without the person that we were trying to be with (or to control). Love is letting go, with grace, with humbleness and with understanding. Let him/her go and if they are meant to be yours they’re going to be there with you or coming back soon. Isn’t it better to lose a person which is not destined to be with you? Why would you want to have someone who is not for you?

Offer what you want to receive! It works in love as well as in whatever part of life. You want sincerity? be sincere, you want honesty, freedom, understanding, peacefulness? then offer them yourself and you will be getting them back. It’s possible that it may not be from the same person, but then open yourself for knowing the real one, one that shares the same values that complements you, which completes you, and that understands love and life the exact way that you understand it. Although 100% compatibility may be an utopia, be ready to compromise, learn to let go of control and stop playing game of string in the relationship. When we truly love someone compromising doesn’t seem to be compromising at all, it’s just a natural flow of Being. Learn to sacrifice own stiffness for the flexibility of flowing in love and life.

The game of string is when you falsely let go of a person because you know that the reverse psychology will bring them to you, it is a lower level game, a game of control and deceit. Some play it on a smaller level, not answering messages or playing hard to get. Learn to be vulnerable in true love, but first make sure that the person that you are with it is “the one”. The one might be recognized by the “love at first sight”(although it’s not happening all the time) feeling or at least is how my intuition tells me that it has to be. At least the feeling of knowing him/her, or a deep feeling of like-mindedness should be there. It is not very often that one may feel that, of course being attracted and feeling of good chemistry may feel like it, yet it may not be.

The recognition of the real past connection, or a connection with a like-minded being is a relationship that is very nourishing but also very demanding, challenging and transformative, with lots of hard work from both side, but in the end the prize is the ultimate love, the perfect partnership. Are you ready to sacrifice old beliefs and stereotypes which delude people and transforms them into hypocrites that are hiding who they truly are, because they are afraid of losing their lover? Are you ready to remove desire to control, are you ready to surrender everything to the flow of life trusting it fully? Are you ready to accept to be vulnerable?

Who would you like the lover that you desire, to fall inlove with? With the role that you are playing, or with the real you? It works the same in physical, mental and spiritual level, why creating a version of yourself that the other may like? Show yourself with all the things that you may not be so proud of, but by exposing everything you don’t risk to lose the person afterwards, let them run now when it’s early, but if they don’t run, you got yourself a person who really love you for who you truly are.
Find out first, who you truly are since you were used to play role games your whole life, and then, expose yourself entirely. You will lose unnecessary people in the process, but it’s all part of the new You. Everything that is no longer important will disappear, it will dissolve by itself you will start attracting real like-minded people since you are no longer a hypocrite. Fake attracts fake and real attracts real. Be what you want to attract in your life 😉.

Don’t confuse being a cad with being free or expressing yourself. Being who you are is devoid of aggressiveness or show-off, no hidden agenda nor bad intentions. It is pure expression of self without fear, and without dissimulation.
Due to certain veils one of the factions may not be able to recognize the other as being the love of their life in potentiality, but patience, true love, understanding and humbleness may be a good approach to make them recognize you.

Dear readers, I wish to all of you that you find that soul mate, that real being which make you vibrate love and harmony, may your own metamorphosis from caterpillar to butterfly bring you the butterfly that you deserve.

Live like there’s no tomorrow

There is no tomorrow indeed. There’s a perpetual moment of now replicating itself over and over with just small variations. The main unchanging constant in this simple equation is consciousness, although it is eternally improving and evolving. Otherwise everything is perishable and illusory and all can end at any point.

I also have to give you the advice that I gave to myself, that helped me go through and above selfishness and other distortions of the consciousness: Do everything like being watched… Meaning when you serve, serve selflessly but with dedication like you would like to be served and even better, when you do whatever you will be doing, do it full heartedly and with dedication like someone is watching you and giving you grades according to your behavior. Whenever we allow our beings to go low, to go with animal instincts or lower programs that have virused our being, we risk our evolution, we risk of losing the path or taking it on a detour mode, detour which can be months, years, or even lives. It is very fulfilling ego-wise to go with one feelings of righteousness and entitlement, but the stronger these feelings, the harder is to experience true spiritual freedom, because these programs are veiling one’s true vision and the way one perceives life, creating a dark web which acts like a veil in front of our very eyes, which due to their limitation they may deceive even without the veil, but much more when these distortions are there in a veil form.

But now since I said about doing everything like being watched, I must remind you that you have to dance like nobody sees you. 🙂 The meaning is: be free in expressing yourself truly because real expression of one true self beyond victimization or righteousness, anger or any other emotion, helps one realize who he/she truly is. The world we’re living in is a world of chameleons, people without a true core, who do not even realize that they have no true goal or vision in life, they are just floating in a distorted way and going with whatever mainstream media, TV, or social programing are inoculating to us, dreaming about riches, having cars, houses, gadgets, kids and other mainstream ideas. We are a world of hypocrites trying to put down the one we consider low or wrong or inferior and praising the one who we fear or who shows more self-esteem, based on bookish knowledge and other devoid of real importance information for our further spiritual growth, and exit from this illusionary world.

We are constantly believing that the external world is bad or good according to our limited understanding about life, but the reality is that everything is just a projection of inner distortions that are deeply hidden in our DNA, the very Karma which gives us challenges and experiences which are supposed to help us understand and evolve beyond our limited way of perceiving the world we’re living in.

Trying to change people that surround us is just a silly attempt of a child. It’s the same like trying to destroy the wall socket with a hammer, because we introduced a needle in it and we got electrocuted. The socket does what it was designed to do, offer electricity, but it was us who plug the needle in. So who is to be blamed? The same goes for external triggers and stimuli (people) that bring “bad” experiences into our lives, they are just triggers. Trying to change the trigger is the same like trying to destroy the socket. Instead, try not to react to those buttons that are being pushed, try not to stick needles into wall sockets, and you won’t get electrocuted. Likewise stop reacting to people triggering you, take a different approach, learn the lesson that is to be learned and start growing out of old patterns because unless you manage to evolve out of them and transcend the old behavioral patterns, there can be no real evolution. As soon as one stops reacting to external triggers, the triggers will disappear from your life or stop affecting you, because their purpose has been met. It is a very hard way of evolving, because there is a need of truthfulness to ourselves and there is a need for huge doses of courage and sturdiness. Also huge amount of Grace through the Guru or other more evolved people than us in our lives is required, to be able to walk over the ocean of Samsara(life that we know made of illusion and ignorance).

May all of you who are dedicated to finding your true self, be blessed to find That and may you recognize the power inside yourself and overcome past distortions which were obstructing your way!

Stop being too serious

By being too serious you transform everything that happens into your life in a worse version of what it is already.

Learn to laugh in the face of problems. Take it easy and remember that everything is an illusion, extremely well elaborated, but still a mirage. First of all our 5 senses are too limited for us to properly understand the realm that we are living in, in a way closer to what it really is.

Our mind is always completing the fragmentary picture that the senses transmit and the missing parts are just invented, and projected according to previous experiences or memories. So whatever we may think we know, see, feel, taste, smell it’s either partially or totally counterfeited by the mind. So let’s enjoy life diverting our attention from what may be wrong, let’s learn to smile and enjoy life as it is, accepting whatever comes our way with ease, and with a broad smile on our faces.

Too much seriousness comes from rigidity and stiffness and I would like to quote Lao Tzu- Tao Te Ching chapter 76:

“The living are soft and yielding;
the dead are rigid and stiff.
Living plants are flexible and tender;
the dead are brittle and dry.

Those who are stiff and rigid
are the disciples of death.
Those who are soft and yielding
are the disciples of life.

The rigid and stiff will be broken.
The soft and yielding will overcome.”

I feel like saying “Amen to that” 😂.

So take everything with a pinch of love and smiles, let go of control, since control it’s only an illusion and we can’t control anything but our own behavior, and even that not fully since we are slaves of addictions, needs, desires, predigested informations fed to us previously, and we’re lacking awareness.

Of course, there are moments when we need to be serious, but even then let’s not exagerate and even if externally we look serious, let’s smile continuously inside, knowing who we are and that we are experiencing and that is all a game, but a game in which we have to immerse fully adapting to the game rules but bringing in, a touch of freedom and nonconformism that slowly slowly can influence the outcome of the game and the rest of the players.

Whenever you feel disappointed, down, depressed or just bored, come back to read this article again and you’ll refresh, removing the clouds from your sky!